Anyone else not where they thought they would be?

We've been married for over a year and when we got married I thought by now we'd be saying for a home or thinking about TTC.

I have to be honest, neither of those things appeals to me right now. I'm really happy with not having the expense and responsibility of either a home or a baby right now. SOOOO enjoying just being married and being together. Love that we can travel or go out to dinner at a moment's notice without having to worry too much about money or getting a babysitter or anything like that.

I also love that now if the house is a mess, whatever. I'm so not ready to have to baby proof.

I'm not that young, so i know I should be thinking about soon, but I'm really just not there yet.

Anyone else?

Message edited 8/10/2012 12:24:24 PM.

Anyone else not where they thought they would be?

I think its perfectly reasonable not to have the baby feeling. You are still newly married and you should enjoy your time with your DH - when the time is right, you'll know.

Re: Anyone else not where they thought they would be?

I don't feel bad about it, just trying to start a discussion

Re: Anyone else not where they thought they would be?

i feel the same way about babies as you do. i really dont want the extra burden / expense and im really not "there" yet

i'm 27, so i figure i have a little bit of time. we already have a house and it's eating us alive - we literally have $200 a month to spend on things that aren't necessities - e.g. vacations, dinner out, etc. finding it hard to prepare for a future with a baby on our current salaries with all the bills of the house

Re: Anyone else not where they thought they would be?

Sorry to highjack (I was browsing the forums) and came across this post..I will be married 9 years next week...you should definitely enjoy this time :) It's a very special time and when the time is right for TTC you will know. Having a baby completely changes everything - including your relationship with your DH - and then on top of that, adds expenses (daycare, formula, diapers, etc). So I say take it in and make the most of it! Not that having kids isn't wonderful - it is - I truly knew what the meaning of "joy" was when I had my DS - but when it feels right you will know.