Husband giveth and husband taketh..

Ugh! So I've been so excited about having another baby, then yesterday he comes home from work and apparently he's not. He's not against a third baby but hes not all for it. He says he likes that our kids are out of diapers and we are buying a house and he's not 100% with having another one. I don't know why, but this completely devestated me. Just yesterday morning we were talking about it. We are always talking about it and now I am just not sure how to feel. I guess I just want him to want a third as bad as I do.

Sorry. I needed to vent somewhere. I know it's so silly but I dunno

Re: Husband giveth and husband taketh..

It's so hard when you're not on the same page The best advice I have is to give it time - time for the both of you to really sit and think about what you want. I would have another, but DH is really against it for a million reasons, and every one of those reasons make sense to me, so I've made myself okay with not having any more (I have 2). There is always the possibility that your DH will change his mind too, but allow yourselves time to really think about WHY you want/don't want another and go from there.

Re: Husband giveth and husband taketh..

My DH gave us until the end of the year. Now this month he backs out. Every once in awhile mine gets PMS...it's worse than mine. So right now anything that goes wrong or is stressful he says "why don't we have another" obviously he's being a wise @ss. I've chose to ignore him. In my situation I know my DH would love another...sometimes he just likes to complain because he can't handle situations.

You know your DH so may be he just can't deal with a situation at this time so he takes it out of you and having another.

We are trying for our 3rd too. GL!!!

Re: Husband giveth and husband taketh..

It's not that he doesn't want another one, because he does, but in the same breath he likes that our youngest is going to be 5, no more diapers, no more daycare, it's starting over. Plus we are in the midst of buying a house and it's a lot at one time, but I want it this year, lol. I don't know if he was just PMSing, because he definitely does. I just want him on the same page of me that, yes I love the way things are now, we have our boy and our girl, we have a semblance of freedom because they are older, but I still want that baby so bad that I am okay with starting over. Last week he couldn't even look at a baby without wanting one, so maybe it's just him being a baby, but when he said he does, but he doesn't, it just broke my heart, because I thought he felt the same exact way.

Re: Husband giveth and husband taketh..

I see your husbands point, however I think you should express to him why you want another.
Maybe sit down and make the pros and cons list together one night over a glass of wine! Sometimes thats all you need to do the trick!

ps- i didnt want another and dh did this with me and made me realise why we shouldnt wait! lol

Re: Husband giveth and husband taketh..

We spoke about it, he's on board! He just said there is a lot, but he totally sees what I am saying.

It's going to be a busy year, but totally worth it, I can't wait!!!