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Lillies
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Posted by PhyllisNJoe
I think it is very easy to forget the feelings you had once you leave this side of the boards. Yes, every journey is different, and yes everyone has the right to do and say whatever they want. Complain or not. BUT for the people who have not yet realized their dream, or may never get the chance to, someone complaining about their PG is tough. Again, try and remember the days when you longed to be on that other side and would do, give, go through anything to get there.
This board is a safe place for people to say whatever it is they need to for that moment in their journey. Not a place to have a finger shaken at them for expressing their feelings.
I agree completely, Phyllis. Girls who have been on this side will never lose that pain. It becomes part of who we are.
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AKD
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To clarify, my mini rant wasn't just about girls who went through IF, it was about everyone in general. I'm not oblivious to the fact that when you are pregnant you'll have rough days - nausea, not sleeping well, etc., whatever it may be for that person, and you have a right to all of that and to feel how you want to feel. For me personally, when I did go through nausea, I would literally throw up and then wipe my mouth clean and smile. I know that sounds psycho to some, but I waited for a long time to feel these symptoms.
My point was - a lot of times I see tons of posts being made complaining about the smallest things over and over again. Literally 50 times over. There's a difference between asking for support and advice on how to handle situations and constantly complaining about things. I can't help but get frustrated by that - I don't say anything specifically when this happens, because like you all have said, it's a forum they have a right to what they want to say, but I also have a right to feel this way towards these topics, because I know there's so many girls still out there who would just love to have these symptoms and to be in that position.
Again, wasn't trying to stir up any drama - but sharing how I feel.
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| Posted 6/19/14 4:01 PM |
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hazel2
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Posted by ggt08
Nope. Don't wanna torture myself any more than I feel. :(
This totally!!!! I can't do it :(
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| Posted 6/19/14 4:39 PM |
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Michelle1110
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I couldn't agree with you more A. People very quickly forget about IF sometimes and I just want to scream. I try never to complain bc I went through hell to get this far.
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| Posted 6/19/14 4:44 PM |
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ggt08
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Posted by PhyllisNJoe
I think it is very easy to forget the feelings you had once you leave this side of the boards. Yes, every journey is different, and yes everyone has the right to do and say whatever they want. Complain or not. BUT for the people who have not yet realized their dream, or may never get the chance to, someone complaining about their PG is tough. Again, try and remember the days when you longed to be on that other side and would do, give, go through anything to get there.
This board is a safe place for people to say whatever it is they need to for that moment in their journey. Not a place to have a finger shaken at them for expressing their feelings.
Well said and that's exactly how I feel.
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| Posted 6/19/14 7:59 PM |
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CindySN23
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I actually feel more at home here than I ever did on the PG board...I dunno but to me once an infertile always an infertile
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| Posted 6/20/14 8:13 AM |
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hoping2013
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Ok, so this thread took a major detour! It's focus was to be a shared commiseration for the IF folks who are not pregnant and feel pain watching the world go on with their pregnancies, the temptation to read the pregnancy board and how it is difficult to be in this place of IF. It obviously kicked up other feelings for others!
AKD - I think you shared an interesting perspective from someone in the pregnancy board that demonstrated great consideration for the IF's. You have been there, you know and I am sure we are all grateful for that.
Back to my original comment about being IF and looking at Pregnancy board: it's a lot harder to look from a place of infertility than from pregnancy back to IF board as a mentor. They are two very different worlds and we all need to respect that.
This is the IF page, right? We are allowed say what is hard, we are allowed to say that IF sucks. Not everyone is going to get pregnant. Not everyone gets a rainbow baby to take home. It is great that graduates come back and advise and share tips, tricks and knowledge. In your story of success, we seek reassurance that if we hang in there we will be lucky like you. It is great to get the cheerleading and encouragement. For some, it will work. For others, it will not. We need to be honest about that and the long term pain of enduring infertility and sadness and this board is the place for that.
There are no right and wrongs on here - everyone is entitled to their opinion and to their situational board where they can feel at home to be, do and say what they are going through and get support from fellow sufferers, IF or pregnancy.
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| Posted 6/21/14 10:17 AM |
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Lillies
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Posted by mama2b
I actually feel more at home here than I ever did on the PG board...I dunno but to me once an infertile always an infertile
Me too!
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| Posted 6/21/14 2:43 PM |
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Guilty as charged.
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