WWYD: friend has a nanny situation

I just got an email from a friend asking advice on the situation. Here is the excerpt from her email describing the issue:

"The other day I realized that she used up one of my “beauty” products that I kept under my bathroom sink. It was a big bottle and I only used it a couple of times long time ago. I found it completely empty still sitting there on the shelf. I am thinking that the nanny probably thought I was using it on a regular basis and if she was too I would not notice and would think that I used it all up. However, I did not use it for a long time.

I am also sensing she’s been using my night cream. Even though I use on a regular basis, it is disappearing rather quickly….

My question is – do you confront the nanny about this? And if you do, how to do that right?"

I didn't reply to her yet, I am not actually sure how I would handle the situation at all. I figured, the moms on here would be able to give me ideas! So, what do you guys think?

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Honestly, I would buy a deadbolt and lock my bathroom and bedroom door when I leave. This will more then likely cause the nanny to question why and she can explain she is noticing some of her beauty products are going missing and she isn't sure what is going on. This opens it up for the nannny to spill or to at least know that mom is on to her.

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I kind of feel like this is someone you are trusting with your kids.. I would think the one product wouldn't be a problem since she didn't use it anyway. I would confront nanny and say I noticed you might be using my products and I'd really prefer you didnt. I would think nanny will apoligize and it won't be an issue anymore.

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This is going to sound so weird...but I laughed when reading this.
At 14, 15, and 16 I was a fulltime nanny for a family during the summers.
I slept there 2 nights a week and spent 5-6 days at their house.
When the girls were napping or playing and I would use the bathroom, I thought absolutely nothing of using their moms facial cleansers. I would have sunscreen on my face from the pool...so i would wash it off using her stuff.

Reading this...I wonder if I was driving her crazy...she is my friend on facebook, I am tempted to ask

I would also use her hair stuff...I waited tables 2 nights a week....so to save on time, after the pool, i would wet my hair and use her products before going to work.

If it really bothers her, I guess she should bring it up. But it just doesn't seem like that big of a deal.

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Thank you, girls!

I think I personally would go with the idea of locking the bathroom cabinet. I feel like it really makes a point without an actual open confrontation. It's just such a weird conversation to have.

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Is she using the products in a master bathroom? If so, that would probably bother me. If she's just using them in the "main" bathroom, I wouldn't have a problem with it.

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Is this the master bathroom ? Like, attached to the bedroom type of master bathroom? If so, I'd be annoyed she was using my stuff AND going into my bathroom which IMO is unnecessary -

IMO putting a lock on the cabinet is passive - agressive. If she has an issue w/ it, she should confront her about it - this is someone you're trusting in your home all day w/ your kids - KWIM?

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Posted by Janice

This is going to sound so weird...but I laughed when reading this.
At 14, 15, and 16 I was a fulltime nanny for a family during the summers.
I slept there 2 nights a week and spent 5-6 days at their house.
When the girls were napping or playing and I would use the bathroom, I thought absolutely nothing of using their moms facial cleansers. I would have sunscreen on my face from the pool...so i would wash it off using her stuff.

Reading this...I wonder if I was driving her crazy...she is my friend on facebook, I am tempted to ask

I would also use her hair stuff...I waited tables 2 nights a week....so to save on time, after the pool, i would wet my hair and use her products before going to work.

If it really bothers her, I guess she should bring it up. But it just doesn't seem like that big of a deal.

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I probably would just move the products to a bathroom she didn't have access to or to my bedroom.

If they still go missing, then it's an issue because she's going somewhere she shouldn't.

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Honestly, in the grand scheme of things, this is NOT a big deal.

Tell your friend to go and move the stuff out of the bathroom and no longer put items in there.. PROBLEM SOLVED.

I wouldn't go and start an argument or fire my nanny (who I'm assuming is good with the kids?) over using my beauty products