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WWYD re: family and a handmade gift?

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MissJones
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WWYD re: family and a handmade gift?

Years ago, my father was into woodworking. He started a business, it lasted a few months, etc. But he made me 4 pieces of furniture about 12 years ago. I'm not 15 anymore, so these things aren't my style, you know? Now, I'm also a sentimental sod. I find it very difficult to part with things, but at the same time, I really like things to be how I WANT them and I want things simpler in our home. Okay, moving on...

so one thing he made me was something that was perfect when I was 15, not as a 30 year old married woman. So I offered it back to him for his young children. He took it.

Another thing is in our bedroom and I find that it works.

Now, my connundrum (sp). I have this bookcase from him. While I love having books, we are really trying to downsize our life and clear out and put in storage (aka basement of parent). But I have no idea what to do with this bookcase. I feel weird offering it back to him b/c I don't want him to get insulted b/c I do like it, just not in our apartment now. Secondly, it can't go to DH's parents house...baaaad idea. Can't go in my mom's house...baaaad idea.


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Posted 11/17/07 4:50 PM
 
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Domino
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Re: WWYD re: family and a handmade gift?

Why dont you explain that to your dad? Just pose it as "It just doesnt seem to work with my decor right now" Maybe he has a spot for it in his home with the understanding that when you have more space you'll take it back.

Posted 11/17/07 5:23 PM
 

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Re: WWYD re: family and a handmade gift?

Posted by Domino

Why dont you explain that to your dad? Just pose it as "It just doesnt seem to work with my decor right now" Maybe he has a spot for it in his home with the understanding that when you have more space you'll take it back.



He's not the easiet guy...he takes it as an insult and it is not intended that way at all. I will certainly ask him but I just hope he doesn't take it the wrong way. Thank you.

Posted 11/17/07 5:27 PM
 

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Re: WWYD re: family and a handmade gift?

Not sure if you if money is an issue, but you can pay for a storage unit and put in there. that way when you get a house, you can bring it back.

ETA: my dad makes things too, and im the sentimental sob and want to keep everything... he wants to toss the stuff.. He made my neice a beautiful granddaughter clock, its kinda big and my sis didnt want so its in his basement. he wants to toss it out and i wont let him.

Message edited 11/17/2007 5:28:59 PM.

Posted 11/17/07 5:27 PM
 

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Re: WWYD re: family and a handmade gift?

Posted by MissJones

Posted by Domino

Why dont you explain that to your dad? Just pose it as "It just doesnt seem to work with my decor right now" Maybe he has a spot for it in his home with the understanding that when you have more space you'll take it back.



He's not the easiet guy...he takes it as an insult and it is not intended that way at all. I will certainly ask him but I just hope he doesn't take it the wrong way. Thank you.




I would be offended if you posed it as a decor issue....what about asking him to hold on to the piece until you have kids/get a bigger house ect. This way you're asking for his help. If that won't work keep them. My stepfather was a woodworker and I would LOVE to have something from him, and the few things I do I cherish. I was in your position last year and wanted them to hold on to the pieces for me, but when he died I was thankful they were in my house still and that I had not made him like I was ungrateful. I know they are not what you want, but the love that went into them at 15 is the same at 30 and married. Email/fm me some pics and i'll help. Trust me I got creative in order to find places in my house that the bookcases and coffee table would look good inChat Icon

Posted 11/17/07 5:40 PM
 

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Re: WWYD re: family and a handmade gift?

Posted by medic6809

Posted by MissJones

Posted by Domino

Why dont you explain that to your dad? Just pose it as "It just doesnt seem to work with my decor right now" Maybe he has a spot for it in his home with the understanding that when you have more space you'll take it back.



He's not the easiet guy...he takes it as an insult and it is not intended that way at all. I will certainly ask him but I just hope he doesn't take it the wrong way. Thank you.




I would be offended if you posed it as a decor issue....what about asking him to hold on to the piece until you have kids/get a bigger house ect. This way you're asking for his help. If that won't work keep them. My stepfather was a woodworker and I would LOVE to have something from him, and the few things I do I cherish. I was in your position last year and wanted them to hold on to the pieces for me, but when he died I was thankful they were in my house still and that I had not made him like I was ungrateful. I know they are not what you want, but the love that went into them at 15 is the same at 30 and married. Email/fm me some pics and i'll help. Trust me I got creative in order to find places in my house that the bookcases and coffee table would look good inChat Icon



That's exactly it...I don't want to get rid of it forever. I just don't want it right now. It's too big for our place and we want to simplify. I do like your suggestion of asking it like I need help...that might work. Chat Icon

Posted 11/17/07 5:49 PM
 
 

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