Do you ever feel....

Do you ever feel like other moms with babies the same age as your own have their acts together a bit more? My DS is 3 months old and sometimes it seems other families with babies that age have such well behaved babies at restaurants, their babies don't scream every time the stroller stops for a second, and it some are even at the point they're going on planes on vacation, meanwhile sometimes for me it's a production to get him out everyday without him having a meltdown! Does anyone else ever feel this way?

Re: Do you ever feel....

hahahahah every.damn.day. And mine is almost 3 YEARS old!!!!

Wanted to add: Please don't worry about your 3mo old DS!!!! An infant crying is totally different than a bold little miscreant toddler, kwim??
Every parent knows what it's like with an infant, and he's not acting out, he's just still adjusting to this big new world.

Message edited 7/25/2011 8:48:46 AM.

Re: Do you ever feel....

Yes. But I also realize I can't blame myself for it.
DD has ALWAYS been difficult.
From day 1 of her life
She was a terrible newborn. She never slept. She cried constantly. We couldn't even take her to the supermarket at that age.

Now at 1 year old, she is bad- but in a different way. I could NEVER take her on a plane, or long car trip or any kind of vacation. We can barely survive a trip to the store.

I have come to realize that some kids are just more difficult than others. I know I have done nothing to cause this...I really feel she was just born this way. I don't think we did anything wrong and she is too young to understand discipline etc.

My only hope is that when she is a bit older- and we can discipline her, etc- things might get easier.

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yes and no.

i see other mom's of kids DS's age and the kids sit still for more than a second and are not causing trouble. DS is the exact opposite and I sometimes envy that.

but do i feel they have it more together? no. DS is just a very feisty child and no amount of me having it "together" would change his behavior.

Re: Do you ever feel....

All the time.
From getting their DC off bottles, dentist appts, eating healthy, no sugar or candy and STTN I feel every mother has done it better.

I'm a FTWM and I'm doing the best I can. That's what I keep telling myself.

Message edited 7/25/2011 9:21:31 AM.

Re: Do you ever feel....

This is me! DS is 2 months and is great at home...and all of a sudden when we go out he screams and cries sometimes. I feel like he is the only baby that cries when we're out. I feel like other people are looking at me and thinking I'm not a good mom. (I know that's my own issue though.) I've had to take him out of the car seat and walk with him in my arms and push the cart in stores and I've also had to leave my grocery cart with a clerk because he was so upset. I think he hates the car seat (it's too hot!). Recently I tried using the baby carrier in the store and our experience was 100 times better.

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I remember feeling that way when I had 1-give yourself time.

If there is one thing I know, you can't control a 3 month old, they control you.

Also, try not to compare yourself to other moms. They may look like they have it all together in the snapshot of time you see them, but the truth of the matter is we all get overwhelmed at some point

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Yes 100%. Especially at that age. I remember going to a few GTG's and just leaving to get back in the car and go home would take me at least double the amount of time it took everyone else. I was amazed at how well the other moms had it together.

Now that he's 16 months, I feel like things are a bit easier for me, but mostly because I try to plan ahead or start doing things earlier than I really think I need to. Still don't have my act fully together, lol, but it's better. You'll see things will fall into place a bit better - you're a new mom! It's normal!

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Absolutely. Especially when DD was going through her "no naps and cry all day and up all night" phase btw 3-4 months old.

But then I hear about families that have less of a clue about what they're doing than I do, and I feel better.

Seriously though, I've learned to be careful who I envy.

Message edited 7/25/2011 9:39:31 AM.