Your DH and your TTC journey

Is it because women tend to be more emotional? He just doesn't take it as seriously as I do. He wants a baby as well, but it irks me when DH has to make everything so "practical" and when he said to me-oh, this is not our month. He is probably right, but I don't love hearing it from his mouth. I want him with me, not against me.

Anyone else feel that their DH just doesn't have their heart totally in it? I don't think he gets how hard this is on me, especially with having to cope with the realities of my health situation.

Guess I am just moody tonight.

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I think the need to have a baby is much more biological and emotional for a woman. Think about it - we have the hormones, the body, the nurturing, etc. This is something that can easily consume us.

Men just have one job to do. And when they are done, they curl up and go to sleep.

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i dont think theyre ever completely on the same page as we are. especilly when it hasnt been years ya know? dh always says its ok honey we'll get it next time. it'll happen eventually. it just doesnt seem to affect him like it affects me...

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Posted by CoutureMaMa

i dont think theyre ever completely on the same page as we are. especilly when it hasnt been years ya know? dh always says its ok honey we'll get it next time. it'll happen eventually. it just doesnt seem to affect him like it affects me...

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I think men just have a different outlook on their role in marriage. They also internalize alot more than we do. It's probably killing him inside that this is happening to you as a couple but he needs to be strong and there to make sure you dont go over the edge -because if the 2 of you go bonkers than that's no good. (I say you plural not you - you) haha.

That's atleast the way I'm rationalizing my DH's behavior!!!

In a way, it comforts me that he is being so strong - I, of course, have my moments where i want to shake him but I know he's feeling the same thing inside and just trying to keep it together..

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At first DH was very blase about the whole thing. As a whole, he would be ok with it just being the three of us. But he knows how important this is to me, and as the months have passed, he's getting more proactive. I just posted that next month he'll be going for a SA

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I must be one of the lucky ones. My DH is so very into the entire TTC process. From calling me everyday to make sure I drank a full glass of water when taking my clomid, to encouraging me during the four hour hold for OPKs. He wants it just as much as I do and he feels so bad that my "lady parts", as he likes to call them, are being incooperative. I mean...I threw the remote directly at his head while on 100mg of clomid and he just ducked and asked if I wanted it back...he is such a trooper. I really am truly blessed to have married him and that he is right there with me every step of the way.

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My DH is def involved but also has the whole "it will happen when it's meant to happen" mentality. I honestly think they are like that because it isn't their body. They aren't feeling every "sysmptom" during the 2WW. They don't rush to the bathroom and look at the TP hoping that AF didn't come. For us we can easily become consumed because it's our bodies. They just don't have to think of it that closely.