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BeachMom
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WWYD? Questionable xmas card pic
So we just got a christmas card in the mail and my older DD is like "isn't that cousin X naked. OMG. doesn't Aunt C realize that your're not supposed to send out naked pic's of your kids. There are internet people taking kids pics and sending them all over. They told us in school not to ever do this."
So i tried to explain to her what the pic was and she started telling us all about the people who come in to talk to them about computer safety and picture posting and whatever in school(she's 9). So she want's to call up Aunt C and tell her what she learned in school.
The last time we talked to Aunt C about not sending nude pics through texts she got all witchy and self-righteous? Would you still let your DD call her, (even though you will ultimatly get blamed anyways?)
Or how can i explain this to my DD considering she thinks the pics are absolutly horrible and her cousin will be sooo mad at his mom when he grows up?
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Re: WWYD? Questionable xmas card pic
I think it depends on how old the kid is. If the kid is 1 or younger, consider it baby cute. (Whether you approve or not) 1-2, very questionable, 3 or older, not good.
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| Posted 12/8/10 9:05 PM |
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SHOPAHOLIC
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Re: WWYD? Questionable xmas card pic
I don't think your 9 year old DD has any place calling up her AUNT and lecturing her - EVEN if she is right. Do not get your child involved. If you have a problem with it, then you call her up and address it.
Let your daughter know that you will call up the Aunt and let her know how you all feel about the pictures.
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| Posted 12/8/10 9:06 PM |
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Re: WWYD? Questionable xmas card pic
Posted by SHOPAHOLIC
I don't think your 9 year old DD has any place calling up her AUNT and lecturing her - EVEN if she is right. Do not get your child involved. If you have a problem with it, then you call her up and address it.
Let your daughter know that you will call up the Aunt and let her know how you all feel about the pictures.
ITA-how old is the child in the picture?
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| Posted 12/8/10 9:07 PM |
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Posted by SHOPAHOLIC
I don't think your 9 year old DD has any place calling up her AUNT and lecturing her - EVEN if she is right. Do not get your child involved. If you have a problem with it, then you call her up and address it.
Let your daughter know that you will call up the Aunt and let her know how you all feel about the pictures.
agreed
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| Posted 12/8/10 9:07 PM |
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waterspout4
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Re: WWYD? Questionable xmas card pic
Posted by SHOPAHOLIC
I don't think your 9 year old DD has any place calling up her AUNT and lecturing her - EVEN if she is right. Do not get your child involved. If you have a problem with it, then you call her up and address it.
Let your daughter know that you will call up the Aunt and let her know how you all feel about the pictures.
ITA too!
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| Posted 12/8/10 9:07 PM |
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twicethefun
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Re: WWYD? Questionable xmas card pic
Posted by SHOPAHOLIC
I don't think your 9 year old DD has any place calling up her AUNT and lecturing her - EVEN if she is right. Do not get your child involved. If you have a problem with it, then you call her up and address it.
Let your daughter know that you will call up the Aunt and let her know how you all feel about the pictures.
I disagree. We are talking about the child's aunt who loves her not just anyone. I would love to receive a call like that from my nieces or nephews. I enjoy listening to their opinions and realizing how big they have become.
I also try to teach my kids to stand up for what they believe is right so yes I would let them make that call. And if I received a call like it I would be very receptive...but I do not send out naked pics of my kids LOL so maybe they can lecture me about something else.
But then again my kid's aunts may be different than your kid's aunts.
Message edited 12/8/2010 9:16:27 PM.
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| Posted 12/8/10 9:12 PM |
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BeachMom
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Re: WWYD? Questionable xmas card pic
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Posted by SHOPAHOLIC
I don't think your 9 year old DD has any place calling up her AUNT and lecturing her - EVEN if she is right. Do not get your child involved. If you have a problem with it, then you call her up and address it.
Let your daughter know that you will call up the Aunt and let her know how you all feel about the pictures.
agreed
Ok, maybe i wrote something wrong, but it's my DD that's offended, not me. To each his own, but in school they are teaching them all about predators and she's worried for her cousin.
The boy is just under 3.
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| Posted 12/8/10 9:15 PM |
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SHOPAHOLIC
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Posted by twicethefun
Posted by SHOPAHOLIC
I don't think your 9 year old DD has any place calling up her AUNT and lecturing her - EVEN if she is right. Do not get your child involved. If you have a problem with it, then you call her up and address it.
Let your daughter know that you will call up the Aunt and let her know how you all feel about the pictures.
I disagree. We are talking about the child's aunt who loves her not just anyone. I would love to receive a call like that from my nieces or nephews. I enjoy listening to their opinions and realizing how big they have become.
I also try to teach my kids to stand up for what they believe is right so yes I would let them make that call. And if I received a call like it I would be very receptive...but I do not send out naked pics of my kids LOL so maybe they can lecture me about something else.
After this line - " The last time we talked to Aunt C about not sending nude pics through texts she got all witchy and self-righteous? Would you still let your DD call her, (even though you will ultimatly get blamed anyways?)"
I think it would be irresponsible to get a child involved.
But I also find it to be disrespectful to be lectured by a 9 year old and would never allow my children to do it to anyone.
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| Posted 12/8/10 9:16 PM |
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Re: WWYD? Questionable xmas card pic
Personally, I think having your DD call her aunt is inappropriate. It's simply just not a child's place to make such a call. I think it's GREAT for you to have a conversation with your DD about the issue, but her calling her aunt is stepping over the line, IMO.
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| Posted 12/8/10 9:17 PM |
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Posted by BeachMom
Posted by waiting4ablessing
Posted by SHOPAHOLIC
I don't think your 9 year old DD has any place calling up her AUNT and lecturing her - EVEN if she is right. Do not get your child involved. If you have a problem with it, then you call her up and address it.
Let your daughter know that you will call up the Aunt and let her know how you all feel about the pictures.
agreed
Ok, maybe i wrote something wrong, but it's my DD that's offended, not me. To each his own, but in school they are teaching them all about predators and she's worried for her cousin.
The boy is just under 3.
If your not offended then I would drop it.
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waterspout4
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Re: WWYD? Questionable xmas card pic
Posted by BeachMom
Posted by waiting4ablessing
Posted by SHOPAHOLIC
I don't think your 9 year old DD has any place calling up her AUNT and lecturing her - EVEN if she is right. Do not get your child involved. If you have a problem with it, then you call her up and address it.
Let your daughter know that you will call up the Aunt and let her know how you all feel about the pictures.
agreed
Ok, maybe i wrote something wrong, but it's my DD that's offended, not me. To each his own, but in school they are teaching them all about predators and she's worried for her cousin.
The boy is just under 3.
I see what you are saying. Would she normally call her aunt for other things?
Butt pic or more? Anything more than butt is just too much for me.
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Re: WWYD? Questionable xmas card pic
Posted by SHOPAHOLIC
Posted by twicethefun
Posted by SHOPAHOLIC
I don't think your 9 year old DD has any place calling up her AUNT and lecturing her - EVEN if she is right. Do not get your child involved. If you have a problem with it, then you call her up and address it.
Let your daughter know that you will call up the Aunt and let her know how you all feel about the pictures.
I disagree. We are talking about the child's aunt who loves her not just anyone. I would love to receive a call like that from my nieces or nephews. I enjoy listening to their opinions and realizing how big they have become.
I also try to teach my kids to stand up for what they believe is right so yes I would let them make that call. And if I received a call like it I would be very receptive...but I do not send out naked pics of my kids LOL so maybe they can lecture me about something else.
After this line - " The last time we talked to Aunt C about not sending nude pics through texts she got all witchy and self-righteous? Would you still let your DD call her, (even though you will ultimatly get blamed anyways?)"
I think it would be irresponsible to get a child involved.
But I also find it to be disrespectful to be lectured by a 9 year old and would never allow my children to do it to anyone.
I did not see where she wrote that she was considering allowing her 9 yr old lecture her aunt. I did see that her 9 yr old wanted to tell her what she learned in school. There is a big difference.
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Re: WWYD? Questionable xmas card pic
Speak with your daughter and let her know how proud you are of her being aware of things like this and to be learning about safety in school. Also let her know that some conversations are meant to be handled by adults and this is one of them.
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Re: WWYD? Questionable xmas card pic
Posted by twicethefun
Posted by SHOPAHOLIC
I don't think your 9 year old DD has any place calling up her AUNT and lecturing her - EVEN if she is right. Do not get your child involved. If you have a problem with it, then you call her up and address it.
Let your daughter know that you will call up the Aunt and let her know how you all feel about the pictures.
I disagree. We are talking about the child's aunt who loves her not just anyone. I would love to receive a call like that from my nieces or nephews. I enjoy listening to their opinions and realizing how big they have become.
I also try to teach my kids to stand up for what they believe is right so yes I would let them make that call. And if I received a call like it I would be very receptive...but I do not send out naked pics of my kids LOL so maybe they can lecture me about something else.
I think both are valid points but I would have to agree with Shopaholic. Growing up in my family...respect was a huge thing and so to call my aunt to tell her that something she did was inappropriate would be unimaginable and punishable. That's just how it was and personally I think it should be that way.
At the same time..we can't all be right-fighters. I would tell my child that I was proud that she was paying attention in school and that I agree that SHE should never post pictures of herself naked.
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| Posted 12/8/10 9:20 PM |
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BeachMom
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Re: WWYD? Questionable xmas card pic
thanks everyone for the replies. My DD was really upset for her cousin over this pic (she is a little sensitive) and she takes all of the things they teach her in school about safety very seriously. I did sit down with her and have a talk about the pic. This pic was only a butt pic, but the one's she's sent on the celll before were full frontal that really upset my DD.
I told her that for now we're not going to say anything but if it still bothers her by the next time we see Aunt C in person that she can have a talk with her. (we're not going to see her for 2 weeks so i'm hoping that she forgets about it by then.) I figure this is the best approach since I want my DD to trust her judgement and know what is right and wrong and not feel ashamed or bad for speaking up about it.
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