Updated. DH wants to go to FL when I'm 27.5 wks

Updated: Decided I was ok with DH going to FL. We have a couple of people keeping a closer eye on their phone this weekend just in case... and I'll have visitors each night.

thanks so much for all of the feedback!



Hi - there are a lot of issues involved, but basically:

DH sprung it on me a couple of days ago that he wants to join his mother and sister (w/her kids & husband) on a trip to FL *next week* that they've had planned for months.

It would be for four days (27w3d through 27w6d).

I'm the type to usually be fine with him doing any activity/trip that he wants...I just feel uncomfortable with the timing of this trip in my pregnancy, plus that it's last minute.

I have a lot of back pain, trouble getting around, low stamina, swelling, that sort of thing, but so far everything with the babies is going well -- Thank God!

However, reading other people's stories here makes me nervous that things sometimes change on a dime.

He said he would fly back immediately if anything happened, but that's (a) easier said than done and (b) not the same as having him here.

He also said that he won't go if I really don't want him to, but that he really wants to go and it would mean a lot to him to "have my blessing."

I understand why he wants to go, I'm just feeling torn.

Thoughts on him going?

ETA: it would be him going without me. The family that I have really close by (5 mins away) are the other people who are also going on the trip. My parents are 30-40 minutes away, though.

Message edited 7/25/2012 7:08:46 PM.

Re: Yay or Nay: DH wants to go to FL when I'm 27.5 wks

Dr H will def tell you no.
At this point, I couldnt imagine getting on a plane, but if its something you think you can do and might enjoy.. maybe consider it. you shoudl not be packing/carrying a bag... and the airport can be superstressful.. make sure you dont wait on any lines.
Good luck!

*ETA that if I had family closeby, Id have no problem with him going without me.

Message edited 7/18/2012 8:53:25 PM.

Re: Yay or Nay: DH wants to go to FL when I'm 27.5 wks

Hey! Yes, it would be him going without me. I definitely couldn't withstand (let alone enjoy) traveling at this point, lol. And wouldn't want to be away from the docs/LIJ.

The family that I have really close by (5 mins away) are the other people who are also going on the trip. My parents are 30-40 minutes away, though.

Re: Yay or Nay: DH wants to go to FL when I'm 27.5 wks

I say nay, dh says yay. My reasoning is that he will have plenty of time to travel after the babies are born. Im only 17 wks and need a lot of help cookiing and cleaning, i cant imagine how ill feel in 10 weeks! Dh says focus on the positive that u have no serious issues! No help, sorry!

Re: Yay or Nay: DH wants to go to FL when I'm 27.5 wks

i would say yay if i was feeling ok

would u consider staying with your parents?

Re: Yay or Nay: DH wants to go to FL when I'm 27.5 wks

i wouldnt go. take the time to relax and have time to yourself.

my DH travels a lot - and says the same thing - that he would take the first flight out.

hopefully you will be safe and nothing will happen, but i really dont think you should go

Yay or Nay: DH wants to go to FL when I'm 27.5 wks

I'm sure I'm just traumatized by my pregnancy and I realize that many have a much easier time, but I would want DH not to go. If it was a business trip that would be different ... but to go hang with his family, I think there's plenty of time to do that in the future.

Re: Yay or Nay: DH wants to go to FL when I'm 27.5 wks

based on my own experiences I would say no, but like the pp I had a traumatic experience.

I had a regular appt at my ob at 24wk0d and was sent to the hospital immediately when they discovered I was 1 cm dilated and 50% effaced. DH was away on business at the time and couldn't get back until the next day. Luckily my mom and sister drove down to the city to be with me so I was only alone a few hours, but it was really scary and I wished DH would have been there.

If he doesn't need to go to FL, I wouldn't recommend he travels because you just never know what could happen.

Message edited 7/19/2012 12:32:40 PM.

Re: Yay or Nay: DH wants to go to FL when I'm 27.5 wks

My DH went away around the same time when I was pregnant. It was totally okay and to be honest, I wasn't much fun to be around any way!

Now, you can chill out and just rest!

Yay or Nay: DH wants to go to FL when I'm 27.5 wks

I would tell him to go...if you arent feeling 100% can you stay with your parents or have them or a friend stay with you??

Re: Yay or Nay: DH wants to go to FL when I'm 27.5 wks

DH went to AC for a few days for his brothers bachelor party when I was (I think) 29 weeks.

I was totally fine with it. I had no complications or indications that it would be a bad idea.

Re: Yay or Nay: DH wants to go to FL when I'm 27.5 wks

sorry..just read that your DH was going without you

I think that would be okay if you had family close to help you.

Message edited 7/20/2012 8:53:16 PM.