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Definitly 40 81.63%
Get as much stuff as you can, register for the rest 6 12.24%
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Your opinions on my situation

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ARIELSMOM
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MEREDITH

Your opinions on my situation

I am week 13 and i just told everyone at work i am pg. Immediately people asked me if i was registering. I had DD 6 years ago, and at the time i lived with my mom, then we moved to a 1brm apt for 4 years, then back to my moms. So most of the baby stuff we had had to be given away b/c we had no place to store it. I a few big items (crib, changing table, glider), but i know there is a ton of stuff we are goign to need. Would it be tacky of me to register? I got married almost 2 years ago and i dont want people to feel like "here we go again, another gift we have to give this family". I am not expecting anything, but a few people have asked if i am going to register.
What would you do?
Edit to say- we have a house now and have a place to store things.

Message edited 1/29/2007 3:50:08 PM.

Posted 1/29/07 3:48 PM
 

MABLE03
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Fabulous

Re: Your opinions on my situation

I would register without a doubt. People who want to buy you gifts off the registry will. If others don't then they wont. It's just to let people know what you need and like.. no one is saying they HAVE to purchase something off of it.

6 years is a long time. My DS is 4 .. will be almost 5 or 5 by the time we have #2 and I am planning on registering again.Chat Icon

Posted 1/29/07 3:50 PM
 

KateDevine
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Re: Your opinions on my situation

I think that you can register. I mean, I actually didn't vote in your poll because I don't think any of the choices were what I thought Chat Icon

You had your daughter six years ago, and people will want to buy you gifts. Also, is this your DH's first child? Sometimes I've heard that your in laws will want to give you a shower and everything because THEY have never done it before.

I didn't register for furniture, personally, I think that is the parent's responsibility to buy, but go for it, register for everything else Chat Icon

Posted 1/29/07 3:51 PM
 

Faithx2
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Re: Your opinions on my situation

Posted by MABLE03

I would register without a doubt. People who want to buy you gifts off the registry will. If others don't then they wont. It's just to let people know what you need and like.. no one is saying they HAVE to purchase something off of it.

6 years is a long time. My DS is 4 .. will be almost 5 or 5 by the time we have #2 and I am planning on registering again.Chat Icon



I agree

Posted 1/29/07 3:51 PM
 

nrthshgrl
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Re: Your opinions on my situation

I would register but probably not have a large shower. Register in case anyone does want to get me something, but also as a list of things I need to get. Often you're offered discounts off of your register after the event has passed (which is why I register for birthdays at Pottery BarnChat Icon )

Posted 1/29/07 3:59 PM
 

bayla
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Re: Your opinions on my situation

i think its fine for you to register, its been a while and products/mechendise change and expire, etc, nothing wrong in getting a little help as it is so expensive to have a babyChat Icon

Posted 1/29/07 4:01 PM
 

snuggleupagus
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Re: Your opinions on my situation

I am somewhat in your situation, I lived in NC when I had DD. I had TONS of great items up until I moved to NY 2 years ago [and into what was really a 1BR]. I had to get rid of it all..I donated it all to habitat for humanity.

When I found out we were having #2, I panicked at first....because literally aside from a few stained PJs, we had NOTHING for a baby. I decided to register anyway in hopes I'd have a shower due to the 6 years between births. [I actually missed my first shower b/c I was away at a funeral...so I never got to experience it anyway] Turns out friends and family are all about it and not one person has said: This is your second, you dn't get a shower [actually, DH said it once, I pointed out the time in between and told him that my mom had one for my kid sister as well...10 years between us]...he clammed up, especailly after his mom and my aunt started talking shower.

Posted 1/29/07 4:04 PM
 

MsMBV
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Member since 5/05

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Me

Re: Your opinions on my situation

Posted by MABLE03

I would register without a doubt. People who want to buy you gifts off the registry will. If others don't then they wont. It's just to let people know what you need and like.. no one is saying they HAVE to purchase something off of it.

6 years is a long time. My DS is 4 .. will be almost 5 or 5 by the time we have #2 and I am planning on registering again.Chat Icon

I think it is fine. Plus with sucha gap in ages how can people think that you would have kept everything? I definitely would ESPECIALLY since they are asking!

Posted 1/29/07 4:17 PM
 

dawnie
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Re: Your opinions on my situation

Go register and have fun doing it!

Posted 1/29/07 4:18 PM
 

Karebaby
Precious

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Karyn

Re: Your opinions on my situation

I am having a shower and I just had DD 19 months ago. I think now days, most people have a shower for each baby.

Posted 1/29/07 4:38 PM
 

KateDevine
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Re: Your opinions on my situation

Posted by Karebaby

I am having a shower and I just had DD 19 months ago. I think now days, most people have a shower for each baby.



I am not flaming you AT ALL.

But I don't agree with you, as a whole. Of course, every family and group of friends is different. But in my family and circle of friends we do showers for the first and then people still give gifts, just possibly not as large of a gift as the first time around. I do think that if you have older generations in your family it is a little harder to justify a shower for every baby. Of course every child is a celebratation, but I don't know that if I had another baby soon after this one that my mom and sister would have another shower for me.

Message edited 1/29/2007 4:55:36 PM.

Posted 1/29/07 4:53 PM
 

MsMBV
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Re: Your opinions on my situation

Posted by Karebaby

I am having a shower and I just had DD 19 months ago. I think now days, most people have a shower for each baby.

A lot of my friends had a Shower for the first baby, then a "sprinkle" for the second, third, etc.

Posted 1/29/07 5:05 PM
 

Bklyngrl
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Re: Your opinions on my situation

bigger shower for first baby, then usually just a few closest friends do a little something. we still give gifts for the next kids. but if this is your DH's first, i'd think his family would want to do shower?

Posted 1/29/07 5:21 PM
 

Jillysmom
We made it to 8 years

Member since 5/05

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Name:
Jenn

Re: Your opinions on my situation

My DD is 2.5 and I am registering again only because i am having twins and there are some things that i will need a second of. I would register.. have fun!

Posted 1/29/07 6:27 PM
 

patti08
Happy

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Patti

Re: Your opinions on my situation

You should register. People will ask because they want to give you a gift. Registering does not mean anyone is obligated to give a gift. It helps those that want to, give you what you need.

Posted 1/29/07 7:54 PM
 
 

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