Co-worker is pregnant

And I'm so happy for her. When she told me yesterday I couldn't stop smiling and gave her a big hug and congrats. (She was worried about leaving us high and dry when she is out on maternity leave, so she was scared to tell us!! Crazy talk!). But anyway, after the initial happiness, I started to feel a little sorry for myself. I don't want to be like that, and I don't know her situation, how long they were trying or anything, but it makes me feel like there is something wrong with me or something. I can't explain the feeling! It's not like because she got pregnant, I can't. I know it doesn't work that way. Anyway, just venting.

How do you guys handle when people share their happy news?

Co-worker is pregnant

I would cry it out... And it really depended on who it was. With my BFF, who found out at 12 weeks that she was preggo (other cycle issues going on there previously), and had always said she NEVER wanted kids, I was hysterical for a few days. I was VERY angry with the world. But, I picked myself up, dusted myself off, and forced myself to spend time with her. I got to enjoy a lot of great events in her pregnancy, and she & her husband asked me and my DH to be the godparents. I don't know if it was spending time with her and her hormones, but 3 months later is when I got pregnant with the baby squirming around in there now (15+weeks).

It's not easy, it's really hard. Allow yourself to feel what you are feeling. Don't push it away. If you need to step away from your desk and cry, do it. Don't hold it in because if you're anything like me, you'll just end up exploding really bad on DH or someone else close to you.

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Yeah, I guess with a co-worker the feeling is kind of disconnected.

But one of my best-friends got pregnant the first month trying (ended in a mc, unfortunately) but as soon as she was able to start trying again she got pregnant right away and is due this fall. And we're still trying. I'm happy for them, of course, but I feel like she is holding back from me as a way to try and be "sensitive" toward me, but really all it does is make me feel pitied. Don't pity me.

Co-worker is pregnant

In the situation with your friend, make a point of reaching out to her and trying to make plans. She is likely just really sensitive to what you're going through and likely doesn't want to make you feel any worse. If you reach out, she'll know it's better to stay in contact than not... I don't think it's pity, I think she's just trying to be sensitive of your feelings.

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I understand I actually have a coworker who told me she was pregnant the month we started to conceive, now that it's been 7months of us trying, I still look at her and think if we had gotten pregnant right away I'd be just 1 month behind her. I try to stop myself from thinking that, and just keep thinking of the baby that is meant to be. Every month, I just keep thinking well whatever baby would have been created this month wasn't meant to be, i know it sounds silly but it helps me somehow.

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I know its super hard, and easier said that done but be happy.. because soon it will be your turn and you will want everyone to send good and positive vibes your way. And friend once told me that all the heartbreak of not getting pregnant and mutliple m/c numbed her to the joy others around her when her friends announced but the moment she got pregnant, she realized that she was so wrong, and every baby news should be recieved with happiness.. and after her DD was born, she knew that her DD was the baby she was always meant to have, and everything was just leading up to month her DD was concieved. I bawled my eyes out when she told me this.. and I wasn't even ttc at that point, and it stuck with me.

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I am almost in the same situation. My co-worker found out she was pregnant and told me. I went to my cry to cry because i was trying for 5 months and nothing. then 2 weeks later i found out I was pregnant as well. Such a relief. Then at 9 weeks I lost the baby. We were supposed to be 3 weeks apart. So now i have to see her everyday and her belly is growing and growing and I have nothing. Its so hard to come to work everyday.

Everyone's time will come and one day we will be happy as well one day.

I wish you all the luck and sending you baby dust.

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I know its super hard, and easier said that done but be happy.. because soon it will be your turn and you will want everyone to send good and positive vibes your way. And friend once told me that all the heartbreak of not getting pregnant and mutliple m/c numbed her to the joy others around her when her friends announced but the moment she got pregnant, she realized that she was so wrong, and every baby news should be recieved with happiness.. and after her DD was born, she knew that her DD was the baby she was always meant to have, and everything was just leading up to month her DD was concieved. I bawled my eyes out when she told me this.. and I wasn't even ttc at that point, and it stuck with me.