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HI my name is kerri , I am 29 years old. My friend introduced me to this site a few days ago I have been hestitant to try it but i figured I should i think , I guess..

My mother passed away just over a year ago she was in a tragic car accident . I have been in denial since and feel very loss and that no one understands me here at home .

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Im so sorry for your loss. I completely understand what you're going through. As much as denial doesnt make it go away, i do think it helps me sometimes get through the motions of life. does that make sense? sorry its past my bedtime. Anyway, i think that the best thing for girls like us is to talk with others in similar situations. I hope this site helps you as it has for me.

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My name is Robyn and I lost my mom 9 years ago this August 30th to Leukemia. I just got married a few weeks ago and it was the best day of my life because she was with me more then ever. I miss everything about her - the way she felt, smelt, spoke, loved. I miss talking with her and the safety and security I felt when she was around. I think about how much she would have loved this time in her life and the things she is missing. There will always be an hole in my life because she is gone. My prayers and thoughts go out to everyone for their loss.

Thanks for listening!

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thank you , I think this site is goign to be very helpful. I now feel I have people who understand .

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hi im michelle and i lost my mom 4 years ago this august to breast&ovarian cancer, and theres not a day where i dont think about how different life would be if she was here, especially now that i have my own children.
i feel sad for them because i feel like i have to make up for the love my mom wouldve given them.
I was 26 when she died.

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My name is Theresa. I lost my Mom to breast cancer on 2/22/02. She was originally diagnosed when I was 11 (she was 37) and they thought they got it all. She was diagnosed again at age 45 (I was 19) and she had a mastectomy. In October 2000, they found cancer cells on the breast bone underneath where she had the mastectomy. She went through another surgery and radiation but she just wasn't getting any better. In August 2001, the cancer had metastacized to her lungs, brain, and bones. She passed away almost exactly 6 months later. I'm getting married on 11/5 and I miss her more and more as that day gets closer. My Mom was my best friend. I was 27 when she died.

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Hi....I'm Chris

I lost my MOM to Breast Cancer Sept 1, 1997, I was 32 and my DAD to a broken heart on Aug 23, 1998.

My Dad had other health issues but nothing that he should have died from, he just gave up the will to take care of himself.

Also, I am not saying by any means that my parents were the lovey/dovey type. In fact, I probably only saw any affection between them a handful of times my whole life, but they did love each other in their own way.

Since the time my Dad passed away most of my family has stopped speaking to me. I only have a few cousins (one of which is part of LI Families) that are very close and those are the ones I can still count on. Mostly it's my friends and boyfriend of 7 years that are my close circle.

I could just keep going and going with this.....but I'll stop.

Chris


Edit: I typed the wrong date for my Mom.

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My name is Scott. I lost my mom November 8th 2004 to Breast cancer. She put up a really great fight.

She was first diagnosed with Breast cancer in 1990. Had Chemo and her breast removed, and wasa fine for 13 years. She made it for Danielle and my wedding, but soon after she got sick again, and her cancer spread to her liver.

I just recently lost my father. He had congestive heart failure, and kidney Problems. He died on Augunst 27th, 2006 of Kidney Failure. The truth is my father died of a broken heart. Since my mom died, my father has never been the same

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Hi everyone.
I'm Robyn and I lost my mom to breast cancer 5 years ago.

I was 20.

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My name is Alexandria..... I lost my whole family not to death, but to stupidity.... let me explain....
On June 19th, 2006 my husband of 5 months passed away after a long battle with crohn's disease... since then my family has not spoken to me. It started with them being mad because when he was sick (and apparently dying) he was in a bad mood... they wanted me to divorce him, so when he went into the icu on a ventilator I found it really hard to lean on their shoulders... THANK GOD I found these great new friends in Kevin's friends who helped me through it..... well, the night he passed away apparently I cried on the wrong persons shoulders and my parents flipped out..... after that i was told they were not going to the funeral because they were not mentioned in the orbituary.... and then they were insulted again when I was crying with someone else.... apparently they didnt get the memo that it was not about them.... BUT anyways.... I pretty much stepped back and that made things worse. I got nasty emails and messages when I missed a day of calling because i was too depressed to move... BUt I was supposed to make sure to call them!
So anyways, once they started accusing me of drug abuse and what not I decided that I had to just walk away.... maybe one day I will return to the family, but for my own health this is for the best

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Hi, my name is Tiffany. I lost my mother to cervical cancer 2 months ago. I am 25 years old and one month after she passed away I found out I am pregnant with my first child. She was diagnosed at a late stage 3 only 11 months earlier.

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My name is Joanne and I lost my Mom it will be two Years Dec 21, and I miss her more each day. I feel it around each holiday, especially Xmas, her birthday, mother's day and in Jan my brother is gettiing married and I will have the first dance with him, Mother and son dance, instead it will be brother and sister, it has been very hard on me without my mom, even though I am 50 yrs old, engaged to be married hopefully soon, and I wanted my Mom to witness all my happiness...Will it get any easier??? that is the question.

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I would love to introduce myself my name si Joanne and I lost my mother who was my bestfriend, Dec 21 2004 and unfortunately we buried my beautiful Mom Christmas Eve so the last Christmas Eve's have been for me very emotional. I miss her every single day.

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Hi my name is Doreen. I lost my Dad to a malignant brain tumor on March 7, 2006. I was 4 mths pg at the time. I recently moved in to my mom's house (she moved downstairs) with my DH and DD.

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My name is Diane

I lost my mom on Nov. of this year to Pancreatic Cancer.
I was very close to my mother, but Im so glad she stuck it out to see and hold my twin boys

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This is such a supportive thread. My sincere condolences to all.

My name is Katrina and my DH lost his mom to leukemia on July 24, 1984. I never had the chance to meet my MIL but have photos of her and am always told that she would have loved me.

FIL was broken hearted after 29 years of marriage and probably would have drank himself to death had he not remarried. FIL remarried within one year and has been with his second wife since. DH has always had a difficult time dealing with his stepmom (a nice woman from what I know of her) and I am sure he will be able to find advice and support here.

Thanks in advance.

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wow....i just found this......



My name is marzena and i lost my father to hart attack........i was in Las Vegas Having Fun when i got a call from my brother that my father passed away. it was sept.16 2002.......

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i am new to this board. it has taken me a while to gather the courage to post.

my father had a massive stroke on june 26, 2002. he was 70 years old, i was 26. he survived in a semi-vegetative state for about 9 months, and died on april 1, 2003, at age 71.

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Hi name is Amy

I lost my Mom about 8 years ago and my Dad about 1-1/2 years ago!

one of the hardest things, was getting married without them!

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My name is Leslie and I lost my father on July 9, 2005 just 6 months before my wedding.

It is very hard to actually say how he died, because it had been from a culmination of many problems. Within two years before he passed away, he had been diagnosed with and treated for Alzheimer's Disease wih Aricept. The 4 children in the family all knew something wasn't right with Dad as he presented with more symptoms as time went on.

What essentially caused his death were events leading to an infection he got in the hospital. That led to a colostomy and a 9 month period in and out of about 4 units in the hospital. I had originally posted the entire story, but it was a bit too detailed and I probably shared a bit too much.

There were many parts of the story that I left out. 9 + months in a hospital setting is a lot to account for. Some moments were very sad and horribly graphic. Some were inspiring. Some tore my family apart. Some still do. I can't get past a lot of things. I will never forget the suffering that my father endured- most of it unnecessarily. Many people said that after time, I wouldnt remember how ill he was or how bad he looked. I remember everything.

I learned one lesson from this whole thing. I am making my wishes known in the event that I should become ill or unable to advocate for myself. I made DH promise not to keep me alive in a similar state. I want it on paper so that no family members that exist now (or in the future) will fight it.

I am so sorry for the ramble, but I am still hurting and I am still angry at so many entities through this experience.

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My name is Jessica, I used to post alot on LIW and I've posted a little bit on here. We lost our son 2 months ago. I was 21 weeks pregnant and hemorraged. Luckily I am still alive but I miss having the opportunity to be a mom. I am having a very hard time dealing with this, but I'm doing the best that I can. Although I never met him, I loved him very much and would have done anything to be able to have him in our lives.

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