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Bridex100
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Re: Would you miss an important family
I would go but I wouldn't bring the baby with me. Your aunt can see the baby another time.
Or you can just stop by and leave super early. That way you can just make an appearance and hopefully your baby won't be too cranky.
DS has never slept past 9:30 latest. I wouldn't keep him out longer than that.
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shapla79
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Re: Would you miss an important family
I wouldn't miss it. Then again, DS is known to conk out anywhere. He usually passes out in his stroller at bedtime whenever we attend evening parties or get togethers.
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| Posted 7/21/09 5:09 PM |
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Hofstra26
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Re: Would you miss an important family
Personally, I wouldn't miss it. One night being off schedule is not the end of the world. I feel like you have to live your life and enjoy! The baby will be fine in the end. We took our DD to my Gram's 80th bday party which started at 7 pm and she was only about 7-8 weeks old at the time. She survived! 
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| Posted 7/21/09 6:05 PM |
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JenBenMen
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Re: Would you miss an important family
Posted by Diana1215
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A few things:
How old is the baby?
Who's 50th party is it in relation to you?
What time is the party?
Can you get a sitter?
ETA: I don't normally bring my son to evening parties, generally because he would be a lunatic - so anything after 7pm we get a sitter for. My inlaws did have a 50th anniversary party - Jack was young - about 3 months old, and he did come to that with us. For any other family members though we get a sitter so that we can enjoy ourselves!
1.Baby is 6 months old.
2.The party is for my aunt. She really wants the baby to come.
3.Party starts at 8pm. We would stay for a little bit.
4.We could get a sitter,if we needed to.
In all honesty - your aunt isn't going to be the one dealing with a cranky baby. If it was your parents or inlaws I would say take him but it's not. Also - 8pm is a very late start - I know my son would have had 12 meltdowns before the party even began.
I say get a sitter and enjoy yourselves! Have a nice night out! 
i agree...i have done both and without the baby is the way to go
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| Posted 7/21/09 6:08 PM |
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hbugal
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Re: Would you miss an important family
I guess alot depends upon how important scheduling and routine is to you. As well as the flexibility of the child.
We arent very big on schedule around here although we do have a pretty set routine. We have found that, for the most part, as long as we keep the routine relatively the same then things are good.
If this were my family I would definitely take the child....
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itsbabytime
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Re: Would you miss an important family
I'm a stickler when it comes to DS's schedule however, I always make exceptions for family parties - whether it means skipping a nap, putting DS to bed hours later or even waking him up early. These things are the important things in life - i feel like a few days of getting bk on schedule won't kill us - I won't lie, sometimes I kick myself the next day but I always do it again 
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| Posted 7/21/09 6:28 PM |
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Diana1215
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Re: Would you miss an important family
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I would rather bring the baby than get a sitter. I would have much more anxiety about a sitter watching my infant than bringing said infant to a family party in a snap and go. If he acts up, bring him for a walk. If that doesn't work,, give everyone kisses and say goodnight.
I'm not talking about a stranger watching her child, another family member - or close friend?
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dm24angel
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Re: Would you miss an important family
at 6 months, no I wouldnt miss it. I would do what I could to stick to the schedule, but one night to me means nothing in the scheme of things, the memories mean more and I would deal with the consequences if need be ( cranky baby etc).
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KangaMom
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Re: Would you miss an important family
No, DC goes everywhere with us
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Tine73
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Re: Would you miss an important family
Posted by Hofstra26
Personally, I wouldn't miss it. One night being off schedule is not the end of the world. I feel like you have to live your life and enjoy! The baby will be fine in the end. We took our DD to my Gram's 80th bday party which started at 7 pm and she was only about 7-8 weeks old at the time. She survived!
ITA!
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| Posted 7/21/09 7:32 PM |
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Re: Would you miss an important family
I would go. You can never get those events back. One night off the routine, big deal. For our family, we could never live tied to a routine like that. That is why I never started that type of thing from the beginning. Doesn't work with our lifestyle. I could never be a prisoner in my home.
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MrsRbk
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Re: Would you miss an important family
Only she knows her baby the best, but see, sometimes it's not about suffering the consqueces. For example, my daughter will not sleep anywhere but her crib, when she's tired she's tired, but will refuse sleep anywhere, she gets herself SO worked up that she breaks out in hives because she is inconsolable. IMO, not worth the stress on DD or myself. We missed my sisters entire fellowship graduation from Schnieders Childrens Hospital. It was a big deal for my sister, we were there, but I spent the entire 4 hours trying to console my hysterical WAAAAAAAAAAY overtired baby, who will not sleep in my arms, the stroller, the car seat, etc....And that was just during the day, not even at bedtime.
Again, to the OP, only you know your child best. If you think that your DS will be fine, then one night deviating from a schedule isn't going to hurt, but if YOU are going to be stressed and miserable because your child is, then I would either get a sitter or stay home.
We have SO many kids in our family, young ones at that, that all our family events are during the afternoon.
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Palebride
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Re: Would you miss an important family
I wouldn't go. When Lily was that age, schedule was really important to her, and she needed to be in bed by a certain time, or she would be miserable. We chose not to make her miserable if it wasn't absolutely necessary. The one time we kept her out past her bedtime was for my brother's wedding...and even then, we left early because she was getting cranky. She isn't the kind of kid that can fall asleep and be transferred to the crib.
8 is a little late to start a party, and people have to be understanding of a baby's sleep.
You know your baby though....do what you think is right!
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| Posted 7/21/09 8:40 PM |
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munchkinbugs
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Re: Would you miss an important family
Posted by Diana1215
Posted by nrvbrd
Posted by Diana1215
A few things:
How old is the baby?
Who's 50th party is it in relation to you?
What time is the party?
Can you get a sitter?
ETA: I don't normally bring my son to evening parties, generally because he would be a lunatic - so anything after 7pm we get a sitter for. My inlaws did have a 50th anniversary party - Jack was young - about 3 months old, and he did come to that with us. For any other family members though we get a sitter so that we can enjoy ourselves!
1.Baby is 6 months old.
2.The party is for my aunt. She really wants the baby to come.
3.Party starts at 8pm. We would stay for a little bit.
4.We could get a sitter,if we needed to.
In all honesty - your aunt isn't going to be the one dealing with a cranky baby. If it was your parents or inlaws I would say take him but it's not. Also - 8pm is a very late start - I know my son would have had 12 meltdowns before the party even began.
I say get a sitter and enjoy yourselves! Have a nice night out!
ITA...DD would also go bonkers if I kept her up much past 8 pm. Get a sitter and have fun!
ETA When I say sitter, I mean family member. Maybe someone from DH's side. I have never had a stranger watch DD.
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Re: Would you miss an important family
If DS was able to sleep in his stroller then yes. If it was going to prevent DS from sleeping then no. I cannot stop my kid from sleeping. Totally unfair to him! Otherwise I say, get a sitter.
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DancinBarefoot
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Re: Would you miss an important family
Before last weekend I would have said suck it up it's only one night - but, after doing just that, my answer is miss the family event or get a baby sitter.
Last weekend, as a result of DD not getting to bed at her normal time (or within reasonable limits) she woke up 2 hours after she went down, and screamed for an hour, then fell asleep for 1/2 hour, then woke and screamed for an hour etc, until 7 AM. Then she spent the entire next day whining about every little thing, and if she wasn't whining she was throwing a tantrum. This went on until she got her regularly scheduled nap.
So, for me personally, I would not go through that again, and will make sure in the future that DD gets into her own bed no more than 1/2 hour after her regularly scheduled bed time.
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Diana1215
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Re: Would you miss an important family
Posted by MrsRbk
Only she knows her baby the best, but see, sometimes it's not about suffering the consqueces. For example, my daughter will not sleep anywhere but her crib, when she's tired she's tired, but will refuse sleep anywhere, she gets herself SO worked up that she breaks out in hives because she is inconsolable. IMO, not worth the stress on DD or myself. We missed my sisters entire fellowship graduation from Schnieders Childrens Hospital. It was a big deal for my sister, we were there, but I spent the entire 4 hours trying to console my hysterical WAAAAAAAAAAY overtired baby, who will not sleep in my arms, the stroller, the car seat, etc....And that was just during the day, not even at bedtime.
Again, to the OP, only you know your child best. If you think that your DS will be fine, then one night deviating from a schedule isn't going to hurt, but if YOU are going to be stressed and miserable because your child is, then I would either get a sitter or stay home.
We have SO many kids in our family, young ones at that, that all our family events are during the afternoon.
ITA! My nephew is the same age as Jack and a very go-with the flow type of child. Jack never was.
I also don't consider it being a prisoner if I leave my son home with a babysitter like PP's said. If I am out with my husband, and my family - I don't understand how I'm a prisoner? I do PLENTY of things with my son - all day long - and even into the night. I would feel like more of a prisoner if I had to run after a screaming toddler and not enjoy myself at a party. I'm not one of those moms that needs to tote my kids everywhere though. I like to have some adult time without him!
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