i need a hug and a drink... but mainly a drink

thought i was moving on. had a rough patch but got through it. decided we could start trying again.

found out today a good friend of mine is pregnant. she has no idea of what happenened and says i had thought you were a while back and then found out i was and was so happy we would be pregnant together.

just broke down. now she feels awful, i feel terrible for not being thrilled for her and i just want it to go away....

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Sending you some hugs...that can't be easy, but just try to focus on the future and the good things that will come your way. I'll have a drink right along with ya

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I can relate... I found out a cousin was pregnant a few weeks ago and started crying before I even made it out of the room.

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I am so sorry. I was doing great till Friday when an old coworker of mine posted she is expecting baby #2. That hurt. Went home and had a few drinks and sulked for a bit. Sending you hugs.

i need a hug and a drink... but mainly a drink

So sorry. That is a tough one. I think all of us have felt that way at one point. A very similar thing happened to me with one of my best friends. She was 6 weeks ahead of me and said she was scared to tell me she was pregnant after hearing about my loss.

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i experienced this. my friend is now having her 3rd child. i was upset. i just want to be a mom like her.

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I miscarried on New Year's Day and then again on St. Patrick's day...decided our children aren't fans of holidays! I keep wondering when I am going to be clear of this. My lovely husband continues to be supportive but has appeared to be affected only once since the initial loss time for both babies.

I have bad days and have realized that this is just the now me. Things are just more complicated. Since my miscarriages, my husband's cousin has gotten pregnant with what is appearing to be the 1st grandchild in the family as well as my best friend getting pregnant on the heels of her own miscarriage this year.

Both pregnancies come with a lot of pain. I truly am happy for both women but everything surrounding their pregnancies causes me pain and unfortunately affects our relationships. I was so relieved that both women chose to tell me the news over the phone so I didn't have to worry about my physical reaction in front of them. I can't be their go to person for excitement and worry...which I would have likely been prior to my miscarriages. Excitement just doesn't come and tears do.

I know I will be faced with one baby shower and likely two and am not sure how I will do it. I am in the position to throw or help throw the family one as I am the only other female in this generation. I have read several people on these type of forums that just don't go to showers anymore.

My biggest struggle when I have all this pain is what to do with it. I so appreciate these types of forums but ache for a close friendship with someone who understands. I have several friends who have suffered miscarriages but then have gone on to have healthy babies and I can't get myself to have these conversations with them.

I am having a bit of a day myself so will pour a drink and be with you in spirit.

You are not alone.