Would you bring your young child to a wake?

DH thinks we should bring our 11 month old son to his cousin's wake. I just don't think it's appropriate to bring a baby to a wake or funeral. I mean unless (knock on wood) it was for one of his aunts, uncles or grandparent. But other than that why bring them? I mean I can understand the children of the deceased being there because DH's cousin had a 1 year old and 3 year old so I can understand them being there.

Does my son really need to be there? It's not a happy occasion. One of DH's brothers is not bringing his kids and he has a 1 year old, a 12 year old and a 14 year old. So he has older kids and he's not bringing them. So why would I bring an 11 month old to a wake? Is it just me. DH was like "I want Matty to see his cousin since he's never met him" So we introduce them at a wake??? We can tell him about Cousin carl and show him pictures. Ummm I'm sorry I'm not ready to show my son a body in a casket, he's too young to be seeing these things. When he's a little older yes but not now.

Plus my mom said she'll watch DS.

Message edited 5/8/2007 12:38:28 PM.

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No reason for your son to attend the wake~

Message edited 5/8/2007 12:41:00 PM.

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No reason for him to be there.

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I wouldn't bring him. Sorry about your loss

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i would not bring my child to the wake.

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I don't see how it would be harmful to your son, just simply distracting for you if you have to watch him when you'd like to be paying your respects.

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I brought Alyssa to my grandmas wake 4 weeks ago, and she was fine. Honestly it helped my mom through the whole process, she would even smile in between tears when She held Alyssa.

When my brother past away 3 years ago, my SIL brought my nephew and he was only 6 weeks and again another baby there to give my mom a smile.

Sorry again for your loss

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My cousin brought her daughter (who was about 9 months at the time) to her grandmothers wake and that was literally because the entire family was there and she had no one to watch her. She lives in Westchester and the wake was in LI so it was just impossible.

I think if you have someone to watch your son then I wouldn't bring him, but I think at that age if you did bring him he wouldn't get what was going on anyway!

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I don't see anything wrong with bringing him. But, if you have someone to watch him, then I would leave him.

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First...sorry for your loss. DHs grandfather died 2 weeks ago. I stayed home with our 6 month olds...I felt that the wake and funeral were no place for babies. Everyone there asked for us and wished we were there, but we felt it best if we kept them home...for everyone's sake

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sorry for the loss...no I wouldnt bring him..JMO

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If you have a babysitter than I wouldn't bring him.I have to bring my son to wakes because we don't have backup childcare. He has been to numerous wakes unfortunately.

I am so sorry for your loss.

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JMO but no i would not bring him.

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I would bring him.

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I( wouldn't bring him either

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If I had someone to watch DD I would not bring her.

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I've done it when I've had no other alternative, but I would never do it again if I had the option not to.

My boys are mostly well behaved, but they were still a huge distraction to people who obviously had other things on their minds.

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I would bring him. Sorry for your loss

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So sorry for your loss. No I would not bring my DS. SIL always brings her kids to funeral homes and it never sat well with me. They want to play as children do!, and it might seem a tad distracting to people who are grieving, especially if this was an unexpected loss . SIL is also the type who lets them run rampant and play next to the center aisle near the casket though...

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sorry for your loss- but I was not even allowed to go to wakes or funerals until I was 21 and my grandpa died