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Christine2
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So I changed districts when I was so disappointed in my district's response to coronavirus. It is a rental, so no longterm commitment. My younger DS is flourishing, with great teachers and new friends. However, my older DS is really missing his old friends.
I am SO much happier with this district, it rates much higher than the previous one. The work is more challenging and academically both kids are doing very well. However, DS seems withdrawn and hasn't made a lot of close friends. He always says everything is fine, that the kids are all nice, but he hasn't made any real connections. He's really shy and reserved.
They are FT up through 6th in this new district (DS is in 5th grade). His old school is hybrid for 6th and with all this talk of remaining remote until 2022(?!?) I am nervous about returning to the old district. It was always my intention beforehand for this to be a one year only experiment. I am seriously considering buying in this new district, but not if my DS will be so unhappy.
WWYD?
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Posted 1/27/21 2:09 AM  |
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I think it’s hard this year to forge friendships. My kids are hybrid but socialization outside of their classes - colors - is so limited. My older DS is lucky as he has a lot of friends in his color group (first year of middle school) but my younger DS doesn’t have many of his close friends in his class this year so he never gets to socialize with them at school.
I also have found that 5th grade boys are very moody in general (DS1 is in 5th).
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| Posted 1/27/21 2:27 AM |
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LSP2005
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I think the year is such an aberration that it is impossible to base everything on it. My kids have friends from their schools, but four elementary schools go into the middle school and my daughter only has her friends from our elementary school and the few we knew from other schools based on club and dance participation. I think it will change more next year.
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| Posted 1/27/21 2:30 AM |
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stillasecret
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Honestly, it seems pretty harsh to move your kids back and forth like that. Did you change school districts as a child? Moving in 5th grade is hard during a good year let alone during a pandemic.
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| Posted 1/27/21 1:43 PM |
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RainyDay
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Do you think he will be any happier in the old district being remote? How would your younger son react if you moved back? I would be worried that no matter which choice you make one child will be unhappy. This year has been extremely difficult so I wouldn't make a big decision based on this year alone. Kids will eventually make friends it may just take time to adjust.
If you feel like the school overall is a better fit then I could justify a permanent move.
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| Posted 1/27/21 1:52 PM |
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nycbuslady
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I think if you like the district, you should stay. I don't think it's good to move back and forth.
Hopefully, as the weather gets warmer, more activities will open up. Is he interested in joining Boy Scouts or a sport? It is much easier to make friends through those activities than in school. Now, they're wearing masks and probably not able to goof around together at recess or gym. So, it's difficult. I think if you encourage him to interact with other kids outside of school (even if it's playing video games while on Facetime), it may be easier.
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| Posted 1/27/21 2:02 PM |
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MrsWoods
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I seriously think i would choose the better district over everything else. they are young and will get over it. Sorry. Is there anyway you can put him in extra curricular activities outside of school in the neighborhood? That way he can make friends there and be little happier. Or even schedule something to spend with his old friends one weekend. I wouldn't move back just for that reason.
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| Posted 1/27/21 8:53 PM |
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alli3131
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Coming from a kid that went to 4 elementary schools do not move them at the end of the year unless it’s absolutely necessary. The older they are the harder the move is on them. I adapted better than my older sister but it was hard!!!
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| Posted 1/28/21 3:11 PM |
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lululu
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I would give it a little more time to decide. You probably wouldn't buy and sell until the summer anyway so give him a few more months. Can you try to have some playdates? I switched schools in 4th grade. It took me a little while to find my footing in the new school because I was also very shy but eventually I found my way and made a ton of great friends. Also, if middle school starts there in 7th grade then it's only one more year at this school and then another opportunity to make new friends.
As other posters have mentioned try to sign him up for some extracurriculars that are in that town - soccer, boy scouts, etc. And even some camps over the summer would probably help.
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| Posted 1/28/21 3:46 PM |
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