Re: Respect/consideration issues

Exactly. But he didn't. Why? To keep BM happy. When BM is happy, everyone is happy. That's the rule of thumb in our house. But my point is keeping her happy should not be done at our expense.
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so sympathize with that statement. for us sometimes its better to just take the kids whenever she asks , cause its avoids drama. my dh ex has left the kids home when we have said that we couldnt take them so 4 peace of mind we just take em quite often,,

i wanted to say that in your orig post she asked if you could watch them for 10 min. I mean nothing in this world takes 10 min to do nowadays.. this i learned from bio mom . if she says ten its an hour , an hour is 2 , 2 hours is all nite & so on ..

Re: Respect/consideration issues

BM used to do the same thing to us all the time. I think she did it on purpouse or as a game. One time DH was working unil 10 pm after a 13 hr day and BM insisted he pick up the kids then because she had "plans". This wasw also a "favor". This was also on a week day. She called the house and was nagging me about it. I told her I was home and that she could drop the kids off sooner. SHe responded with "no, he can pick them up when he is out of work because he is their father and he should. I don't care how late it is". I responded back to that with, "He is their father, right, not a taxi service and my home is not a motel where people come and go at all hours of the night". Lets just say, her "plans" magically disappeared, she didn't go out and she never called the house again