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Katareen
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How does DH feel about TTC?
I want to start TTC now--DH wants to wait until January. I'm not sure if its best to wait until then so we're both comfortable with the decision, or to compromise and start in September/October after our 1yr Anniversary.
Are you and DH on the same page? How important do you think it is?
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MrsRitaB
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Re: How does DH feel about TTC?
i wish we were on teh same page
DH would wait at least 2 years
everytime i bring up trying in august and september he brushes it off. we fight all the time about it.
i think he is just going with what i want to make me happy
he always says"its your body"
i do think it is very important to be on the same page but with me and DH i know he is just scared - and will always be that way!
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| Posted 6/16/10 2:56 PM |
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Katareen
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Re: How does DH feel about TTC?
I'm afraid in January he'll try to buy another few months and say we should wait until May or June--then I'll be really upset. I'm not super young and we want more than 2 kids; but lately I think DH is more comfortable talking about it than actually doing it!
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| Posted 6/16/10 3:00 PM |
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Exarina
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Re: How does DH feel about TTC?
We have been married 2+ years and we wanted this since we got married- DH wanted it moreso when we bought a house..but ever since then we have both been on the same page. We are both dying to be parents
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| Posted 6/16/10 3:09 PM |
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Nik211
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Re: How does DH feel about TTC?
i really think that us women have a biological clock b/c recently i have had a longing for a child that i never thought was possible for me - meaning i dream about it, get emotional about it, it's not just the normal baby fever that used to come and go and i don't think that my DH can ever have the same longing feelings that i do simply b/c he is a male and i think it's a female/mothering thing...so even when my DH says he wants a baby i don't think he means it with the same emotion behind it that i do...
we've discussed timeframes, our hopes, our fears...he told me that he has fears about taking care of us and that is the only thing that really stresses him out about starting a family. he told me it scares him b/c that little life will be depending on him and that scares him and i can understand that b/c we are going to be a 1 income family..
originally we were going to start trying now  but we pushed it back b/c we both aren't quite there yet...even though i'd love to start trying now realistically there are so many things i want to do before i am pregnant (mostly projects and painting in the house that i won't do pregnant) and i want our house almost finished before we have to start on a nursery 
i know that we are both on the same page as to when we want to start trying but we'll see what happens when we get there - one of us might chicken out  ...
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| Posted 6/16/10 3:17 PM |
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RGEC47
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Re: How does DH feel about TTC?
I am not really sure if we are on the same page anymore. We have been trying for almost 2 years now and with the wedding behind us we went to a specialist and started treatment. But now when I talk to him about we need to  and monitor my days, he seems kind of turned off by this process. I had a very, very emotional weekend and have been fighting with DH because I don't feel he is being very suportive. Finally he told me that he doesn't understand what my desperation in having a child is and that maybe we should go back to trying naturally. So of course I got upset and he said he didn't mean it and that he will try and be more understanding. But I am still not convinced. 
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| Posted 6/16/10 3:32 PM |
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MrsH2009
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Re: How does DH feel about TTC?
DH would wait longer, but he is on board to start this August. I went to BRU last night to help a friend register and he told me to buy some baby stuff for us. I was so  August can't come soon enough.
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| Posted 6/16/10 3:45 PM |
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Bridex100
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Re: How does DH feel about TTC?
We are on the same page now for TTC for #2.
It took a bit of time convincing him to start trying for #1.
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| Posted 6/16/10 3:45 PM |
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MyImmortal
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Re: How does DH feel about TTC?
Posted by MrsRitaB
i wish we were on teh same page
DH would wait at least 2 years
everytime i bring up trying in august and september he brushes it off. we fight all the time about it.
i think he is just going with what i want to make me happy
he always says"its your body"
i do think it is very important to be on the same page but with me and DH i know he is just scared - and will always be that way!
My DH is the same...we've decided to wait to actively try until we've been married over a year and a half (next August) to 2 years...but we understand that accidents happen and it's possible it may happen sooner, though not likely. When 2 years rolls around, I'm sure DH will want to put it off for another reason, and although I still have time on my side, he's not getting any younger, so I'm surprised he's not gung ho. But he talks about the someday kids...just feels like we have all the time in the world and I don't think he realistically realizes there's a chance it might not happen easily. Like it's not always ok, we want a baby now, and boom, there it is.
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| Posted 6/16/10 4:01 PM |
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Bearcat
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Re: How does DH feel about TTC?
We were previously agreed on TTC in November-December. Ever since we went on our HM last month, he wants to take another vacation for our 1 year anniv. and start TTC while we're on vacation (this would be next May). So I'm not quite sure where we're going with this. I like his idea too, I'm just nervous bc we'll both be 31 1/2 by then and I just have the feeling it's gonna take a while.
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| Posted 6/16/10 4:40 PM |
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AMLMT1
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Re: How does DH feel about TTC?
DH and I are on the same page, we both come from big families so we can't wait to make a big one of our own!
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| Posted 6/16/10 8:57 PM |
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babyin2011
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Re: How does DH feel about TTC?
We both were on the same page from day 1. We knew we were going to start trying right after the wedding. Then after my first child came we knew we wanted to start trying within that same year for DC#2
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| Posted 6/16/10 9:17 PM |
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Re: How does DH feel about TTC?
DH and I thouroughly discussed this before getting married. We were on the same page then, and still on the same page now.
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| Posted 6/16/10 10:03 PM |
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Hofstra26
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Re: How does DH feel about TTC?
DH and I were always on the same page both when we were TTC my DD and now with TTC #2.
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| Posted 6/17/10 7:24 AM |
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Harlow-J
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Re: How does DH feel about TTC?
Posted by Bearcat
We were previously agreed on TTC in November-December. Ever since we went on our HM last month, he wants to take another vacation for our 1 year anniv. and start TTC while we're on vacation (this would be next May). So I'm not quite sure where we're going with this. I like his idea too, I'm just nervous bc we'll both be 31 1/2 by then and I just have the feeling it's gonna take a while.
I'm 31, DH will be 35 in August....we got pregnant the 2nd month of trying. Your eggs are still ripe at 31! 
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| Posted 6/17/10 7:27 AM |
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miamimerger
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Re: How does DH feel about TTC?
We wouldn't have started TTC if we weren't 100% ready to try!
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| Posted 6/17/10 8:43 AM |
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CloudNine
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Re: How does DH feel about TTC?
Dh has 2 kids from a previous relationship so he always said that we can TTC whenever i wanted since he already had kids.
he is very go with the flow about it and sometimes it botehrs me cuz i want him to want it as bad as me.
this past weekend though we were talking with friends about kids names and diapers and he started talking about changing poop diapers and how he has no problem with it and then he was like "man we need to have a little baby...i need to get you knocked up" lol. i loved hearing him say that hehe
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| Posted 6/17/10 8:50 AM |
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Its4Real
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Re: How does DH feel about TTC?
I guess I am the odd one out. DH was ready b/4 I was. If it were up to him we would have gotten preggers on the honeymoon. Do not get me wrong I want a child, but I am so scared at the same time. Dh says we will be ok, but now that we are actually going to start trying I am hyperventalating! it is scary and exciting at all the same time.
I do not think there is ever going to be "the right time" so now is the best time more than any.
Not to mention in a perfect world I will be preggers fall/winter so my baby can be born in warm weather!
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| Posted 6/17/10 10:07 AM |
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Nik211
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Re: How does DH feel about TTC?
Posted by Bearcat
We were previously agreed on TTC in November-December. Ever since we went on our HM last month, he wants to take another vacation for our 1 year anniv. and start TTC while we're on vacation (this would be next May). So I'm not quite sure where we're going with this. I like his idea too, I'm just nervous bc we'll both be 31 1/2 by then and I just have the feeling it's gonna take a while.
We were in the same position kind of - we moved last September and we figured by this June we'd start trying, we thought that 9 months in the new house would be enough time to get the house where we wanted it to be and that we'd have nothing holding us back when it came to trying BUT now it's june and we both aren't quite as ready as we thought we'd be There are still a ton of things we want to do in the house, we're still waiting for our tax credit money (to help us do a lot of the things in the house we wanted to do) and we wanted 1 more vacation 
About a month ago I said to DH that I felt like we needed 1 last hoorah before we tried - so we booked a romantic trip for this summer...I'm glad we are doing it  we only took 1 real vacation so far (our HM) and we both wanted 1 more trip together before we tried...
I'm glad that DH and I are on the same page, we already promised that if 1 of us isn't ready closer to December that we will tell - I don't wany any resentment or any regrets - I know people fall in love with the child and nobody ever says they regret a child but I don't think either one of us should feel forced into something we aren't ready for...it turns out we both weren't ready this summer like we thought we would be...although I think I will def be ready in the winter - I am scared but Mommyhood is def caling me...
I think you should do the last vacation - but why not try to convince your DH to do it a little bit sooner?
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| Posted 6/17/10 1:00 PM |
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duchess9678
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Re: How does DH feel about TTC?
Posted by Bearcat
We were previously agreed on TTC in November-December. Ever since we went on our HM last month, he wants to take another vacation for our 1 year anniv. and start TTC while we're on vacation (this would be next May). So I'm not quite sure where we're going with this. I like his idea too, I'm just nervous bc we'll both be 31 1/2 by then and I just have the feeling it's gonna take a while.
Listen to your feelings....you may be the exception but most pple i know who are having a hard time, always somehow knew they would. I think our intuitions are usually right
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| Posted 6/17/10 3:37 PM |
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Re: How does DH feel about TTC?
I was ready before DH but he wanted to wait a little longer - to finish school and start job search etc. . .we are both emotionally ready but he just wanted to be a little more stable. . so we agreed to wait until a certain time. . he is out of school (still no job!!!! but trying hard) and we just started anyway. . I'm 37 so waiting a few more years really doesn't feel like an option for us. . ideally we would have waited until he was working so we have more wiggle room. . but right now we're still good with my job and my job has amazing preggo benefits/insurance so we're going!! also knowing that at our age things can take a WHILE. . . .
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| Posted 6/18/10 9:20 AM |
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