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teachermom
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late potty trainers
Hello, Did anyone have a strong willed toddler who trained really late? My daughter is just under 3 and a half and wants nothing to do with the potty. I tried everything, she just isn't into it.
help?
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Posted 4/23/15 7:25 PM |
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kn2011
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Re: late potty trainers
My daughter turned 3 in Feb and JUST started ...
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Posted 4/23/15 7:31 PM |
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teachermom
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Re: late potty trainers
Posted by kn2011
My daughter turned 3 in Feb and JUST started ...
Just started going? Was she really against it at first?
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Posted 4/23/15 7:33 PM |
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SummerMom
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Re: late potty trainers
My daughter is 3 and a half and pees on the potty 100% of the time, no problem. But she's pooped on the potty maybe 4 times. She wears undies and when she has to poop she grabs a pull-up from the drawer, takes off her own pants and undies, puts on the pull-up, goes into the bathroom and does her business, and then tells us she needs to be changed. We've tried everything to make her go: Miralax to the point of diarrhea, telling her that we have no more diapers left, bribery… nothing works. NOTHING. She is NOT ready to do it and will literally hold her poop for 4 days (she did last week) to the point where she can't walk, she's in so much pain.
At this point I just have to throw up my hands and say that when she's ready, she's ready. You can't force a kid to do it if they're not ready. Your child will go when she's ready. Just keep trying, keep with the positive reinforcement, and it'll happen.
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Posted 4/23/15 7:46 PM |
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MichLiz213
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late potty trainers
DS is over three and a half and just started going pee pee on the potty two weeks ago. Before that he would scream if we tried to put him on. I had tried literally everything before that. It was a total control thing. He would sit for an hour, we would take him off and he would look at us while peeing in his diaper.
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Posted 4/23/15 8:40 PM |
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teachermom
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Re: late potty trainers
Posted by MichLiz213
DS is over three and a half and just started going pee pee on the potty two weeks ago. Before that he would scream if we tried to put him on. I had tried literally everything before that. It was a total control thing. He would sit for an hour, we would take him off and he would look at us while peeing in his diaper.
Thank you so much for replying, she does this too! I'm glad he's going- this gives me so much hope!
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Posted 4/23/15 8:46 PM |
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EricaAlt
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Re: late potty trainers
DS is going to be 4 in July and just started showing interest. When I mean just I mean 3 days ago. Did not care he was the only one in his preschiil class with pull ups. He refused to go to the bathroom at school when all the kids went. Nothing about being embarrassed or anything. Very stubborn! Like that with everything. It's a control thing. He likes it his way. This is the only thing left he can control on his own. Anyway, Wednesday I picked him up and went finally went to the bathroom. Lol. He was good today as well. Taking it one day at a time. As people say... They'll get it. I was starting to think he may be in pull ups in college.
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Posted 4/23/15 8:50 PM |
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Teach723
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Re: late potty trainers
DD turned 3 in March and we haven't really officially started. She has the potty seat attachment and the past few days has been doing all her poops on the potty. Prior to that she wanted nothing to do with pooping on the potty. Still pees in her diaper and wakes up wet. I'm kind of being very relaxed about it. I made a potty chart but I'm not pushing it. I'm waiting until I can be home with her in the summer. I also believe when she's ready it'll start to happen naturally.
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Posted 4/23/15 8:50 PM |
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MrsT809
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late potty trainers
Dd just turned 3 and was totally against trying the potty for months. Refused to sit at all. I took a little advice from a preschool we toured and tried to build up her confidence any time she tried something new. She did a new slide one day and I talked about how she used to be scared but now she's not, etc and then related it to the potty and it worked. She looked at me and said "it's worth a try". She's still not actually going but she's at least sitting and trying. Tonight she passed gas on the potty which is as close as we've gotten to anything lol. I also got a new board game and told her we can play as soon as she goes so she's excited about that.
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Posted 4/23/15 9:17 PM |
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teachermom
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Re: late potty trainers
Posted by EricaAlt
DS is going to be 4 in July and just started showing interest. When I mean just I mean 3 days ago. Did not care he was the only one in his preschiil class with pull ups. He refused to go to the bathroom at school when all the kids went. Nothing about being embarrassed or anything. Very stubborn! Like that with everything. It's a control thing. He likes it his way. This is the only thing left he can control on his own. Anyway, Wednesday I picked him up and went finally went to the bathroom. Lol. He was good today as well. Taking it one day at a time. As people say... They'll get it. I was starting to think he may be in pull ups in college.
Thank you for sharing! Basically everything I read online made me feel horrible, this helps!
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Posted 4/23/15 9:22 PM |
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Annie91606
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Re: late potty trainers
My older son was like this. He trained finally at 3 years 8 months!!! He just didn't want to do it.
Oddly, he trained for pooping several months bscore peeing.
But once he decided he wanted to do it, that was it. Very easy- never had an accident, was able to stay dry all night right away.
It was when we stopped bringing it up that he did it. So I think it was a control issue. But it did bug us- he was the last of his peers to train. With the second one, I backed off, and he trained much earlier.
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Posted 4/23/15 10:24 PM |
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luckysmom
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late potty trainers
DS is just under 4.5 and literally in the last 4 weeks just potty trained. He had no interest whatsoever. I was sick of it and took the pull ups away while he slept one night and left a note from the "pull up fairy" saying If he does good he'll get his dinosaurs and golf clubs. He got hid golf clubs and we still owe him the Dinosaurs but he's been doing really well. Very few accidents at home. I was anxious about leaving the house but he is doing really well when we leave. I was shocked.
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Posted 4/23/15 10:25 PM |
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Kelly9904
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Re: late potty trainers
my son just turned 4. we have been trying for a year now, on and off. He is so stubborn its unbelievable. Now he will pee in the potty 85% of the time but wont poop. So we are doing poop in pull ups for now....
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Posted 4/23/15 10:38 PM |
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NervousNell
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Re: late potty trainers
Dd didn't poop in the potty until after 4 years old. Pee was easy. Forget it with the poop. When they are ready they are ready imo
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Posted 4/23/15 10:43 PM |
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Leb
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Re: late potty trainers
Posted by SummerMom
My daughter is 3 and a half and pees on the potty 100% of the time, no problem. But she's pooped on the potty maybe 4 times. She wears undies and when she has to poop she grabs a pull-up from the drawer, takes off her own pants and undies, puts on the pull-up, goes into the bathroom and does her business, and then tells us she needs to be changed. We've tried everything to make her go: Miralax to the point of diarrhea, telling her that we have no more diapers left, bribery… nothing works. NOTHING. She is NOT ready to do it and will literally hold her poop for 4 days (she did last week) to the point where she can't walk, she's in so much pain.
At this point I just have to throw up my hands and say that when she's ready, she's ready. You can't force a kid to do it if they're not ready. Your child will go when she's ready. Just keep trying, keep with the positive reinforcement, and it'll happen.
My friends daughter does this. I think it's more common than we think. I've read as weird as it sounds that some kids have an issue with flushing their poops away. It's an extension of themselves and it's hard to do!
Every child is different.
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Posted 4/23/15 11:01 PM |
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late potty trainers
My daughter turned 4 this week and she just trained in January but when she was ready she went all in-hang in there
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Posted 4/24/15 6:13 AM |
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phoenix913
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Re: late potty trainers
We did the 3 day method with ds when he was 3 yrs 7 months. It took more like 9 days for us but he finally got it. Thank god dh and I were on Christmas break. Poop was tough. He went through like 2 weeks of being so constipated bc he was holding. What worked for us was miralax, prune juice, and rewarding with ice cream for poop.
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Posted 4/24/15 7:33 AM |
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LMFitz
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Re: late potty trainers
DS didn't want anything to do with potty training at that time. It took him going to his first pre-k experience at 3 yrs 4 months to open up to it. He was trained within 3 weeks of starting pre-k…..basically all on his own.
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Posted 4/24/15 7:58 AM |
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KGools
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Re: late potty trainers
My son (he's 4 1/2 now) turned 3 in August. He wasn't potty trained until March/April before he turned 4. He just had no interest until then.
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Posted 4/24/15 9:44 AM |
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kn2011
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Re: late potty trainers
Posted by teachermom
Posted by kn2011
My daughter turned 3 in Feb and JUST started ...
Just started going? Was she really against it at first?
Oh yes... she wouldn't even SIT on the potty... she refused. She just started peeing, but poop she has gone like twice on the potty... and she holds it for days. Her teacher at nursery school said sometimes it takes the kids til close to 4 to go poop on the potty! I cant imagine it being a good feeling. She went in her pull up yesterday because she "wanted to" Im thinking of just taking them away all together
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Posted 4/24/15 12:05 PM |
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Elizabeth720
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Re: late potty trainers
Posted by EricaAlt
DS is going to be 4 in July and just started showing interest. When I mean just I mean 3 days ago. Did not care he was the only one in his preschiil class with pull ups. He refused to go to the bathroom at school when all the kids went. Nothing about being embarrassed or anything. Very stubborn! Like that with everything. It's a control thing. He likes it his way. This is the only thing left he can control on his own. Anyway, Wednesday I picked him up and went finally went to the bathroom. Lol. He was good today as well. Taking it one day at a time. As people say... They'll get it. I was starting to think he may be in pull ups in college.
This is my son exactly. It turned into a complete control thing - the more we pushed it, the more he resisted/refused. Then one day, he just got embarrassed to go in his diaper in public and from that day forward was 100 percent potty trained - poop, pee, no pull ups, etc. He was 3 years and 7 months old.
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Posted 4/24/15 12:32 PM |
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Jenn1621
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late potty trainers
My dd is also just shy of 3 1/2 and wants no part. She actually went on the potty at 18 months from watching her older cousin and I didn't push it. Guess I should have because now she tells me flat out NO! She wears pull ups at this point bc I've given up until the summer. She's not even phased by peeing on herself if she is in underwear ugh
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Posted 4/24/15 12:36 PM |
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Re: late potty trainers
My DD was 3 and a half when she was finally potty trained. It was a matter of finding something that was worth it to her and for her, it was Horizons chocolate milk. We were super consistent with it for MONTHS without seeing any light at the end of the tunnel but one day, she just got it and with the exception of not being able to get her pants off in time ONE time, she's never had an accident or wet the bed.
We had potties all around the house and put her on the potty at least once every hour and she got chocolate milk every day she went on the potty.
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Posted 4/24/15 2:37 PM |
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shapla79
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Re: late potty trainers
The only incentive that really worked well for us was nail polish. I reluctantly agreed to paint her nails and switch colors as a potty reward. It worked! I had to stock up on piggy paint colors, but it was well worth it. Eventually, she stopped asking to have her nails done which was fine by me.
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Posted 4/24/15 3:24 PM |
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Bearcat
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Re: late potty trainers
yes. my daughter is 3.5 (as of last week) and a real pain when it comes to the potty. she can do it - just refuses (most of the time). she's been doing a lot better in the past week or so (like going all day on the potty until about mid afternoon). we plan to just put her in underwear tomorrow and will see how that goes. I just wanted to let you know you're not alone.
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