Does anyone else get annoyed?

Not that I'm trying to be annoyed but I keep hearing about people getting pregnant by accident and no complications, no miscarriage, just a healthy baby at the end of it. PLEASE don't read this the wrong way, I'm happy for everyone but I can't help feeling the tiniest bit jealous.

Over the weekend my MIL was telling me how all three times she tried she got pregnant on the first try and how the one month FBIL/FSIL tried, they got their beautiful baby girl. Five of my sorority sisters have given birth in the last six months to beautiful, healthy babies and most of those were "accidents." Another sister just posted on FB that she's 7 weeks along and just confirmed it adding her to the list with 4 others that are pregnant. And that's not including other friends who are as well.

I know that I dhouldn't compare and that life isn't a race. Heck, we aren't even trying this month but what's the deal with everyone getting knocked up by accident and having these healthy pregnancies? Makes me feel like there's something so wrong with me...

Anyone else?

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I never got annoyed, but I did feel sorry for myself. There's nothing wrong with that- you can't help how you feel.

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I try not to think about it to be honest. If I did then I would get frustrated. It's like anything else in life that's tough...try to think that there is some stuff in your life that you got easy and others didn't? That's what I try...

You are totally right though..it is just sooo easy for some. I feel lucky that in my group of friends I was the first to start trying so no one else is really "there", I can imagine I would sing a different tune if I was surrounded by it.

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I hear you. I have gotten pretty upset about things like this, and then I feel awful for feeling this way about friends and family. When SIL and BIL revealed that they were PG, it was last March, the day after DH and I got a BFN. I cry very easily, and couldn't control myself. I went to the bathroom, tried to collect myself, then came out and joined everyone. I was calm and eating, when I heard BIL say, "we weren't trying at all. We were going to wait a year." I started losing it again and had to run back to the bathroom. I felt absolutely terrible, b/c of course, I was happy for them, but feeling so badly for me and DH. Now, my niece is 3 months old and I love her to bits, of course!

Right after that, two other friends revealed their pregnancies, and I had a tough time with it. I know life isn't a race, but it's tough when things don't go as we plan.

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I can't fault someone for having a healthy pregnancy. But what I do get annoyed with are people flaunting it when they know what I have been through. Accidental pregnancies make me sad, because I would kill for an "accident" and not having to try so hard.

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I think it's totally understandable to have those feelings.

I know I am so lucky to have a DD, but I still felt some pangs when hearing of a friend's pg shortly after I had my m/c 2 months ago.

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It's so normal to think "why not me?". The thing is, I don't think your annoyed that they have it easy, but that you don't, know what I mean? Like why is it easy for some and not everyone?

I do have to say that when we conceived my son, I was on the pill and we weren't trying, but god had other plans for us, and I wouldn't change that for the world. When we were trying for #2 I had a miscarriage, and now I am 11 weeks along this pregnancy, and ever slight cramp, every weird feeling I panic.

After I miscarried I kept thinking to myself why couldn't we just had to wait alot longer, then to go through a loss. I have to believe everything happens for a reason, and that everything always comes full circle. I can't imagine what your feeling, and I'm so sorry that it seems like everyone is getting pregnant around you, almost adding salt to the wound, but I promise your time will come and you will be sooo over the moon that this journey that your taking now will be sooo worth the wait

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Posted by mrspalomino148

It's so normal to think "why not me?". The thing is, I don't think your annoyed that they have it easy, but that you don't, know what I mean? Like why is it easy for some and not everyone?

I do have to say that when we conceived my son, I was on the pill and we weren't trying, but god had other plans for us, and I wouldn't change that for the world. When we were trying for #2 I had a miscarriage, and now I am 11 weeks along this pregnancy, and ever slight cramp, every weird feeling I panic.

After I miscarried I kept thinking to myself why couldn't we just had to wait alot longer, then to go through a loss. I have to believe everything happens for a reason, and that everything always comes full circle. I can't imagine what your feeling, and I'm so sorry that it seems like everyone is getting pregnant around you, almost adding salt to the wound, but I promise your time will come and you will be sooo over the moon that this journey that your taking now will be sooo worth the wait

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I don't think there's anything wrong with feeling that way! Of course I get annoyed too. Why does it have to be so EASY for some people and not for others. it doesn't seem fair or right.

The other day an old friend found me on Facebook. She's a few years younger than me (she's about 21), single girl and just gave birth to her 3rd child. Of course I'm happy for her that she's got such beautiful healthy kids... but there's just this big part of me that's like "seriously?" KWIM? I'm not trying to sound judgmental or anything, but there's this huge part of me that is just annoyed by stuff like that. Why should it be that single girls who do not even want to be pregnant seem to get pregnant so easy, meanwhile married women who would give anything for a child have to deal with infertility or miscarriages? Just doesn't seem right. Not that I would ever 'hate' a person with kids or feel 'jealousy' either. It just bugs me.

Message edited 12/8/2009 2:55:23 PM.

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I've definetly felt jealous. I'm not proud of it but what can I do? It's how I feel. I am always happy for someone when they find out they are pregnant, esp the girls on here bc I feel like everyone wants it so bad. But I definetly have had my moments of "why not me"

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Thanks ladies for letting me know I'm not a monster for being slightly green with envy. I signed onto facebook a few minutes ago and was reminded of my post when I read that someone I know is having her 2nd. This has been so often lately BUT I'll look at it as a sign that their baby dust will rub off on me

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Posted by kristin597

I've definetly felt jealous. I'm not proud of it but what can I do? It's how I feel. I am always happy for someone when they find out they are pregnant, esp the girls on here bc I feel like everyone wants it so bad. But I definetly have had my moments of "why not me"

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Posted by kristin597

I've definetly felt jealous. I'm not proud of it but what can I do? It's how I feel. I am always happy for someone when they find out they are pregnant, esp the girls on here bc I feel like everyone wants it so bad. But I definetly have had my moments of "why not me"

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I think that is completely normal. I have had many meltdowns through out this TTC process. Quite often it was all about "why me" that this had happened or "why not me" when everyone around me was preggos. I think it is quite normal to feel some jealousy. Of course we are happy for everyone but at the same time it def stings to see everyone have something you want so bad!!

I just have realized we have no control over this process & that God has a plan.

A good friend told me when I was at my bottom... That everyone is thrown challenges in life and that this may be mine. I have some friends who are single & just depressed they can't find someone, loss of parent or parents, divorce, laid off, illness....that we all have challenges in our life. This is what my friend reminded me..and it helped to put things in perspective.

I hope that helps!!!

Hugs to you!!

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Posted by bride07



I think that is completely normal. I have had many meltdowns through out this TTC process. Quite often it was all about "why me" that this had happened or "why not me" when everyone around me was preggos. I think it is quite normal to feel some jealousy. Of course we are happy for everyone but at the same time it def stings to see everyone have something you want so bad!!

I just have realized we have no control over this process & that God has a plan.

A good friend told me when I was at my bottom... That everyone is thrown challenges in life and that this may be mine. I have some friends who are single & just depressed they can't find someone, loss of parent or parents, divorce, laid off, illness....that we all have challenges in our life. This is what my friend reminded me..and it helped to put things in perspective.

I hope that helps!!!

Hugs to you!!