In honor of our baby boy we lost 8/13/10 ..

(exactly 2 years ago) ..


What about this journey makes you thankful?


Seriously this day 2 years ago was nothing but doom and gloom ... it makes me thankful for the things I DO have! This year, my journey makes me thankful that there are women out there like my surrogate who are willing to give up their bodies for women like me! Without her, we would not be in this situation. Maybe I would be with another surrogate... who knows... but my surrogate specifically is such a wonderfully pleasant woman. She's a true hero who I'm honored to know for even the few short months since I've met her.


Ok, now you ladies.. What about this road makes you particularly thankful this year?

ETA: For those of you who may think there is nothing .. .think of ANY positive.. a friendship you made because of this road.. a nurse at your RE who you feel comfortable speaking to .. there has to be at least one thing!

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Theres much to be thankful for, everyday. I don't know whether my specific journey with infertility has taught me to be thankful, like would I have similar life lessons along the way if not for my experiences bc of infertility, I don't know? But I'm grateful for much these days that really doesn't need an explanation- for the field of medical science and technology, all of the nurses and drs (my dream team,) the special friends I've made along the way providing unyielding support, but most of all for the fortitude to continue. I'm thankful that I have the physical and emotional strength to fulfill my dreams. Through all the years, filled with setbacks, losses, the unknown, I've somehow kept going. Maybe I chose strength because of my feelings now, as I literally breath through contractions, struggle with preterm labor, but I can genuinely say I'm thankful for the perseverance I've learned or maybe always had. IF has showed me that I'm truly stronger than I think.

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It's taught me to put work in its proper place. When I thought about having babies in the past I was really overwhelmed with the idea of juggling teaching, which is so incredibly demanding on my emotions and personal time, with an infant.

After working this hard to get pregnant, there's no way I'm leaving my baby(ies ) in day care or with my MIL. We will tighten our belts. I will give up seniority. None of it matters as much as having that time with my children. I can see that now.

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'nough said!!!



...but because i am a lady of many words, ill add that without the journey of infertility and birth i would never have the perspective on life and parenting that i have now. i am thankful for the clarity, and i am thankful that my journey was relatively short. i am thankful that i didnt die giving birth. i am thankful that my tiny baby is growing up normally and hitting her milestones and is so far seemingly unaffected by her dramatic entrance into the world . i am thankful for what i have learned on the journey and what i will continue to learn about the world, the people close to me, and myself.
this isnt a path i would choose for myself, but as my husband once said to me, everyone has something, and if this is our "something," im thankful it's not something worse!!

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<------- always, always, always something to be thankful for!


for me it has to be my new found perspective on life. i have realized that i need to surround myself with people who are genuinely here for me, people who can support me and be happy for me. im thankful for a small handful of friends, great family and im an SO thankful for my husband. i know some people experience issues with their spouse during this journey but i can honestly say it has brought DH and i so much closer and we have such an appreciation for each other. this journey has definitely changed me as a person as much as i tried to NOT let that happen but in the end im happy with who we have become.

good post :) many for you on this day.

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Posted by FlowerWife

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'nough said!!!



...but because i am a lady of many words, ill add that without the journey of infertility and birth i would never have the perspective on life and parenting that i have now. i am thankful for the clarity, and i am thankful that my journey was relatively short. i am thankful that i didnt die giving birth. i am thankful that my tiny baby is growing up normally and hitting her milestones and is so far seemingly unaffected by her dramatic entrance into the world . i am thankful for what i have learned on the journey and what i will continue to learn about the world, the people close to me, and myself.
this isnt a path i would choose for myself, but as my husband once said to me, everyone has something, and if this is our "something," im thankful it's not something worse!!

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Posted by FlowerWife

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'nough said!!!



...but because i am a lady of many words, ill add that without the journey of infertility and birth i would never have the perspective on life and parenting that i have now. i am thankful for the clarity, and i am thankful that my journey was relatively short. i am thankful that i didnt die giving birth. i am thankful that my tiny baby is growing up normally and hitting her milestones and is so far seemingly unaffected by her dramatic entrance into the world . i am thankful for what i have learned on the journey and what i will continue to learn about the world, the people close to me, and myself.
this isnt a path i would choose for myself, but as my husband once said to me, everyone has something, and if this is our "something," im thankful it's not something worse!!

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I am so thankful for my family and my DH! They have been with me through everything! I also thankful for learning about how to be patient....which is something I will never forget!

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I am thankful that the IVF is even available and we have IVF coverage!! I have realized that nothing in life is guaranteed and no matter what there are things that are out of my control...I have learned that patience is definitely tested when going thru IF treatments...I am thankful to have a wonderful husband who has been positive throughout this journey and he always says when and not if we have kids...the ever optimist...I am also thankful for this board...everyone on here has been so helpful and generous...sometimes I wonder what I would have done...this is my support system since the only people that know I am doing IF treatments is my DH and SIL....I have def learned that no matter what my friends and family are my TOP priority and I am thankful for them.

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Simply put, things don't usually go as planned, but in the end they are better than we could have ever imagined. Looking back, I am thankful for my journey and the strength and clarity it has brought to my life in so many ways.


And, to copy Flowerwife, my love......

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I can't with these pictures. Such sweetness.

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Well, besides the obvious, this journey always put things in perspective for me and even though it sucked I always tried to remember it wasn't then end of the world and it could be much worse. Fortunately, that has stuck with me and has made me more appreciative of everyday moments and little things I used to take for granted. I just think of all I have in this world and how lucky I am.

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These were all beautiful!! It's always good to keep the positive in perspective!! I should add how thankful I am for LIF!!

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first those pics gorgeous babies!!!!

i am thankful for every single second i am on this journey

i love all of it..and we have had some issues and some problems during this pregnancy but i do it all with a smile...

it has taught me to let things go..to remember what is important and to always be grateful

and that is what dh and i are...above everything else ...

so even when i am making a trail of blood in lij or asking him to open my water bc my carpal tunnel sucks or still puking at 23 weeks

i know so so many would kill to be where i am....for me pregnancy above everything is a privilege and i know not everyone gets to have it and we know how lucky we are to

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I am thankful for tomorrow, my twins' first birthday, I am thankful i never gave up. I am thankful that I learned everything really does happen for a reason and it is never the end as long as I am breathing.
I am thankful for sites like this, that I would read for hours, and when women like me would share a success story, after a horrid long battle, I would feel that glimmer of hope rise again, and it would give me the strength I needed to get through, that day, hour, minute.

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a special thank you to all the mommies who shared their stories. not only did it make me cry (happy tears!) but it gave me so much hope on a crappy day.

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Posted by whateverLOLAwants

a special thank you to all the mommies who shared their stories. not only did it make me cry (happy tears!) but it gave me so much hope on a crappy day.

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First, obviously im thankful that im about to start the 2nd trimester... and that my ob found the heartbeat using the doppler on Sat in about 10 seconds... lol

Second, im thankful that there is a place like this that makes me feel less like a crazy statistic that drs talk about and more like a part of a group of the strongest people ive ever known!

Third, my overwhelmingly supportive family and friends...

Finally, the people who made this possible for me... Dr B and his staff.

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My Miracle Baby Thomas & Baby JLO2

My journey has been tough but very rewarding. I've learned that this IS MY LIFE and being very open about it has helped and allowed me to help so many others struggling through their journey.

Im thankful because have become a stronger woman, made wonderful friends along the way (here on this board, in the RE office, through friends of friends, etc.)..Im thankful for every day and appreciative for the blessings I so longed for and prayed for tirelessly...I love being a Mama and will scarific ANYTHING and EVERYTHING to do it as many times as my body allows...

Lastly, Im thankful for my RE office who made my miracles possible :) After 4+ years of RE visits and treatments I have 2 beautiful babies.

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I know I am a little late but I am so thankful for my daughter of course but I am also SO thankful for an amazing women I have met along the way. I am not going to say that this experience has made me a better mom but it has made me stop and remember what is really important in life. And it's not money or material things. And every time I look at my daughter, I know what it took to get her here and I am that much more thankful.

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I'm crying here. I'm thankful for my amazing dh and that this experience has strengthened our relationship. I'm thankful for you guys as I don't have anyone in my life who understand this journey like you all do. And though frustrating this journey has made me stronger even though I whine on here a lot. Lol

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