Spin-off to my post...Am I the only loon who will feel "bad" for not inviting the whole class?

Still dont know the protocol, but if we can mail them home and I let DS choose- why do I feel bad ?

Honestly, without school friends I already have 12 kids on my list which is family and friends DC's And thats with making some cuts I didn't want to make....

Tell me I am ridiculous please

Re: Spin-off to my post...Am I the only loon who will feel "bad" for not inviting the whole class?

No, you shouldn't feel bad. As the kids get older I have noticed that they do more boy/boy and girl/girl parties. I usually invite the whole class but you don't have to.

Re: Spin-off to my post...Am I the only loon who will feel "bad" for not inviting the whole class?

I haven't crossed that bridge yet, but I would feel funny inviting the WHOLE class when I don't even know most of the kids!

I would say stick to inviting who you know (or who DC talks about most) plus maybe a few more. Don't feel bad!

Re: Spin-off to my post...Am I the only loon who will feel "bad" for not inviting the whole class?

I have never ever invited the whole class. Between my family, family friends kids and a entire class we would have 50 kids.
The most I have done is invited ALL the girls in the class. I only did that once. Honestly, Jordan has been to 3 parties where all the kids were invited out of hundreds of parties. IT is not the norm, do not feel bad!!!!

Re: Spin-off to my post...Am I the only loon who will feel "bad" for not inviting the whole class?

I don't think it is bad at all!

In fact, my daughter is in her 4th year of school if you count preschool, and I do not intend on EVER inviting the whole class.

She is not friends with the whole class, she has plenty of friends that she has made over the years as well as cousins, and each list her guestlist gets bigger as it is.

And lets face it, birthday parties are expensive!

When she turned 3, we had about 6 friends and her 2 cousins who came to the party.

When she turned 4, we had about 7-8 friends, and her 2 cousins.

When she turned 5, we had about 16 friends, and 5 cousins, because the family got bigger. A few siblings came along also and I felt bad not inviting them to join in!

So I don't think we will ever invite the whole class. She has a great bash with her friends that she sees on a regular basis, her playdate friends and her cousins, and that's good enough!

Re: Spin-off to my post...Am I the only loon who will feel "bad" for not inviting the whole class?

See, in kindergarten at I'd say just about every party we went to...ALL of his class was invited

There were maybe 2-3 missing but I'm guessing it was because they just couldnt make it

Maybe it was just a kindergarten thing...As it is, its awkward because his b-day is so early in the year and the poor kid is only 1 of 3 boys that are in this class from his class last year (all the others were placed with a different teacher including my DS's best buddy)

Re: Spin-off to my post...Am I the only loon who will feel "bad" for not inviting the whole class?

THIS is why I'm so happy both my boys were born in August .

Re: Spin-off to my post...Am I the only loon who will feel "bad" for not inviting the whole class?

But you shouldn't feel bad about not inviting everyone. Everyone has budgets they need to work within. When the parties got too expensive because I was including the whole class & best friends in other classes, we stopped doing it (3rd-4th grade).

I was clear with my kids that we were having a smaller group of kids & not inviting the whole class. That they were not supposed to discuss their outside party in school because some kids would feel hurt about it & we can't invite everyone. Then for good measure, I said "if I hear that you're talking about it & kids are feeling hurt, I'll cancel the party". Harsh maybe, but I had already seen another little girl in my dd's class in tears because she found out she wasn't invited to some other little girl's party.

Re: Spin-off to my post...Am I the only loon who will feel "bad" for not inviting the whole class?

You aren't a loon. I felt bad too. I invited Robbie's entire 1st grade class to his 7th birthday. When I got mostly yes responses I had to schedule a 2nd party at home for family and friends. I spent SO MUCH money.

After that I didn't feel bad having him only invite a few of his best friends only! Last year he invited 4 of his friends to a barbecue. I limit it a lot because I never want it to be EVERY boy in the class EXCEPT X. Ya know?

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Re: Spin-off to my post...Am I the only loon who will feel "bad" for not inviting the whole class?

We invited everyone until Kindergarten. Now I'll just invite the boys.

Re: Spin-off to my post...Am I the only loon who will feel "bad" for not inviting the whole class?

dont feel bad!! I invited the whole class last year and honestly..I felt funny about it. I hardly knew who some of the kids were, didnt know their parents, and it was clear that DD wasnt even friends with half these kids. It was awkward. This year Im doing all girls probably. Dont feel bad though. These things get very very expensive!!