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TiggerBounce
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I need recommendations for someone I go talk to about my PPD
Here is a link to my post from a week or so ago.
I need to find someone to talk to. A professional. I've tried talking with DH, who has been SUPER amazing (despite his previous silly comments) and supportive, but he can't help me.
I find my thoughts are all scrambled up that I can't get them out, nor can I explain it. DH feels that I need to speak with someone.
My first concern was admitting that I need this help- I still have not verbally said it. I get teary just thinking about it.
My second concern is finding someone- I see my OB for my 6wk ck up this Wednesday, however their offices are in Westbury, and Queens - I live in Riverhead. I'm afraid they will have a recommendation for someone in Nassau (TOO far for me).
And my third concern is finding/making the time to go. I work full time then have to pick up Troy from daycare, leaving weekends the only "free" time, and DH often works, so I run into, who will watch Troy.
I still have too much "pride" (I dont even know if that is it) to say something to family or friends, and in turn ask them to watch Troy. KWIM?
Sorry this was so long . . . if you have made it this far, thank you and if you have any recommendations for someone I can go speak to, as DH an dI feel I have PPD.
Thank you.
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Re: I need recommendations for someone I go talk to about my PPD
You have a unique situation for which I think professional help is the way to go. Check with your insurance for mental health coverage and they could recommend someone in the area.
If you need to reveal your struggles to family and friends, I think that could be to your benefit. Don't think about all the reasons NOT to get help, think of all the reasons you need to go! 
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| Posted 11/15/10 9:18 AM |
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skinny
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Re: I need recommendations for someone I go talk to about my PPD
Maybe your insurance company can recommend someone near your job? Maybe you could go before work or during lunch?
You did such a beautiful thing for your SIL!
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| Posted 11/15/10 9:21 AM |
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TiggerBounce
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Re: I need recommendations for someone I go talk to about my PPD
Posted by CouponKT
You have a unique situation for which I think professional help is the way to go. Check with your insurance for mental health coverage and they could recommend someone in the area.
If you need to reveal your struggles to family and friends, I think that could be to your benefit. Don't think about all the reasons NOT to get help, think of all the reasons you need to go!
I think what is most troubling for me to tell certain people, is b/c I fear it won't be taken seriously.
Two examples when I've tried talking to family:
1 person and she seemed to be a "know-it-all" who went on & on about how things were for her (more in a "it was worse for me" way), which didn't help.
And when I have said little things (that I guess were my small cries for help) someone, she didnt seem to genuinely care, but rather post on me wall on FB- to me, that is not caring, that's trying to make it LOOK like you care.
I know that is all silly reasons NOT to talk to somone, but those are 2 people who SHOULD care and help and I feel like it's useless, in those cases.
Another reason (excuse, whatver) I don't talk about it is b/c I don't want people to tiptoe around me and feel like they can't talk to me or tell me things. For example- something came to light last week about something that happened my first week home- I was mad at DH for not telling me, and he said "You had just gotten home, I didn't want to get you upset."
That made me MORE upset, I told him "I'm not a glass, I wont break"
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| Posted 11/15/10 9:37 AM |
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TiggerBounce
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Re: I need recommendations for someone I go talk to about my PPD
Posted by skinny
Maybe your insurance company can recommend someone near your job? Maybe you could go before work or during lunch?
You did such a beautiful thing for your SIL!
Thank you. 
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| Posted 11/15/10 9:37 AM |
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CouponKT
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Re: I need recommendations for someone I go talk to about my PPD
Jill, a friend of mine had PPD and is a great resource of information on it. I just sent her a message and hopefully she can give me a name or someone you can talk to
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| Posted 11/15/10 11:28 AM |
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Re: I need recommendations for someone I go talk to about my PPD
Posted by MsKitty1274
Here is a link to my post from a week or so ago.
I need to find someone to talk to. A professional. I've tried talking with DH, who has been SUPER amazing (despite his previous silly comments) and supportive, but he can't help me.
I find my thoughts are all scrambled up that I can't get them out, nor can I explain it. DH feels that I need to speak with someone.
My first concern was admitting that I need this help- I still have not verbally said it. I get teary just thinking about it.
My second concern is finding someone- I see my OB for my 6wk ck up this Wednesday, however their offices are in Westbury, and Queens - I live in Riverhead. I'm afraid they will have a recommendation for someone in Nassau (TOO far for me).
And my third concern is finding/making the time to go. I work full time then have to pick up Troy from daycare, leaving weekends the only "free" time, and DH often works, so I run into, who will watch Troy.
I still have too much "pride" (I dont even know if that is it) to say something to family or friends, and in turn ask them to watch Troy. KWIM?
Sorry this was so long . . . if you have made it this far, thank you and if you have any recommendations for someone I can go speak to, as DH an dI feel I have PPD.
Thank you.
where are you located? i suffered from PPD with dd and now with ds.
i have ALOT of resources. please feel free to fm me and if you need someone to talk to please, please let me know. i'd like to pay it forward!
edited: sorry i realized you said you were in riverhead! here is a link to resources in NY.
PPD resources in NY
Postpartum resources on LI
this is the support group that i went to and they were amazing. it really helped alot! They are located in smithtown.
Mother's circle of hope
Message edited 11/15/2010 12:47:26 PM.
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saraH
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Re: I need recommendations for someone I go talk to about my PPD
Ask your OB.
When I called my OB, they took me very seriously and got me a few names.
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| Posted 11/15/10 12:40 PM |
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Re: I need recommendations for someone I go talk to about my PPD
i just wanted to say that i am so sorry you are afeeling this way and, while i haven't had my baby yet, i have been have suffered bouts of depression throughout my life and have had a lot of issues during this pregnancy as well. i know exactly what you mean about peoplenot taking you seriously or acting like you are going to break. if one more person starts their sentence to me with "i want to ask you this, but i don't want you to get mad..." i am going to snap. and really, everybody thinks that depression and PPD are just "bad moods" that you can choose to get over. it's hormonal. it is a chemical imbalance. it's not just a bad day or a crummy mood. women are hospitalized for this every day and it needs to be taken seriously. sorry, it just makes me so angry when you're obviously making a cry for help and others blow it off like it's nothing.....
i've spoken to my OB about my concerns regarding this numerous times and they didn't seem to be too worried yet, but they did refer me to a LCSW whom i have yet to call.....for the same reasons as you. it's just really hard, for whatever reason, to reach out....especially when you are feeling so down and overwhelmed. it's almost like just when you need the help the most is when it is the most impossible to help yourself......
i'm planning to give the LCSW my OB reccomended a call soon...hopefully before i have this baby, just to get a head start on what i am sure is going to be a problem for me....this is their website if smithtown is not too much of a drive for you.
http://www.lcswcounseling.com/About-Us.html
please take care of yourself and good luck <3 you've made the hardest step....
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