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ml110
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WWYD?? spinoff to wedding gifts
what would you do in this situation.
ok.. so there is a family that i grew up near- we've known them since i was about 6. its the parents and 3 kids, who are 30,28, and 25 now.
we invited them all to our wedding. the 30 year old and the 25 year old are single, and didn't bring dates with them. but the 28 year old brought her boyfriend. so a total of 6 people came from this family. we got one card from all of them for $150. it IS NOT about the amount of money... its about the fact the the three "kids" are all on their own, and all have good jobs, didn't even give us separate cards, or gifts!!
WELL, fast forward 2 years... the 28 year old and her BF just got engaged. they're getting married next november. what should we do about their gift?? i wouldn't feel right doing what they did, but at the same time a part of me wants to! WWYD??
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Re: WWYD?? spinoff to wedding gifts
First (and this probably shouldn't make a difference), when you sent out your invitations, did each "child" get their own invite? If not, that might've dictated the gift.
Second, you give your own gift because you know that it's the right thing to do and you remember how slighted you felt after receiving their gift.
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| Posted 11/7/07 2:09 PM |
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Christine
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Re: WWYD?? spinoff to wedding gifts
I would give a gift I was comfortable giving. It's not worth it to give less and be embarrassed about doing so.
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| Posted 11/7/07 2:10 PM |
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Jax430
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Re: WWYD?? spinoff to wedding gifts
I would probably end up buying them something off of their registry that costs less than what you would normally give. You're not giving as little as them, but you're not being as generous as you normally would be, and you're giving them something that they want.
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| Posted 11/7/07 2:11 PM |
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ml110
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Re: WWYD?? spinoff to wedding gifts
Posted by CoopersMom01
First (and this probably shouldn't make a difference), when you sent out your invitations, did each "child" get their own invite? If not, that might've dictated the gift.
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yeah... i guess thats a good point. they were actually all still living at home when i got married (by choice, not becasue they had to), so i just sent one invite with all of their names on it. at the time i thought it didn't make sense to send 4 of the same invitations to the same house... but maybe that could have been why they did what they did....
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| Posted 11/7/07 2:14 PM |
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neener1211
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Re: WWYD?? spinoff to wedding gifts
Posted by ml110
Posted by CoopersMom01
First (and this probably shouldn't make a difference), when you sent out your invitations, did each "child" get their own invite? If not, that might've dictated the gift.
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yeah... i guess thats a good point. they were actually all still living at home when i got married (by choice, not becasue they had to), so i just sent one invite with all of their names on it. at the time i thought it didn't make sense to send 4 of the same invitations to the same house... but maybe that could have been why they did what they did....
This is probably why they did what they did. I am not saying it was right of them to do so, but now, if you were given your own invitation, you should give them a gift seperately, or buy them something off their registry to give them as a gift.
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| Posted 11/7/07 2:18 PM |
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ml110
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Re: WWYD?? spinoff to wedding gifts
Posted by Jax430
I would probably end up buying them something off of their registry that costs less than what you would normally give. You're not giving as little as them, but you're not being as generous as you normally would be, and you're giving them something that they want.
yeah... this is probably what i'll end up doing. giving them a little less than i would normally. i can't do what they did, but i don't want to go all out either...
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| Posted 11/7/07 2:21 PM |
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luckysmom
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Re: WWYD?? spinoff to wedding gifts
Posted by ml110
what would you do in this situation.
ok.. so there is a family that i grew up near- we've known them since i was about 6. its the parents and 3 kids, who are 30,28, and 25 now.
we invited them all to our wedding. the 30 year old and the 25 year old are single, and didn't bring dates with them. but the 28 year old brought her boyfriend. so a total of 6 people came from this family. we got one card from all of them for $150. it IS NOT about the amount of money... its about the fact the the three "kids" are all on their own, and all have good jobs, didn't even give us separate cards, or gifts!!
WELL, fast forward 2 years... the 28 year old and her BF just got engaged. they're getting married next november. what should we do about their gift?? i wouldn't feel right doing what they did, but at the same time a part of me wants to! WWYD??
I had a VERY similar situation with a family of 7. I wouldn't go over the top for them. I would not feel right doing what they did eitherm honestly, if there is just 2 of you going to this wedding i would give them $100.00.
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