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PurpleC
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Time to do something about noise above us
Ok so I think I posted this before but I thought it went away but it hasn't. My DH and I live downstairs in a co-op. My neighbor above started sleeping with her boyfriend around Labor Day last year. I know the exact date cause thats when it started to sound like the ceiling above my bedroom would fall down on top of us. I texted her not thinking it was that but her cats asking if she was ok. I didn't realize it was her and her new boyfriend having fun. It was going on at all hours and then it would stop. I honestly don't know what to do. It finally got to the point last night at 4am when we heard it again and my DH freaked out. He gets up early to go to work and could not fall back asleep. They are are a really nice young couple. Last week we hung out with them outside and invited them inside our home to give them a tour. It wakes me up too and I couldn't fall back asleep. It doesn't last long, I do have my ceiling fan on and my air purifier for some noise so it's not like my room is quiet. If I confront them what do I say? Whenever I see them I want to ask how was your 4am :BabyDance? I have called the management company and she said I could say something or they will send out a letter. This time I really have to do something but what?
Thanks
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Posted 5/15/11 7:28 AM  |
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Little-J-Mommy
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Re: Time to do something about noise above us
It's a sensitive issue but I would def say something. Since you're friends with her....maybe give her an ad for a sale at a carpet company with a cute comment about how she may need to put some carpet down in her bedroom for more privacy
I'd say something also like I like you guys but don't need to know every time you
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| Posted 5/15/11 9:17 AM |
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Re: Time to do something about noise above us
Posted by Little-J-Mommy
It's a sensitive issue but I would def say something. Since you're friends with her....maybe give her an ad for a sale at a carpet company with a cute comment about how she may need to put some carpet down in her bedroom for more privacy
I'd say something also like I like you guys but don't need to know every time you
I agree. You're lucky you are friendly with her because I think it would be a lot more awkward if it was someone random, or someone you didn't like.
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| Posted 5/15/11 10:32 AM |
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maybesoon
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Re: Time to do something about noise above us
you could say something to her, but what, hey can you stop having $ex with your boyfriend 
the coop board will not do anything about it but maybe send a letter. I had 4 adults and a 2 year old living above me in a one bedroom apt up ALL HOURS of the night for almost a year. I was pregnant and it was the worst time ever, living on the first floor stinks
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| Posted 5/15/11 10:45 AM |
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PurpleC
Miracles Do Come True
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Re: Time to do something about noise above us
I know what can I say? Im not sure if you know but the walls are really thin and we hear EVERYTHING!! Can you please have sex between the hours of 7am and 12am? She doesn't have enough carpeting on her floor but honestly what will that do? It's her mattress I think. I was thinking of putting a letter in her mailbox just saying not sure if you are aware but the neighbors surrounding you can hear you having sex, you may want to invest in more carpeting or new bed. Im sure the man next to her bedroom can hear her too.
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| Posted 5/15/11 11:37 AM |
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twicethefun
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Re: Time to do something about noise above us
would definitely talk straight to her first. I would tell her the truth and give her a few days to remedy the problem. I am sure she does not want this brought up publicly. If she does nothing to make things better than I would ask them to send a letter.
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| Posted 5/15/11 12:05 PM |
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Re: Time to do something about noise above us
Since you are friendly with her, I think you should speak with her. She'll probably take it worse hearing from the board or receiving a letter when she knows you and knows you live downstairs- if you don't go directly to her first she'll feel like you went behind her back and might feel hurt that you didn't just come to her.
Next time you spend time with her, (try to talk with her when its just her, not her and her boyfriend, and not with your dh around either, woman to woman) say something along the lines of, "This is awkward for me to say but I have to talk to you about something. I think you're so sweet and I am so glad we are neighbors, but for the past few months I have heard an increase of noise in the middle of the night coming from your apartment upstairs. I know we must be on different schedules but its so hard for us because we need to wake up early, is there anything you can do, maybe add a rug or something?.." say it very sweetly and innocently. A Rug, a new bed, may help but likely and hopefully she'll be more mindful of her activities and timing.
Good Luck
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| Posted 5/15/11 6:25 PM |
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PurpleC
Miracles Do Come True
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Re: Time to do something about noise above us
Posted by ThinkingQuietly
Since you are friendly with her, I think you should speak with her. She'll probably take it worse hearing from the board or receiving a letter when she knows you and knows you live downstairs- if you don't go directly to her first she'll feel like you went behind her back and might feel hurt that you didn't just come to her.
Next time you spend time with her, (try to talk with her when its just her, not her and her boyfriend, and not with your dh around either, woman to woman) say something along the lines of, "This is awkward for me to say but I have to talk to you about something. I think you're so sweet and I am so glad we are neighbors, but for the past few months I have heard an increase of noise in the middle of the night coming from your apartment upstairs. I know we must be on different schedules but its so hard for us because we need to wake up early, is there anything you can do, maybe add a rug or something?.." say it very sweetly and innocently. A Rug, a new bed, may help but likely and hopefully she'll be more mindful of her activities and timing.
Good Luck
That sounds really good! Thanks! I did have a moment with her in the laundry room and I didn't have the guts to say something a while back. I think this is the right way to do it!
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| Posted 5/15/11 8:11 PM |
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