telling everyone too soon

i am going to be 8 weeks and I didnt even go to the dr yet, but we have a family function this weekend and the whole clan will be there.... I am thinking of just telling everyone then... after this function i am not sure when we will all get together again. I want to do it face to face with these people, so texting them after the dr appt is really not an option for me.

Do you think this is nuts?

telling everyone too soon

I don't think you are nuts! Do whatever makes you comfortable. I am 16 weeks and besides my immediate family, close friends, and co workers a lot of people don't know. I am waiting until my 20 week ultrasound to tell everyone else.

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We told close family and friends early, as well. We just had our NT yesterday and I am now 13w1d (baby measuring 13w6d) so we have decided we feel comfortable telling everyone else now.

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We are having the same issue... I want to tell our parents on mothers day but am afraid it will be too soon... I'll be 8 weeks. I just really like the idea of telling them on mothers day!

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i told family at 7 weeks on Easter just bc mine and DHs families were together - so i thought it was perfect. If its just close family and friends and you havent had difficulty TTC previously, i would tell them

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We told family early too! Not nuts at all.

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you're not nuts lol. We told my immediate family at about 6 1/2 weeks. We hadn't been at the doctor yet, but we had our parents, in laws, and sisters all over to celebrate the closing of our new house so we decided to tell everyone since it's not often we get my parents and the inlaws in the same place together.

Then at about 9 weeks we had a big family function so we told everyone even though we thought we would wait until the 12 week NT scan.

I would do it!

telling everyone too soon

It is all about what you are comfortable with. I personally would not be comfortable telling anyone that early. We also wanted to tell everyone in person, and I was around 16w when we told our families since that was the first time we were all together after the 1st tri. I would rather wait and tell people later than tell too soon. Also, your pregnancy feels like it drags on forever when you tell everyone so soon. But that is just my opinion.

telling everyone too soon

I agree it's about your comfort level. God forbid something were to happen and you were in the position of having to talk to everyone about it... what do you think would be best?

With DS, we told our immediate families at 8 weeks after going to the first doctor's appt. but no one else. This time I will wait until I'm 10 weeks so I can tell them on Mother's Day.

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You need to do what you are comfortable with. I was not comfortable with telling people too soon because I didn't want to have to untell people if there was a problem. But I know people who have told everyone as early as 5 weeks. Every person is different and should do it the way they want.

telling everyone too soon

I told my mom and sisters the day after I got my BFP. They knew I was trying and we talked about it each month when I wouldn't be pregnant so there was no way I could lie to them. My in laws we told shortly after when we saw them for dinner. We are big wine drinkers. There is no way they wouldn't know something was up if I wasn't drinking at dinner. My close girlfriends I told at 8 weeks. If god forbid anything happened, I would turn to them anyway for support. As for the rest of the family we told them early as well! We just couldn't wait! What will be will be...my family and I are close and if something horrible were to happen it would be likely they would find out anyway.

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I'm going to be the odd ball out.

Aside from immediate family, yes, imo, at it would be too soon. ESP if you didn't go to the doc yet just to hear the heartbeat. As much as I was busting at the seams with excitement, I didn't want to tell ANYONE anything until we had our first appt. at 6 weeks. I'm overly cautious with things and thought I would jinx myself if I said anything w/o real "proof". The day after we went to the doc I told my mom and week or so later we told DH's mom.

Aside from a few friends here and there we didn't tell anyone else until after the results of the NT scan were in. We told family after that point at 14w or so.

I'm still not public on fb (currently 19w5d) and won't be until we get the results from the anatomy scan that we have on Monday.

At the end of the day, it's all about what you feel most comfortable with. For me, god-forbid something went wrong, the less people that knew the better.

telling everyone too soon

I agree with PP - I would wait until you have your first doctor's appt and hear a heartbeat.

telling everyone too soon

Thank you all for your replies. The people that I am telling, would be the same people I would turn to if heaven forbid something were to go wrong. I am nervous because i feel like it is a jinx too, but i am also so excited that i will be able to see their reactions all at the same time!

telling everyone too soon

I would wait until after the 1st u/s. You just never know what can happen. I told my mother and sister when we got the BFP and then my father and grandparents at the 8wk u/s. Everyone else knew at 13wks after the NT scan. I had 2 previous losses and didn't want to go through having to tell everybody again. It was to hard.

telling everyone too soon

I told everyone (family) with each pregnancy before hearing the HB. If, for some reason, something went wrong, they would find out about it anyway, and I'd personally rather have support. That's just me. It's a personal decision.

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It's a personal choice you have to way the options...I didn't tell anyone until we had our first appt and then we didn't fb announce until after the anatomy scan. I learned from my BFF experiences she told people about her first and she ended up with a mc and it was so hard for her to tell extended family and having to relive it each time she had to tell people. When she got her bfp again she told less people

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Totally up to you, there's no right or wrong with this. We could have told our family at Christmas (I was 9 weeks I think), but I waited until the second trimester to tell anyone, I just felt more comfortable that way. But there's nothing wrong with telling early if you want to!!

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It's a personal choice you have to way the options...I didn't tell anyone until we had our first appt and then we didn't fb announce until after the anatomy scan. I learned from my BFF experiences she told people about her first and she ended up with a mc and it was so hard for her to tell extended family and having to relive it each time she had to tell people. When she got her bfp again she told less people

This was me too, at one point we just asked people to spread the word

You really just should do what makes you happy. On the one hand, anything can happen at any time (which is why I didn't even want to tell people till the baby is born but obviously that's not realistic!!)... But the reality is the biggest chance (statistically) of something happening is during the first trimester. It's up to you and your DH to decide what you are both comfortable doing.

telling everyone too soon

There is no such thing as 'too soon' IMO. Its all about what YOU feel comfortable with. We told our parents right away because if something were to happen, we would tell them regardless. I wound up having bleeding scares several times in my first tri and because my mom knew she was able to go with me to the drs a lot of times. DHs job was over an hour away from the dr and she was within walking distance of both my job and the dr.

telling everyone too soon

My parents knew within hrs of me peeing on the stick. ILs were told the next day and work knew by 6 weeks.

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I wouldnt.
Id just rather know that everything was ok.
We told parents and sublings at 8 weeks after appt
Work ariund 12 and then as time went on we let others know. Most found put by 20 weeks