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Know what I hate?
Reading a few posts here tonight, it reminds that I hate what damage infertility really does to a person. (I mean, beyond the obvious), the mental anguish, the beating yourself up for 100 reasons, the wondering if you are a "bad" person or if you "didn't react right". It sux so bad, like you aren't already in enough pain. I am so so sorry that this vicious cycle of infertility keeps going around and is sucking more women into it. My heart truly breaks for each and everyone of you. I remember it all so vivdly. Pls remember there is no right or wrong way to feel. You do what you need to do to get through it and that is all you need to worry about!
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ThePinkGoose
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Re: Know what I hate?
Thank you I think a lot of us needed to hear that. I know I did 
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babyart
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PennyCat
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It's so true... infertility is so much more than the inability to get and/or stay pregnant
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| Posted 2/22/12 9:54 PM |
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gina409
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Re: Know what I hate?
Posted by PennyCat
It's so true... infertility is so much more than the inability to get and/or stay pregnant
it is strange bc i almost feel like i do not even remember who i was before all this
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| Posted 2/22/12 10:13 PM |
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Posted by gina409
it is strange bc i almost feel like i do not even remember who i was before all this
IF changed me so much, and still has a lasting impact. I wish I could say it was all change for the better but it isn't. It leaves scars on your psyche.
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| Posted 2/22/12 10:17 PM |
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PennyCat
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Posted by BaseballWidow
Posted by gina409
it is strange bc i almost feel like i do not even remember who i was before all this
IF changed me so much, and still has a lasting impact. I wish I could say it was all change for the better but it isn't. It leaves scars on your psyche.
The same for me... I think its changed me in ways both positive and negative... but definitely one of the negative is no matter WHAT doctor it is, I always dread going to appointments and expect the worst.  I never had this type of anxiety before appts for literally no reason at all.....
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| Posted 2/22/12 10:44 PM |
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InShock
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Posted by gina409
Posted by PennyCat
It's so true... infertility is so much more than the inability to get and/or stay pregnant
it is strange bc i almost feel like i do not even remember who i was before all this
I look at pictures from the past, and classify them as "before infertility" and "during/after infertility" - like I was literally a different person beforehand. It SUCKS.
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PennyCat
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Jib
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Posted by InShock
Posted by gina409
Posted by PennyCat
It's so true... infertility is so much more than the inability to get and/or stay pregnant
it is strange bc i almost feel like i do not even remember who i was before all this
I look at pictures from the past, and classify them as "before infertility" and "during/after infertility" - like I was literally a different person beforehand. It SUCKS.
Yea I could do that with my pictures too, I think I've gotten progressively larger after each loss!!  
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bookworm
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Posted by InShock
Posted by gina409
Posted by PennyCat
It's so true... infertility is so much more than the inability to get and/or stay pregnant
it is strange bc i almost feel like i do not even remember who i was before all this
I look at pictures from the past, and classify them as "before infertility" and "during/after infertility" - like I was literally a different person beforehand. It SUCKS.
This is all so true. Sometimes I look back at our wedding photos just to relive a time when the future lay at my feet full of excitement and optimism, and I think to myself: that happy, naive girl had no idea what was coming her way. Three months later I had my first loss, and that changed everything.
Now I just expect life to deal me lemons.
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LIRascal
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Posted by bookworm
This is all so true. Sometimes I look back at our wedding photos just to relive a time when the future lay at my feet full of excitement and optimism, and I think to myself: that happy, naive girl had no idea what was coming her way. Three months later I had my first loss, and that changed everything.
Now I just expect life to deal me lemons.
Yes... DH and I always look to our wedded bliss ignorance as "ah, the good 'ol days....." A couple of stupid, clueless kids.
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| Posted 2/23/12 9:00 AM |
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RGEC47
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Agree to all!!!!!
It has become such a huge weight on our shoulders, that we have become somewhat jaded and do not carry the 'same' hope we used to. Now we hope for promising bloodwork, ultrasounds, phone calls, etc.
I never tire in saying this, but you are all so strong, much stronger than you give yourselves credit for.
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It's SO true. It's so much added stress to what should be a totally normal thing for woman to do. Get pregnant, have a baby. Done. It's definitley made me more bitter towards life in general.
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| Posted 2/23/12 11:42 AM |
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shelby34
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Re: Know what I hate?
Amen to that!
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| Posted 2/23/12 2:47 PM |
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I completely agree. I have made friends... but I have lost friends. People I once thought would be there for me....who knew IVF was in my future...never called or asked.
I have learned that I am a strong a$$ person. I want to see the light at the end of the tunnel but it is so hard.
You cope.....its much more than getting pregnant.
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