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In this time of "togetherness" especially during the summer where there's nowhere to go, how many times a day would you say you yell at your kids? I do at least once a day sometimes more. I don't want to and I try different things, but let's all be honest, it's hard sometimes. How about you all?

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So honestly, I feel like I have gotten better with the yelling since this all began. Don’t get me wrong, I have been more stressed out in the past few months than ever in my whole life, and I definitely yell sometimes. But pre-COVID, a typical weekday would be work/school for kids til 4:00, homework, activities ( karate/ dance/religion/piano/soccer,...), dinner, showers, bedtime, more work/ dishes/laundry), crash. I definitely yelled more trying to get my kids out the door and wherever we had to be.

This whole situation has definitely taught me a few things about life. I will re-evaluate all of our activities and crazy schedule once things go back to normal.

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I don't yell any more than usual, but part of it is that I'm working from home all day every day and he's on his device all.the.time.

And one good thing about being divorced and 50/50 custody is that I have a week to myself to recharge and not always be at a heightened level of annoyance toward my son.

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It is normal to get annoyed with anyone when you are together for long periods of time. No matter what age or relationship so don’t let others make you feel bad by saying how perfect their lives are or they they don’t yell.
My kids are older and I still yell at times but I have been trying to pick my battles as being home so long together every little thing can get on your nerves.

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I feel like things are getting better. At first, I think we all lost our patience a lot. I yelled, DH yelled, DD had break downs. Now, we've settled into somewhat of a routine and we feel a little better going out sparingly. But, all the togetherness does grate on me. I need SPACE. ME TIME. I totally get it.

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I yell all the time. Honestly, I couldn't count-it's that much. I know it's terrible. It's just so hard. DH and I and the 3 kids are home together all the time. This is just not normal!! I was yelling so much the other day I literally forgot what I was yelling about in the middle of it. We all had a good laugh about that one. I feel like we are losing our minds.

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I don't yell all the time but I am definitely a yeller. I swear I think my kids do not hear me unless I yell! I actually have a less hard time these months with my kids home than with my husband. I'm really ready to buy him an office so he gets out of the house lol.

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Posted by Dolphinsbaby

I yell all the time. Honestly, I couldn't count-it's that much. I know it's terrible. It's just so hard. DH and I and the 3 kids are home together all the time. This is just not normal!! I was yelling so much the other day I literally forgot what I was yelling about in the middle of it. We all had a good laugh about that one. I feel like we are losing our minds.

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I hear you. I start off asking them to do things so calmly but after the 3rd or 4th time of them ignoring me I wind up screaming. My 8 year old gets scared when I scream but my 4 year old will actually do what I told him to do in the first place.

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I am a yeller so same as normal. No one seems to "hear" me until I'm a raging lunatic

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I will say my sister who is calm by nature and much more patient than me has been losing it too. I saw her yesterday and she said “I think I gave up parenting. I’m one of those people who gave up on their kids and now I understand why they did that”.

So no, you’re not alone. A lot of people are still going through it. Lol.

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I have been trying to be good with the kids and for the most part they are really good, but yesterday morning I just went off. LOL

I found a wet towel in my son's UA bag from the other day in the corner and I think it was my breaking point. The electronics and lack of help sometimes were getting to me plus I was PMS'ing. LOL Doesn't mix

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I will say my sister who is calm by nature and much more patient than me has been losing it too. I saw her yesterday and she said “I think I gave up parenting. I’m one of those people who gave up on their kids and now I understand why they did that”.

So no, you’re not alone. A lot of people are still going through it. Lol.

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Posted by Sash

I will say my sister who is calm by nature and much more patient than me has been losing it too. I saw her yesterday and she said “I think I gave up parenting. I’m one of those people who gave up on their kids and now I understand why they did that”.

So no, you’re not alone. A lot of people are still going through it. Lol.

i think i'm your sister!! HAHAHA Ive been a SAHM for 8 years.... i feel like i'm a PRO! LOL my kids only did part time preschool (like 7-8 hours a week) and even once they started elementary school i was with them for 5 hours after school (they don't go to after care), and every single half day, day off, etc, etc, etc) so i'm used to having my kids with me, used to digging deep for my patience with them, being in "mom mode" and all that.
BUT this past 5 months has KILLED ME!!!! I'm really losing it a lot on them lately, and i hate it between having them home, plus my husband working from home, none of them doing their part to keep things picked up and in check, the endless dishes, messes, and all that.
I've definitely become one of those parents that basically gave up on their kids, that i always swore i would never be :-/

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Ive had enough.. I won’t say what my son did, but, it was stupid and borderline dangerous. He was home by himself for an hour while I was at the doctors office, this kid is about to be 12. Just adds to my point that not all 7-12 graders can be trusted at home by themselves and the people making these remote school plans aren’t thinking of everyone.

Anyways, I signed him up for In person Kung Fu camp for the week. Now he can sit there for a few hours working out with a mask and gloves. Instead being on the phone all day or doing the dumb sh!t he does when he is “bored”. He starts Monday from 9-2 and I’ve never been happier.

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I will say my sister who is calm by nature and much more patient than me has been losing it too. I saw her yesterday and she said “I think I gave up parenting. I’m one of those people who gave up on their kids and now I understand why they did that”.

So no, you’re not alone. A lot of people are still going through it. Lol.

i think i'm your sister!! HAHAHA Ive been a SAHM for 8 years.... i feel like i'm a PRO! LOL my kids only did part time preschool (like 7-8 hours a week) and even once they started elementary school i was with them for 5 hours after school (they don't go to after care), and every single half day, day off, etc, etc, etc) so i'm used to having my kids with me, used to digging deep for my patience with them, being in "mom mode" and all that.
BUT this past 5 months has KILLED ME!!!! I'm really losing it a lot on them lately, and i hate it between having them home, plus my husband working from home, none of them doing their part to keep things picked up and in check, the endless dishes, messes, and all that.
I've definitely become one of those parents that basically gave up on their kids, that i always swore i would never be :-/

I feel the same with no one helping out. How many empty cans do I have to pick up and put in the recycling bin and the coffee mugs left in the sink (that's my husband). The toys in the floor and couch. I literally have to move 3 to 5 things from the couch just so I can sit down. I try to get them to do some academics and you would think I asked them to jump off a building. The screams. The whining. The push back. I'm constantly cleaning up after them and trying to get them to pitch in. It's relentless. I've tried every chore chart I can think of. My kids are generally good but they don't realize how good they have it and how much freedom they really have. ????