TTC - Need some Advice

Hi Ladies
I'm new to LIF. I've read many of your posts which are so helpful.
I'm hoping you girls can give me some advice and comfort during this TTC process.
here's my story.
DH and I have been TTC for about a year now. We started out just trying to see what happens. Then I began using CBEFM, eating carrots, drinking raspberry leaf tea, etc. DH and I tried not to make TTC a chore. DH put a lot of pressure on himself which then resulted in performance issues. This was very upsetting for both of us because we wanted to try but he wasnt able to. Recently DH went to the doctor and the dr prescribe Cialis to help relive the pressure for him. This will be the first month he's going to start using it. I try not to tell DH dates but now I feel like it has to be planned bc DH has to Cialis 6 hours before. Do you ladies have any recommendations or advice? Has anyones DH used Cialis?
TIA!

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Is he only having these issues since TTC?

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My Dh had performance issues when we really started working towards ttc. He no longer has them. He knows we are on a "schedule" but I do not tell him too much about it....like I won't say "I am ovulating today!" like I used to, because that is when he had some difficulty. The pressure!!! But, he does know that we have to BD on that day...without me making a big deal about. I hope the cialis works for him...and maybe print out some anti anxiety strategies that you guys can do together....?

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DH started having these issues when TTC. I think it's the pressure.
I'm just wondering how/if i should tell DH the dates so he knows when to take the Cialis.
Thats a great idea to print out anti anxiety strategies. My DH is stressed with work and the whole TTC thing. so that should help. Fingers crossed.

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I can definitely relate - you have FM!

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I do not have experience here, but how about sending him a sexy text in the middle of the days you plan on BD that way he is ready. Without having to say you are o'ing.

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i would talk 2 ur dh...is he ok with you saying ok these r they days we have to go for it and u will take the meds

the pressure could be off bc he kows the meds will help

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I like the idea of the text as a hint :) DH hasnt taken the pill yet so I'm not sure how his body will react but I'm hoping it will take the pressure off and being he can only take it on certain days I might have to give him an idea of when.