BTDT baby crying

in your opinion, can you spoil a 6 month old? I have 8 month old twins who are really 6 month adjusted age. One of them is VERY needy and has recently started screaming ALL THE TIME. We think it is an attention thing. All of her obvious needs are met.
My answer is throw her in the bjorn and go about the day best you can with both babies. My partner is not sure this is the answer and she is home with them.
So I'm curious what your experiences have been with this.
TIA

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No. I do not believe you can spoil them under a year old at all.

AJ when through a stage of needed constant attention and comfort. I know it may feel overwhelming (especially with two) but I always felt like there'd be a time when I wish she'd let me hold her. That time came fast enough. Just last night my dear sweet 3yr old told me to go away and didn't want anything to do with me all night. If I poked my head in her room (and I did) she screamed and got all worked up. This went on for 2hours. Then she fell asleep and she continued her anti-mommy gig this morning too.

Point is. It may not FEEL enjoyable but I made my mind up that it was just nature's way of giving me more time with her. I never let her cry at that age. I picked her up. For us the Bjorn didn't work for us so we held her. There was a time she'd scream if I sat down holding her, I had to be standing. I finally learned a trick of sitting down without ever moving my upper body so it was like I was standing. LOL

My twin brothers came to us 3months preemies and at 3mo old. I remember one always wanted to be held. Even way back then I'd hold him. Time really does fly. Those little squirts are now 21!

My advice?

Hold your baby girl.

Message edited 5/15/2012 10:47:53 AM.

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This is the age when separation anxiety sets in. You can talk to her from other rooms as you go about your business. They are also most likely starting to get ready to crawl, walk etc. Sometimes they get pissy when starting developmental milestones. Good luck! I have twin boys and this was a hard age

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i follow attachment parenting as close as i can, so my answer would be no you cannot spoil a 6 month old.

i know it's frustrating, but hang in there! your baby needs you/your partner!

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i don't think you can "spoil" a 6 month old, but i DO think you can form bad habits that may be hard to get rid of later on.
If you get the baby used to being carried all the time now, how will you cope at 1 or later?

just something to think about.


i know my ILs wanted to pick up DS and carry him around constantly. i would not let them. If he was fussy or needed something, he was picked up. otherwise he was in his bouncy chair or playard. I'm glad i stuck to it because now he is very independent and does not need me for everything. yes, he has moments when he'll cry when i leave the room, but for the most part he's fine staying with any family member. i'm grateful for that!

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I think it depends on the child.

IMO, at 6 months old I knew that my son was sometimes "faking" a little cry/whine to get my attention. I could tell there were hints of manipulation if that makes sense.

Before that time, I ALWAYS ran to him if he cried, but once he hit around 6 months and I started to sense that he was faking a bit, I was not as quick to pick him up.

We also did CIO at 6 months old and I believe that the time was right because he cried for 10 minutes the first night and by the 4th night he did not cry at all (never cried longer than 10 minutes!!!). Before 6 months, I feel like I never let him cry for more than a second, comfort-nursed him 8+ times/night, etc.)

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Emmy went through this stage sorta. When I was working a lot as soon as she would see me she only wanted me, and to have me hold her ALL DAY. Once I became a SAHM she only wanted my husband and for him to hold her ALL DAY. She was 6 months with the me attachment and 14 months with my husband. Sawyer is 6 months today and needs to be help ALL.THE.TIME. It does get frustrating, but I try to do what I can when I can. I have a Moby and a Boba 3G so I wear him a lot, but there are times he has to be down and he cries a lot. It breaks my heart, but I can't do everything with him. I just can't. I don't believe you can really spoil a baby this young, but I do also believe they are starting to learn self soothing and how to be independant. I would say 90% of the time I "give in", but I do let him cry sometimes.

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Posted by lcherian

i follow attachment parenting as close as i can, so my answer would be no you cannot spoil a 6 month old.

i know it's frustrating, but hang in there! your baby needs you/your partner!

Message edited 5/16/2012 11:44:49 AM.

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No, you can't spoil them at that age. I think putting your baby into a carrier is a great idea. They're near you, safe, it helps them feel secure, AND you've got your hands free to do other things. Win win for all!