XP---Please help me about baby pressure from DH

i'm kind of p*sssed off that my post got moved. i know it might be considered a "relationship" board issue-- whatever -- but i know more traffic is on THIS board which is why i posted it HERE. no one reads the freaking relationship board as much as NFR

but this is my post--please read and help: Baby pressure from DH

Re: XP---Please help me about baby pressure from DH

How funny...I replied and when I scrolled to the top I was like
How the heck did I end up in Relationships?????

Re: XP---Please help me about baby pressure from DH

first of all... on the "jokes" issue: let him know it makes you uncomfortable! i've had a similar problem with dh and it took him a while to understand that my FEELINGS were being hurt EVERY TIME he was being "funny".

now, about the baby issue: you have the right to be unsure about becoming a mother. you have the right to not want a child. you have the right to change your mind.

your dh has the right to want a child. and most importantly, your dh has the right to know how you're feeling... ASAP.

as far as money goes... i was married (first time around), pregnant, and out of work when my marriage ended over-night. i had NO MONEY! my son is a happy healthy boy. there is NEVER a right time to have a baby, there is really NEVER a bad time to not have a baby... hope that made sense

babies are always a blessing!!!

don't get pressured into doing anything.
talk to your dh... do your best to not make it an emotional argument... state your case as best you can so that he can understand you.

you stated that many times it turns into fights. do your best not to WIN a fight, but to plead your case. help him understand how uncertain and scared and confused you are. if he is filled with as much love as you state he is, he will understand. he might not like it, but he'll understand.

the best of luck to you in dealing with all these emotions, fears, and feelings.

god bless