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WWYD re: two events, one day
We scheduled DS's baptism and already asked our godmother to schedule the day off (she's a doctor at a new practice) and the godfather to look into flights to come to NY for it.
I also have a weird "thing" about numbers and I love the date we set for the baptism.
Well, we just got the invitation from the hospital NICU - they told us when DS was in the hospital that they have a reunion every year for all the NICU babies, and it turns out it's the same date as DS's baptism.
We are SO appreciative of the NICU staff and we feel that they really took such wonderful care of DS and taught us SO much that month DS was there.
So if you were in my shoes, would you change the date of DS's baptism so that you could go to the NICU reunion? We were looking forward to going to it and had spoken about it a few times in the last few months, I just didn't think it would be that early in the month.
Again, I have a really weird thing about numbers and I was really looking forward to having the baptism that date, and I imagine the godmother already scheduled the time off (they do schedules far in advance).
Both events are at the same exact time, so no way we could just swing by the reunion or anything if we have the baptism that day.
WWYD?
ETA: DS was born 2 months early (at 32 weeks) and spent a month in the NICU.
Also, I don't think the Godfather has purchased his flight yet at all.
2nd ETA: We haven't booked a restaurant or anything yet and I know the church does baptisms every weekend (some are English, some are Spanish, but we can do either).
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Re: WWYD re: two events, one day
Honestly, I would not change the date. I know you want to go to the NICU reunion but you are asking other people to make accommodations too - at a job and with flights, money, etc.
There's no reason why you couldn't stop by NICU another day to say hi, bring a present, show off the baby, etc.
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| Posted 8/14/10 4:28 PM |
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Re: WWYD re: two events, one day
Yesi if I were in your shoes I'd probably send a card or an edible arrangement to the NICU party and keep DS's baptism date since you've already begun planning. Also since you love the date keep it.
I have family members who are NICU graduates so I get the tremendous attachment you'll always have to the staff there - but his baptism is a one-time event - maybe send them a card with your heartfelt thanks and a pic showing his gorgeous face, and plan to attend the party next year?
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Re: WWYD re: two events, one day
Posted by mrswask
Honestly, I would not change the date. I know you want to go to the NICU reunion but you are asking other people to make accommodations too - at a job and with flights, money, etc.
There's no reason why you couldn't stop by NICU another day to say hi, bring a present, show off the baby, etc.
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| Posted 8/14/10 4:30 PM |
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Re: WWYD re: two events, one day
change the baptism date!!!!!!!!! plan it all around me me ME!
okay, jk, but if i were you, i would TOTALLY just go to the NICU thing, ESPECIALLY if you haven't finalized any plans. if god mother has already requested the day off, ask her to join you at the NICU thing, she was just as much a part of the NICU support team and they were, lol!
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Re: WWYD re: two events, one day
I understand what you're saying that you think g-dfather hasn't purchased flight yet, but you did say dr. did already take off work. Also, if you are going to change, I would look at flight ahead of time and make sure that other weekends aren't more expensive for gf to fly in than original date was.
Your ETA's seem to be justifications to want to change baptism date. If you want to do it, then do it. But again, you can go to NICU at anytime and baptism is a one-time event - esp if there is a specific date that you liked.
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Re: WWYD re: two events, one day
Posted by mrswask
Your ETA's seem to be justifications to want to change baptism date. If you want to do it, then do it. But again, you can go to NICU at anytime and baptism is a one-time event - esp if there is a specific date that you liked.
Yes, I think you're right. I guess it's just because they (NICU) was SUCH a huge part of his life and I credit them for me having such a healthy baby  I mean, we may not be remembered specifically, DS has changed SOOOO much (he literally looks like a different baby than when he left), but we really were looking forward to going to the reunion. I know we could go another day and just pass by, but the type of environment it is, the NICU doctors and nurses don't really have much down time while they're working, so it would literally just be a quick drop by type of thing.
And I really do love that date (yes, I'm weird) but then I wonder, well we would still be having something special that day, just not his baptism. And I definitely want his baptism to be a very important day in his life and our lives, but I'm realistic and know that we COULD change it, but I do NOT want to be an inconvenience to my BFF (the godmother) and the godfather at all.
I think I'm going to check with the godmother and see if she finalized the day off yet and look into flight costs for the godfather on alternate weekends. Just to get a better handle of if it's even POSSIBLE for us to change the baptism date. Man, I really just wish the NICU reunion was on another date! 
Lupe, let me know exactly what dates you'll be here! That weekend was my ORIGINAL plan to do it, but it's my nephew's 2nd birthday then. Unless you'll be here for over a week....
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Re: WWYD re: two events, one day
Posted by colette
Yesi if I were in your shoes I'd probably send a card or an edible arrangement to the NICU party and keep DS's baptism date since you've already begun planning. Also since you love the date keep it.
I have family members who are NICU graduates so I get the tremendous attachment you'll always have to the staff there - but his baptism is a one-time event - maybe send them a card with your heartfelt thanks and a pic showing his gorgeous face, and plan to attend the party next year?
I'd do the same thing.
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Re: WWYD re: two events, one day
Posted by mrswask
Honestly, I would not change the date. I know you want to go to the NICU reunion but you are asking other people to make accommodations too - at a job and with flights, money, etc.
There's no reason why you couldn't stop by NICU another day to say hi, bring a present, show off the baby, etc.
i agree
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| Posted 8/14/10 7:01 PM |
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Re: WWYD re: two events, one day
Bumping for weekday crew and more opinions. 
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| Posted 8/16/10 2:13 PM |
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Re: WWYD re: two events, one day
Posted by mrswask
Honestly, I would not change the date. I know you want to go to the NICU reunion but you are asking other people to make accommodations too - at a job and with flights, money, etc.
There's no reason why you couldn't stop by NICU another day to say hi, bring a present, show off the baby, etc.
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Re: WWYD re: two events, one day
I would check with the GM and GF and see if they could change or how difficult it would be - without telling them why (I'd be afraid if it was difficult they might do it anyway and then I'd feel bad.) If they say it's no problem to switch dates, I'd go ahead and change the date and go to the reunion.
If either said it would be at all diffucult to make a switch, I'd just leave it as is and send something to the NICU to let them know you wanted to be there and were thinking of them.
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Re: WWYD re: two events, one day
I can understand where you're coming from. DD was a preemie as well and if the NICU she stayed at had something like this I would definitely want to go. Based on your added facts, I would speak to your close family and friends and most importantly the godparents to see what their thoughts are. Even if flights haven't been booked yet, etc. they may have already been planning for this date. Not to mention now you have to coordinate with them for another date and see when they're available which can be tough. If they're okay with it and you really want to go, then change the date. If not, keep the date and visit the NICU another time.
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Re: WWYD re: two events, one day
Keep the date for the Baptism
I would think the NICU staff would be happier to hear that DS cannot attend for such an occasion because that is the point of their job- to get your child to have special events of their life
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| Posted 8/16/10 2:27 PM |
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LoveyQ
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Posted by MrsA714
I can understand where you're coming from. DD was a preemie as well and if the NICU she stayed at had something like this I would definitely want to go. Based on your added facts, I would speak to your close family and friends and most importantly the godparents to see what their thoughts are. Even if flights haven't been booked yet, etc. they may have already been planning for this date. Not to mention now you have to coordinate with them for another date and see when they're available which can be tough. If they're okay with it and you really want to go, then change the date. If not, keep the date and visit the NICU another time.
It's great to hear the perspective of another preemie mom, so thank you!
I'm basically already doing exactly what you suggested. I contacted the godmother and she said she can make it any Sunday and can work around her schedule and I'm waiting to hear back from the godfather to see if he has any issues flying down on a different weekend.
I also called the church and they said we can reschedule for any other weekend that month (or before if we want).
DH and I will decide once we hear back from the godfather. My family doesn't really know about it other than our parents and they're good with any date, so besides the godparents, I don't think we'd be inconveniencing anyone else, especially since we just decided on the date recently. So we'll see.
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Re: WWYD re: two events, one day
Posted by mrswask
Honestly, I would not change the date. I know you want to go to the NICU reunion but you are asking other people to make accommodations too - at a job and with flights, money, etc.
There's no reason why you couldn't stop by NICU another day to say hi, bring a present, show off the baby, etc.
I agree - I would plan another date to visit the NICU.
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Re: WWYD re: two events, one day
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Posted by colette
Yesi if I were in your shoes I'd probably send a card or an edible arrangement to the NICU party and keep DS's baptism date since you've already begun planning. Also since you love the date keep it.
I have family members who are NICU graduates so I get the tremendous attachment you'll always have to the staff there - but his baptism is a one-time event - maybe send them a card with your heartfelt thanks and a pic showing his gorgeous face, and plan to attend the party next year?
I'd do the same thing.
I agree 100%. You can always stop in another day to say hello.
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Re: WWYD re: two events, one day
Keep the date for the baptism!
The people who attend your DCs baptism are those who are of importance!
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