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LBG30
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Re: How would you feel about this
Posted by Diana1215
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I would be ******!!!
I think I know who you are talking about
me too
If someone was to much of a s*cker to take a plane to my wedding and be part of my special day I would rather her not be there... Shows the kind of friend she is... however, if I later found out she was going to FL with a BF I'd have to FORCE myself not to confront her about it....
She really is lucky that this wasn't my wedding - bc I am holding myself back now from making a comment to her about it - I can't imagine what I would say to her if it was mine.
ALSO - how many times did we ask her to go on vacation and she wouldn't because of this fear. All of a sudden - POOF - it's gone.
Give me a break. It was always just an excuse.
Yes when we went to vegas we asked her-Guess she overcame her fear just for her bf
I hope her friend does not find out that she is flying cause I would be really insulted to say the least.
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Diana1215
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Re: How would you feel about this
Posted by LBG30
Posted by Diana1215
Posted by Shopaholic921
Posted by LBG30
I would be ******!!!
I think I know who you are talking about
me too
If someone was to much of a s*cker to take a plane to my wedding and be part of my special day I would rather her not be there... Shows the kind of friend she is... however, if I later found out she was going to FL with a BF I'd have to FORCE myself not to confront her about it....
She really is lucky that this wasn't my wedding - bc I am holding myself back now from making a comment to her about it - I can't imagine what I would say to her if it was mine.
ALSO - how many times did we ask her to go on vacation and she wouldn't because of this fear. All of a sudden - POOF - it's gone.
Give me a break. It was always just an excuse.
Yes when we went to vegas we asked her-Guess she overcame her fear just for her bf
I hope her friend does not find out that she is flying cause I would be really insulted to say the least.
She was actually in the email that she sent out to all of us. I wonder what she has to say about it!
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| Posted 6/19/07 11:52 AM |
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beautyq115
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Re: How would you feel about this
I would be upset but is there a possibility that she is better while flying with someone else by her side?? Don't know just a thought
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Diana1215
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Re: How would you feel about this
Posted by beautyq115
I would be upset but is there a possibility that she is better while flying with someone else by her side?? Don't know just a thought
I don't think so - we all volunteered to fly with her when we wanted to go away. I think it really is the case of the fear really was not real and just an excuse all of these years to not do things that she maybe didn't want to take part in.
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stickydust
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Re: How would you feel about this
I, too used to be terrified of flying and in th epast couple years I have gained some perspective in life and have gone though therapy and discovered I can medicate myself on a flight and am now much better. Maybe this happened to her too...people evolve
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| Posted 6/19/07 11:58 AM |
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MsMBV
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Re: How would you feel about this
Posted by stickydust
I, too used to be terrified of flying and in th epast couple years I have gained some perspective in life and have gone though therapy and discovered I can medicate myself on a flight and am now much better. Maybe this happened to her too...people evolve
That is awesome...good for you!
What makes me say Yes I'd be mad is that Florida is very accessible by car or train. She could have easily found another way to get there...KWIM?
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| Posted 6/19/07 11:59 AM |
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Ophelia
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Re: How would you feel about this
maybe she never felt "safe" before. maybe her boyfriend makes her feel "safe". I agree that she could have found another way to Florida for the wedding...but who has the time or inclination to care about this kind of thing.
who thinks of this stuff to be "offended" over???? I think maybe people use the term "friend" too loosely.
this is why I prefer the company of testosterone for the most part...I just can't.
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| Posted 6/19/07 12:06 PM |
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baysidebride
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Re: How would you feel about this
i would understand that people change, and sometimes get over their fears. 5 yrs is a loooong time.
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MarisaK
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Re: How would you feel about this
I don't think I'd hold a grudge and never speak to her again - But I'd definitely feel slighted -
So you can get over your fear when it's about vacationing with a new boyfriend ? But now when you're supposed to be a bridesmaid at my wedding ?? -
Sometimes you just have to suck it up -
I have a ridiculous fear of drowning, - My family is going on a cruse for my Dad's 60th birthday - Am I slightly annoyed that they didn't take my phobia into consederation when planning, sure - but I'm over it - I'm one person out of 10 - I'm not going to miss a family vacation b/c I have sick anxiety about getting on that boat in the middle of the ocean .......... - This trip is IMPORTANT ENOUGH TO ME to decide this is the time I will chose to overcome my fear .......
As that bride, I would feel that I wasn't important enough to her to pop a Xanex and fly down for my wedding -
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Diana1215
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Re: How would you feel about this
Posted by Ophelia
maybe she never felt "safe" before. maybe her boyfriend makes her feel "safe". I agree that she could have found another way to Florida for the wedding...but who has the time or inclination to care about this kind of thing.
who thinks of this stuff to be "offended" over???? I think maybe people use the term "friend" too loosely.
this is why I prefer the company of testosterone for the most part...I just can't.
I would hope that for a best friend of 15 years (where you are supposed to be the maid of honor) you would put in the time and inclination to care about being there for your friend.
Again, I don't believe that it was that she had a true fear of flying - she is doing what is convenient for her.
And obviously I have the time to think this stuff over and think that I would be offended if it happened to me. I guess that happens when you are past your due date and nine months pregnant. There are plenty of posts on here everyday where you can say "Who thinks of this" - but it's a public forum - and people do!
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| Posted 6/19/07 2:10 PM |
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Whamtastic
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Re: How would you feel about this
I used to have the most horrible fear of flying. I wouldn't get on a plane for anything. For years. And then, one day I convinced myself to get over it and with the help of some valium and wonderful travel companions I was able to get over it. But up until then NOTHING would have gotten me on a plane. And I would like to think that the people I love would understand that and not hold it against me that I fly now.
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Ophelia
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Re: How would you feel about this
Posted by Diana1215
I would hope that for a best friend of 15 years (where you are supposed to be the maid of honor) you would put in the time and inclination to care about being there for your friend.
Again, I don't believe that it was that she had a true fear of flying - she is doing what is convenient for her.
if that's the case, she's not a "best" friend.
my closest friends would have swam to my wedding if they were afraid to fly, as I would do for each of them.
so the relationship was misjudged. you move along. I ended a friendship with someone I was "great" friends with for 7 years b/c of things that went on in my wedding. and you know what...i don't miss her ONE bit. she was an azzhole for 7 years, but it took an event to see it.
if that is "who" your "friend" is...be thankful you know now.
anyhoo, you asked for opinions about how one would feel...and I gave mine. I wouldn't "feel" much of anything. b/c I don't think of things like this or get offended over them. life is too short.
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Stacey1403
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Re: How would you feel about this
Posted by Christine
I would be really hurt from the get go when she didn't come to the wedding. It's not like Florida is so far that you can't get there other ways (train or car) so to blow of a really good friend's wedding is beyond me in this situation. But to add insult to injury by flying a couple of years later would do permanant damage to the friendship.
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MrsNaunie
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Re: How would you feel about this
Love makes you do crazy things.
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JessInCA
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Re: How would you feel about this
On one hand, I'd be happy for her that she's finally facing her fear (and hopefully going to get over it soon, because she's really limiting the amazing places she can visit if she won't ever fly). But yeah, I'd honestly be a little upset that celebrating our wedding wasn't an important enough occasion to her to warrant getting on a plane for the first time, but now apparently some guy is. I'd try not to let it get to me too much though - not worth it.
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