Registering for birthday?

Over the summer my son was invited to a party for someone in his pre school class. The invite stated he was registered at Toys R Us and you look up as you would a wedding or baby shower registry of things the honored person would like. Is this common? Would it be rude if I put it on my son's birthday invite? I am certainly not having DS pick out $50.00 toys.

He will be turning 5 and is in kindergarten now.

Message edited 10/8/2014 12:34:18 PM.

Registering for birthday?

Personally I wouldn't do this. If someone ask, I'll let them know what DS is into but I don't like to dictate gifts. I know it's standard for bridal and wedding showers but technically the concept is different and those should happen once. I just can't get on board with wish list /registeries for bdays.

I wouldn't begrudge someone for doing this, it's just not my thing.

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Tacky......

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I use a Wish List for both of my kids at Xmas and for their bdays BUT it's just for family. If I ever threw a kid party I wouldn't mention the Wish List at all unless someone specifically asked what they like or want. Then I would casually let them know I have ideas on their Wish List but that they do NOT have to buy from it.

But with my family, we have SO many people buying for our kids on BOTH sides that the Wish List makes it easier for everyone........my family loves it and I do too!!!

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I would never write it on an invite. I see no problem with a kid making one though, that way mom can tell people specific things he/she would like when people ask.

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I would not do it.

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I would personally never do this.

I'm of the school of thought that you get what you get and you say thank you. I don't get hung up one gift values, etc.

Some people like the idea of wish lists to give to guests, I am just not one of them.

Message edited 10/9/2014 9:09:49 AM.

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Yes, kind of rubbed me the wrong way too ....as mentioned .... I was just wondering if this was common practice ....

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Yes it is rude.

It is rude to ask for gifts. Period.

If someone asks you what he might like, you can suggest the wish list but don't put it on the invitation. Beyond tacky.

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never on an invite and not a registry. i make a wish list every year for my son but i only give it out if people ask me what he wants.

Registering for birthday?

I wouldn't put it on an invite, but as a guest it makes my life SO much easier when kids have a wish list somewhere. I actually love them, and I'm at a loss when there isn't one-I'd rather the gift I give be used and appreciated and wanted-I don't want to give something random that will be relegated to the back of the closet or regifted.

So often I've asked for ideas/suggestions and I get such vague responses that I still have no clue what to get.

Registering for birthday?

I think it's helpful...I know a couple of people that do this. Generally it's on a printed invite and i've seen it on the back of the invitation so not so right there in your face. You would only notice it if you were looking.

Registering for birthday?

I think it's tacky. DD does have an Amazon wish list but only my mom, DH's sister and my brothers know about it and refer to it at Christmas.

Registering for birthday?

I have a wish list for DS on Amazon and only give it out when asked for gift ideas. When people ask I usually say he's this size, he loves XYZ, and if you're looking for ideas here's the link to his list but don't feel obligated to stick to it.

Registering for birthday?

I wouldn't put it on the invite but I love the idea of a wish list. I started one for DD for Christmas and will also add to it for her birthday. I wish wish lists were the norm so gift buying would be easier.

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I make a registry for my daughter for her bday and xmas....but I dont leave it public and advertise that I have it. I use it to remember things I want to buy her - or if someone asks for ideas - I can look at that or show them. I would not mention it on an invite though.

Registering for birthday?

I am guilty have done & have seen a ton of people putting clothes sizes on invites....same thing.
I personally find it helpful. Everyone asks anyway when having a childrens party so why not give some ideas.

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I can get on board with a wish list for family and super close friends, but I still feel it's kind of tacky beyond that.

When DS is invited to a party for a kid at school that we don't know, I just get a toy with a gift receipt at Target.

Same for most friends kids.

I've yet to see anyone do this though in our circle or elsewhere.

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I would not personally do it, as I feel it overemphasizes the gift aspect of a birthday and I like the focus to be on celebrating with family and friends. However, I know that, in reality, people will bring gifts. But I think if they are really stuck, they will ask and I can tell them on an individual basis. In my experience, not only family and close friends will ask, but even classmates' parents. They have my email or cell to RSVP and they'll often ask what my son likes.

Having a wish-list or registry online would make my life easier, as my DS is December birthday, and it's sometimes hard to keep track if what ideas I am giving out for birthday and Christmas, but I wouldn't.

If others have one, I wouldn't mind. It would make gift giving easy, especially when you don't know the child very well. When stuck, I will sometimes go the gift card route... Like a gift basket with a gift certificate to a local movie theater and some boxes of movie candy and/or popcorn, or in warmer months, and Adventureland gift certificate.

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I have done this & don't regret it!! We just had a birthday here & I spend lots of time running around to return stuff. It's a pain in the neck.

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Posted by MorningCuppaCoffee

Tacky......