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mrsmck
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oppositional defiant disorder
My friend is at her wit's end with her DD (15). She's tried everything and nothing seems to work. At the reccommendation of her DDs therapist, she's now looking for a psychiatrist.
Any suggestions woul be appreciated. They live in Medford.
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Posted 8/26/09 11:58 AM  |
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mrsmck
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Re: oppositional defiant disorder
bumping for afternoon crew.
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| Posted 8/26/09 1:47 PM |
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vitha
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Re: oppositional defiant disorder
I don't have a reccomendation, but I did have a student with ODD and it was so frustrating. He was a smart kid, but you could not get him to do anything b/c it was always a fight. He was removed from our school for 45 days and sent to a hospital for evaluation. After that he was sent to a special school to deal with his issue. It was so sad b/c he was such an angry kid.
Can your friend get any help though BOCES?
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| Posted 8/26/09 2:43 PM |
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PennyCat
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Re: oppositional defiant disorder
I don't have any specific recommendations, but I am a special ed teacher so I do have SOME insight... I would say she should contact the school's support staff and see if they have any recommendations for outside help. Is she currently receiving services at school? It seems like she should be.... If she is not already, she should be seeing the school social worker. If run properly, the school support staff can be an excellent resource!
ETA: Support staff meaning...... a guidance counselor, social worker, school psychologist, special education teacher..... it varies, depending on the type of services she requires.
Message edited 8/26/2009 5:33:57 PM.
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| Posted 8/26/09 5:32 PM |
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BaroqueMama
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Re: oppositional defiant disorder
I worked in a school that specialized in dealing with teenagers with ODD. It was one of the most difficult things I've ever done. One thing that worked was to set a clear set rules and boundaries, have them in writing so the students knew and we knew what was expected, then it was in the students' hands to choose to follow those rules or not. We also had a set of consequences. There was a warning system, then a "frozen" system (kind of like being grounded) and then they had to write and complete a repair contract to fix what they did. You could absolutely modify this for a home situation (this was a boarding school), as they used it in their houses, too. I'm sorry she's going through with this. Children with ODD need to be in the care of a psychiatrist and/or therapist without a doubt. And your friend will need some counseling herself, I'm sure.
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| Posted 8/26/09 6:24 PM |
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mrsmck
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Re: oppositional defiant disorder
Thanks everyone! I will forward this info to her.
She's a divorced mom and actually sent her to live with her dad in westchester for a while.
It's causing some problems in her relationship w/her boyfriend (they've been together 5 years and live together)
when she's alone w/DD, you would never know she's like this, but at home....it's a different story.....
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| Posted 8/26/09 6:52 PM |
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BaroqueMama
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Re: oppositional defiant disorder
Has she been diagnosed with ODD? or is that what she thinks it is. Because it sounds like it could be something more emotional going on.
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| Posted 8/26/09 10:30 PM |
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Jacksmommy
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Re: oppositional defiant disorder
What kinds of things is he doing that classifies him as oppositionally defiant? What about also a PINS protection in addition to what the other posters suggested? I think the PINS program has changed, but I do still know its around (Person in need of supervision).
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| Posted 8/27/09 8:33 AM |
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headoverheels
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Re: oppositional defiant disorder
Posted by Jacksmommy
What kinds of things is he doing that classifies him as oppositionally defiant? What about also a PINS protection in addition to what the other posters suggested? I think the PINS program has changed, but I do still know its around (Person in need of supervision).
i would only file a PINS petition as a last resort. it is highly likely that they would violate the terms of their probation and be placed outside of the home - so unless the mother is willing for the child to be put in placement, she should first seek appropriate counseling for the child. she needs intensive individual counseling and a strict schedule and set of rules at home and at school (as Rachel pointed out).
if the child has an official ODD diagnosis the psychiatrist should have recommended a counseling program. if she doesn't have an official diagnosis she needs one ASAP. the longer she lets this go the worse it will get.
i have dealt with several children with ODD and it's sad because often they are incredibly intelligent and have a great deal of difficultly controlling their impulses to act out. they need strict, fast consequences, and they need consistency.
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| Posted 8/27/09 9:01 AM |
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