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HarleyGirlFLA
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Mel
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Re: Sorry for the fake name-I am being sexually harassed at work and dont know what to do
Posted by whatshouldido
Thank you so much for the support. I actually just woke up because I was up really late last night, and logged on and I see that my thread had lots of responses. You girls really are the best, and it does feel good to know that there are options for me to take. I just need to take the weekend to think about how to proceed. This situation was totally unexpected and never in a million years did I think I'd have to deal with this at my place of work. I know its not my fault, I know I did nothing wrong. I know it will happen again and has happened before to other women. He has a real problem and is a very sick individual.
Once you report him it's not taken lightly. He will be investigated and those that it has effected will be asked questions. The more documentation you and others have the better the case against him.
It is against the Law for your employer to retaliate against you because you opposed an unlawful discriminatory practice or made a charge, or if you testified, assisted or participated in an investigation, proceeding or hearing. The Law protects you against retaliation as long as you have a reasonable good faith belief that the employer’s conduct is illegal, even if it turns out that you were mistaken as to the legality of the employer’s conduct.
I dont know if this is the link that was posted earlier, but I hope this helps you
New York
New York Division of Human Rights
http://www.nysdhr.com/
Contact:
Office of Sexual Harassment
New York State Division of Human Rights
Office of Sexual Harassment
55 Hanson Place, Suite 347
Brooklyn, New York 11217
Please be sure to get this creap and do what is right for you
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whatshouldido
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Re: Sorry for the fake name-I am being sexually harassed at work and dont know what to do
I've thought alot about what course of action to take over the weekend. I went through alot of anger, sadness, depression and now I'm ready to make the decision. I am not going back to work. I am going to file a formal complaint with the EEOC tomorrow. Thank you for all the support. I couldnt have come to this resolution with out all the suggesions you girls have given to me
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Phyl
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Re: Sorry for the fake name-I am being sexually harassed at work and dont know what to do
Posted by whatshouldido
I've thought alot about what course of action to take over the weekend. I went through alot of anger, sadness, depression and now I'm ready to make the decision. I am not going back to work. I am going to file a formal complaint with the EEOC tomorrow. Thank you for all the support. I couldnt have come to this resolution with out all the suggesions you girls have given to me
We will be here for you!
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| Posted 8/26/07 2:35 PM |
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MommyofG
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Re: Sorry for the fake name-I am being sexually harassed at work and dont know what to do
I was in a similiar situation, years ago before I went back to school and worked retail. One of the co-managers began to verbally and sexually harrass me. It was horrible, I didnt know what to do so I told my mom and she said that I had to get him in the act and to carry a tape recorder and get the verbal abuse at least on tape to prove it when I reported him. So I did. I got it on tape called to have a meeting with my district manager and here was the kicker- they wanted to transfer ME out of that location instead of firing him!!!!!! I was livid so I quit. stupid me should have taken it to court but I didnt. They eventually fired him only b/c I think they felt ( the company) threatened b/c they had asked me for that tape before I had quit- I gave it to them but told them I hope you dont think Im stupid enough to give you the only copy.
So even if you dont have someone in the company to complain to it may not help as it didnt in my situation.
Best of luck to you and call who the girls are saying to call, I wish I knew that then.
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Stacey1403
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Re: Sorry for the fake name-I am being sexually harassed at work and dont know what to do
I'm sorry but my DH would go up to the POS and make sure he never harrassed me again.
Roll your eyes somewhere else!
ETA: Because the first thing I would do is to tell him!!
Message edited 8/26/2007 2:57:57 PM.
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Re: Sorry for the fake name-I am being sexually harassed at work and dont know what to do
In my opinion, this is beyond sexual harrassment. This is a sexual physical contact that is non consensual. So, I would definitivelly act on it asap.
While I may understand you were too astonished to say anything, you have to react immediatelly (or asap) to protect yourself.
What is it going to be next? You have to think of your own safety.
Like the other posters mentioned. Act to file an official complaint against him.
Good luck!!!!!
In any cases, if I feared that my "safety" was jeopardized, I would resigned.
Message edited 8/26/2007 4:23:52 PM.
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roxygrl8
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Re: Sorry for the fake name-I am being sexually harassed at work and dont know what to do
Doesn't matter if it's a private little company with no HR dept. I would get the EEOC involved ASAP!!
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tray831
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Re: Sorry for the fake name-I am being sexually harassed at work and dont know what to do
All I can offer are tons of  . It's gotta be a horrible situation to be in.
How long have you been working for this company? Are you fairly new and basically you're his next bait?
Is this loser married?
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| Posted 8/26/07 6:09 PM |
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Re: Sorry for the fake name-I am being sexually harassed at work and dont know what to do
Posted by whatshouldido
I've thought alot about what course of action to take over the weekend. I went through alot of anger, sadness, depression and now I'm ready to make the decision. I am not going back to work. I am going to file a formal complaint with the EEOC tomorrow. Thank you for all the support. I couldnt have come to this resolution with out all the suggesions you girls have given to me
I have to just say how brave you are... I know as bold as I am, this is an area I dont ever feel I would be able to stand up to, especially if my family depended on my job. I would be backed into a corner, I think, and probably that guy knows there are women like that out there...
if you dont mind, could you continue to update us under this screen name? I know if this gets filed it may be difficult to continue to discuss this, but I would really love to hear how this goes, and I think it would help women who may be going thru something like this and not know what to do.
No advice for you, obviously, but wanted to just give you major kudos and lots of luck in this, and finding a new job soon!!!!
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