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Well, it never helps when I say that my parents have 7 marriages between the 2 of them.

On a serious note, if people act that way toward me, I let them know that I KNOW what it's like to grow up with divorced parents, so I know what I want for my children: a home free of all forms of abuse- regardless of whether they are raised by married or divorced parents.

Priorities are important- not the "married parents" status

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Posted by suvenR

Well, it never helps when I say that my parents have 7 marriages between the 2 of them.

On a serious note, if people act that way toward me, I let them know that I KNOW what it's like to grow up with divorced parents, so I know what I want for my children: a home free of all forms of abuse- regardless of whether they are raised by married or divorced parents.

Priorities are important- not the "married parents" status

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to certain extetent yes as someone else said, i am kind of afraid that if things get to rough that he will leave, however he (not having divorced parents) knows that this is my fear and works extra hard so i dont feel that way

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my parents are married for 31 years but my DH's have been divorced for over 20. I think it has made him a little less trusting or less of a believer in the longevity of marriages but over time I think he has seen how happy my parents are and the environment i was raised in compared to his. In other words, he has now seen marriage in a diff way than he knew (he was 9 when they divorced) and I think this has opened him up to be more positive. I am kind of rambling here..what I am trying to say is before we got engaged I think he had a very diff outlook on marriage then he does now. He sees what it takes to make it work.

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Interesting topic..

Not that I'm aware of, does anyone think I'll end in divorce. Except my cousin Julie, who thinks everyone will eventually get divorced!!! 87% of marriages end in divorce, she'll remind me.

I'm not worried about him leaving, I do worry about ME leaving. I absolutely will not be treated with any disrespect, as this is what I witnessed in many of the relationships that surrounded me as a child/young adult. DH is human, and doesn't always treat me w/ the respect that I want and command, and he knows that I will not hesitate if I think it's not "curable". Not to sound like a tough girl, or that I don't take my marriage seriously, but I take it that seriously. His parents are married for the sake of being married. Someone else had written that they co-habitate... and that's my DH's parents.

So, which is worse? Divorce, or a marriage that is still a marriage for the sake of not getting divorced? I think at some level it boils down to a respect issue/trust/and working together ($$)... if you've reached the point of wanting out, IMO, that means you want better for youself, even if it means being alone. I think that my in-laws see that I'm a no non-sense person and I won't tolerate baby stuff.

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i swore that I would not end up in divorce like my parents did and I wound up getting an annulment less than a year after marriage. But as far as others, I dont think they expected it...

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