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Salason
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Re: Would you go away for a week w/your DH
Posted by EricaAlt
I don't think I can do a week, but the longest maybe 4 or 5 days.
I WFT so when I have time off I love to spend it with the family. I feel like the week is so nuts and rushed as is. I'd feel guilty working a full week then not seeing DS for a whole week.
I went away over a weekend and then took a couple of days off after to have some mommy and Mason time.
ETA - I would trust my parents and IL's 100% to watch him though
Same here. I have severe working mom guilt and the longest we've done is 2 days and then I took a day off after to spend time with DS. Once we were there we enjoyed the time together and felt completely comfortable with DS being at my mom's but the guilt/dread I felt leading up to it probably wasnt worth it for me. Hopefully at some point, I'll get over it because it's probably not healthy 
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Re: Would you go away for a week w/your DH
We are doing it for the first time to celebrate our wedding anniversary. I know I am going to be a nervous wreck leaving but I am going to do my best to enjoy myself.
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| Posted 4/21/11 9:39 AM |
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mamabear
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Re: Would you go away for a week w/your DH
Posted by nycgirl
Nope.
I just believe once you have kids... they are part of your family & that's it. I bring DS everywhere... really everywhere.
But, it's a personal thing.
this is me, too.
DH is not quite the same. he would like a vacation with me, without them. I can't do it. I'd be willing to bring my parents on vacation so that they can watch DDs for a few hours at a time and we could have some couple time, but that's about as much as I could handle.
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| Posted 4/21/11 9:40 AM |
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Kissy331
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Re: Would you go away for a week w/your DH
I did but it was only for 5 days. We went when our boys were 13 months & 2.5 months old. We left them with my parents in our house while we were in the DR. For us, it was a company sponsored trip & we could not change the time we went. After all I went through with #2 being a preemie, I needed that time awy. We missed the boys terribly & called home a lot but it was great to get away with just DH & I since the last time we did that was our HM in 2006. I would do it again in a heartbeat.
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| Posted 4/21/11 9:41 AM |
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DRMom
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Re: Would you go away for a week w/your DH
Realistically we could never do it because both my IL's work, my Dad lives in NY and my Mom is not physiacally able to care for them, but if available heck yeah!
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| Posted 4/21/11 9:42 AM |
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annoyedTTCer
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Re: Would you go away for a week w/your DH
Yep, leaving DS with my folks while we attend a wedding in Belize.
We'll be gone 5 days, 4 nights
He'll be 18 months when we go away.
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| Posted 4/21/11 9:45 AM |
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GioiaMia
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Re: Would you go away for a week w/your DH
I would, I wouldnt start off with a week though.
Once I am done pumping, I want to do a long weekend first - see how that goes and then try for a week.
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| Posted 4/21/11 9:45 AM |
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wcs3504
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Re: Would you go away for a week w/your DH
Yes we would. I would probably emotionally be a wreck but I definitely want to and plan to at a minimum a 4 night vaca of just DH and I. I would wait until DC#2 was in a routine and STTN before doing so though.
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LovingLife
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Re: Would you go away for a week w/your DH
I did - while on maternity leave my husband booked a trip to Jamaica- I went crying hysterical....but it was the best thing for me!!!! I slept so gooooood!! I had not slept well during the last few months of pregnancy and home with a newborn sleep was non existent!
I returned so refreshed and ready to conquer the world - well ready for the sleepless nights and the demands of work and home with a baby.
DS was almost 3 months - I wasn't breast feeding (didn't produce milk) and he stayed in my house with my mom.
This time we can't afford to go away but will be taking a weekend to get away right before I return to work.
I also take a week for our anniversary every year since. I am leaving next week to Mexico for our anniversary/baby moon without DS.....
My son always stays with my mother in our home.
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Re: Would you go away for a week w/your DH
Posted by Dulcinea
No, I would feel like I've placed a big burden on my parents by doing so.
. Exactly. I would never ask this of my parents EVER. Not so I could get away on a vaca with my DH. I trust my parents 100% but I just think 1 week to watch MY kids is excessive and quite nervey. Maybe a weekend but definitely not a whole week. Its just how "I" feel
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Re: Would you go away for a week w/your DH
No I think that seems extremely excessive IMO. I could never. 2 days or 3 days at max.
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GioiaMia
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Re: Would you go away for a week w/your DH
SO funny, I didn't even think about it being a burden on our parents. I have to say that my MIL and FIL would be SO HAPPY if we did this, LOL
And my parents would love to do it too, even though they watch DD all day for me now.
That's not even an issue. The issue would be me and my own psychosis but I do have to get over it soon anyway!
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Re: Would you go away for a week w/your DH
We did this already. We went to Mexico for 5 days when DD was 8 1/2 months. My mother was so excited to watch her for that time. I had a few moments on the trip where I was really upset, but I got to talk to my mom every night which made it easier. DH and I had such a great time that it was completely worth it. I truly believe that you have to continually work on your marriage to be a better parent to your children. That vacation was exactly what DH and I needed!
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| Posted 4/21/11 9:55 AM |
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lvdolphins
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Re: Would you go away for a week w/your DH
I don't think for a week! A long weekend, yes, but, not a whole week.
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Dulcinea
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Re: Would you go away for a week w/your DH
Posted by brownie
Posted by Dulcinea
No, I would feel like I've placed a big burden on my parents by doing so.
What if they were fine w/it, almost insisted upon it? And your DC was in daycare for part of the time too.
And if I trust them to give the best care to my DC, then yes I would book my trip in a heartbeat! :D
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2PreciousBlessings
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Re: Would you go away for a week w/your DH
OF COURSE!!! I would have no problem leaving my kids with my parents and DH parents...why not.
And both set of grandparents would love it.
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MarisaK
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Re: Would you go away for a week w/your DH
Probably not for a whole week -
I trust my parents completely, but I'd feel too guilty taking a whole week off of work and not spending ANY of that time w/ my kids -
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| Posted 4/21/11 10:18 AM |
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mnmsoinlove
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Re: Would you go away for a week w/your DH
I couldn't but I admit I'm nuts when it comes to dd. I recently just said no to a wedding in Boston because we would need to stay overnight! I'm.just not ready to do that I doubt I ever will!
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Bridex100
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Re: Would you go away for a week w/your DH
Absolutely!
When DS#1 was younger, both DH and I had super demanding jobs and we missed DS so much when we did go away. Every spare second I had, I wanted to spend with DS. I think I lost a little bit of myself by doing this because all I did was work and spend limited time with DS.
Now that I am on indefinite maternity leave and DH will have much better hours and tons of vacation time, we plan to do lots of vacations with and without the kids. I don't think I'd feel guilty at all, especially since the kids are so comfortable with the grandparents.
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hazeleyes33
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Re: Would you go away for a week w/your DH
My kids are older so YES!!!
We did leave our kids with my mom when they were 8 and 3 when we won a cruise for 2 
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Dani520
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Re: Would you go away for a week w/your DH
Yes we have and I would do it again! Last year we went to an all inclusive in Mexico when DS was 2. My mom does not work and my dad runs his own business so his hours are really flexible. DS LOVES being with them and they adore him and love being with him as well. I trust them 200% with everything and did not worry about him once! Of course I missed him like crazy, but it was so nice to get away with DH and relax and reconnect!
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Re: Would you go away for a week w/your DH
We have done it every year for the past 3 years - taken a week off to go away just the two of us (twice to Hawaii, onceto Greece). Plus we do a few overnighters or long weekends every other month. Have always left my son with my mom, who watches him every day for us as well. Never gave it a second thought. There is no one I trust more - even more than myself sometimes. Plus my mom loooooves it as does our son. 
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MrsA714
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Re: Would you go away for a week w/your DH
Posted by Tilde
SO funny, I didn't even think about it being a burden on our parents. I have to say that my MIL and FIL would be SO HAPPY if we did this, LOL
And my parents would love to do it too, even though they watch DD all day for me now.
That's not even an issue. The issue would be me and my own psychosis but I do have to get over it soon anyway!
This is totally me as well  . In fact, we are taking a family vacay to the Caribbean soon and MIL has already mentioned to me a few times that we should just leave DD with her. She watches her during the week and will miss her. I never would think of her being a burden though.
I could see us eventually going away without DD but I think I would have to gradually build up to a week's time. Maybe a day or two here and maybe 4 or 5 days after that. But a week would be too hard for me right now I think (DD is 18 mos).
ETA: My mother even recently told me that it is important for DH and I to get away on our own (even if just for a night) from time to time. Growing up, we traveled a lot as a family - Europe, the Caribbean, all over the US - and it was great. But my mother said that looking back, she always thinks that she and my father should have gone away on their own once in a while too. She said it was always about the kids but once in a while it has to be about a husband and wife too.
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Lara&Aidansmommy
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Re: Would you go away for a week w/your DH
The issue is more with me,my inlaws would love to watch her for a week. I couldnt leave my dd for a week.
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| Posted 4/21/11 10:50 AM |
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JenBenMen
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Re: Would you go away for a week w/your DH
I did 2 weeks in Italy when my DS was 14 months old
it was the best trip ever and i am so glad i did it since it wont ever happen again
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