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FTWMs: Are you finding it hard as your kids are getting older scheduling activities/sports, etc

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ThreeforTea
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FTWMs: Are you finding it hard as your kids are getting older scheduling activities/sports, etc

I am having a tough time now that my kids are getting older with scheduling of their extra activites such as dance, soccer, etc. Right now my Sats are jam packed with back to back activities because there is no way I can squeeze these things in after work. I just can't. My weekends are running around taking them here and there.

I guess it's sort of a s/o to the whole staying home thread but I don't know how to balance this. I want to keep them in these activites so my only option right now are the weekends.

Family member/nanny taking them on weekdays is not an option for me.

I guess this is sort of a vent too.

Posted 5/28/15 2:21 PM
 
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Re: FTWMs: Are you finding it hard as your kids are getting older scheduling activities/sports, etc

Posted by ThreeforTea

I am having a tough time now that my kids are getting older with scheduling of their extra activites such as dance, soccer, etc. Right now my Sats are jam packed with back to back activities because there is no way I can squeeze these things in after work. I just can't. My weekends are running around taking them here and there.

I guess it's sort of a s/o to the whole staying home thread but I don't know how to balance this. I want to keep them in these activites so my only option right now are the weekends.

Family member/nanny taking them on weekdays is not an option for me.

I guess this is sort of a vent too.



my kids aren't to that age yet, but this is what I'm scared of as a FTWM.

my mom was a SAHM and drove us to all of our activities and was at every single game cheering us on. I would really like to do the same and I always wondered how working parents managed it.

Posted 5/28/15 2:33 PM
 

Mags1227
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Re: FTWMs: Are you finding it hard as your kids are getting older scheduling activities/sports, etc

yes!
found out our soccer program is not having weekend classes over the summer because they have a camp and don't want to "overwork" their teachers.
I now either skip soccer, or have to find a new program.

between activities and visiting both sets of grandparents, weekends are packed.
i really wish i could stay home to take care of all these issues and not have to rush all day every day.

Posted 5/28/15 3:04 PM
 

ThreeforTea
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Re: FTWMs: Are you finding it hard as your kids are getting older scheduling activities/sports, etc

Posted by Mags1227

i really wish i could stay home to take care of all these issues and not have to rush all day every day.



yes, exactly this!

Posted 5/28/15 3:05 PM
 

MrsS2005
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Re: FTWMs: Are you finding it hard as your kids are getting older scheduling activities/sports, etc

DS1 is in 1st grade. He does soccer in the fall and spring. Practice is one weeknight and games on Saturday. In the spring, he also does t-ball, which has practice/games once during the week and once on the weekend. In the winter, he did 1 session of indoor soccer and swim lessons. It's hard to make it work especially when things are busy at my job. DH recently switches jobserver and has more flexibility to be at the weekday events than I do. DS2 will start soccer in the fall, but it's only on the weekend. We'll be spreading ourselves even more thin and will probably have to split up. However, my kids love sports and seem to get a lot out of it. I'm sure we'll have to start carpoling soon and relying on others to help with taking kids to different activities.

Posted 5/28/15 3:10 PM
 

afternoondelight828
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Re: FTWMs: Are you finding it hard as your kids are getting older scheduling activities/sports, etc

Not really as most things have always been at night and on the weekends.

Posted 5/28/15 4:39 PM
 

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FTWMs: Are you finding it hard as your kids are getting older scheduling activities/sports, etc

My da only does one sport (or whatever) at a time. I refuse to make everyone run all over creation. One is fine and he's happy. He's still young though.

Posted 5/28/15 4:48 PM
 

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Re: FTWMs: Are you finding it hard as your kids are getting older scheduling activities/sports, etc

Posted by alli3131

My da only does one sport (or whatever) at a time. I refuse to make everyone run all over creation. One is fine and he's happy. He's still young though.



This is how we will do it.
Right now she does none because she has no interest.
When she gets olerd if SHE wants to do something fine- but I am not gonna start pushing it.
And then, it will be one at a time.
We need a balance in our lives

Message edited 5/28/2015 5:20:05 PM.

Posted 5/28/15 5:19 PM
 

MrsO
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Re: FTWMs: Are you finding it hard as your kids are getting older scheduling activities/sports, etc

I agree it is harder as they get older between homework, activities, sports, religion it is hard especially when I don't get home until after 6 and my dh is home at 5:30. TG we have family that helps out alot.
Also I feel it is harder to make all the school activities.

Posted 5/28/15 5:27 PM
 

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Re: FTWMs: Are you finding it hard as your kids are getting older scheduling activities/sports, etc

Yes it is getting harder. Most practices during the week start at 6:00. I work until 5:30 and get home the earliest at 5:55, if I rush out the door at 5:30.

Then it's an hour of practice, followed by dinner, homework and showers.

The worst is when the games switch times on the weekends. I prefer the same time slot each week. Tball is this way. For soccer, the games can be at 10, 11, 12, 1:00, week to week.

Posted 5/28/15 5:31 PM
 

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Re: FTWMs: Are you finding it hard as your kids are getting older scheduling activities/sports, etc

I recently resigned from my position because of this.

It was so easy when my kids were just in preschool. My older son did like one activity at a time and it was fine.

Now we have after school programs at school, sports, science and art.

We just joined our neighborhood swim club. I signed up my kids for swim team. There is no way my kids would have been able to participate if I was working.

We were looking for a fun nanny to pick up the kids from camp and take them to the pool. I decided I wanted to be that person.

Message edited 5/28/2015 5:35:08 PM.

Posted 5/28/15 5:34 PM
 

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FTWMs: Are you finding it hard as your kids are getting older scheduling activities/sports, etc

This is what I'm worried about for the future. And we have a dog to walk! My old supervisor at work resigned because of this. She said she found it hard as her kids got older.

Posted 5/28/15 6:45 PM
 

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FTWMs: Are you finding it hard as your kids are getting older scheduling activities/sports, etc

I'm a SAHM and I am overwhelmed with two kids playing two sports each this spring. Can you try to carpool with other kids on the team? Good luck, I know it's hard.

Posted 5/28/15 10:17 PM
 

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Re: FTWMs: Are you finding it hard as your kids are getting older scheduling activities/sports, etc

We do one thing at a time.
That one thing also has to have an early time slot so we have the rest of the day together.

Posted 5/28/15 10:37 PM
 

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Re: FTWMs: Are you finding it hard as your kids are getting older scheduling activities/sports, etc

Yes I work 5 long days and it's hard.

Posted 5/29/15 1:17 AM
 

Lauren82
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Re: FTWMs: Are you finding it hard as your kids are getting older scheduling activities/sports, etc

Yes! My older girls are 8 and 6 and in multiple activities. I'm lucky that I am a teacher and can leave at 3:30 to get them where they need to go (though I am often working at midnight or back at school once they go to bed just to get my work done!). I don't carpool because I don't feel comfortable with other people driving my girls, but that means I spend a lot of time running back and forth!

Posted 5/29/15 5:27 AM
 

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FTWMs: Are you finding it hard as your kids are getting older scheduling activities/sports, etc

I don't sign my child up for multiple things at the same time but, I find it hard. We aren't back to back on weekends but, DS is doing t-ball right now and I find we do a lot of scrambling since we have one weekday and one weekend game. The weekday game always seems to be on the one day during the week where DH is working and I have meetings - making it seem more of a scramble.

He did soccer in the fall and we skipped swimming this year since there was too much going on.

I'm also pre-stressing for when both kids play sports.

Message edited 5/29/2015 10:01:28 AM.

Posted 5/29/15 10:00 AM
 

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Re: FTWMs: Are you finding it hard as your kids are getting older scheduling activities/sports, etc

Yes...I've recently had this conversation with ExH because he wants to sign DS up for everything under the sun and I just can't make it work with my schedule. Right now DS is just doing TBall and games are on Saturday mornings and practices on Tuesdays at 5:15. I don't get out of work until 5pm so making practices is nearly impossible. He starts Football in August and that's practices 4 days a week and games on Sundays....I just don't know how that's going to be possible. Plus, DS also wants to do cub scouts. Chat Icon

Posted 5/29/15 11:14 AM
 

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Re: FTWMs: Are you finding it hard as your kids are getting older scheduling activities/sports, etc

Posted by SLPRunner

This is what I'm worried about for the future. And we have a dog to walk! My old supervisor at work resigned because of this. She said she found it hard as her kids got older.



It does get harder, much, much harder.

Our elementary school had 13 snow days this year! This does not include the 8 or so teacher work days on top of the other breaks.

You can choose to not sign up for your child for activities but my son loves going to soccer. We did not sign up for t ball because of the commitment - 2 practices and a game per week. I could not commit to that when working.

DS's favorite part of the day is riding the school bus. He is so happy that I get to now meet him at the bus stop at 3:45.

Life was so easy when both boys attended the same preschool/daycare. School was pretty much open except for major holidays. You just had to pay extra for the breaks and there would always be handful of kids from the same class.

Message edited 5/29/2015 11:29:03 AM.

Posted 5/29/15 11:26 AM
 

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Re: FTWMs: Are you finding it hard as your kids are getting older scheduling activities/sports, etc

It's been manageable thus far, but my younger one will be starting kindergarten next year. I'm already dreading his to schedule them to get to activities. My older ds does travel soccer, which in and of itself is 3 times a week. Chat Icon

Posted 5/29/15 2:40 PM
 

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Re: FTWMs: Are you finding it hard as your kids are getting older scheduling activities/sports, etc

Posted by nferrandi

It's been manageable thus far, but my younger one will be starting kindergarten next year. I'm already dreading his to schedule them to get to activities. My older ds does travel soccer, which in and of itself is 3 times a week. Chat Icon



Yup. And wanted to add I am a SAHM and I am finding it so hard! I think it's great that you can at least restrict their activities to weekends. If they play school sports like soccer or baseball or lax that is not an option.

Posted 5/30/15 9:37 AM
 

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FTWMs: Are you finding it hard as your kids are getting older scheduling activities/sports, etc

It's hard at any age but I keep hearing it's harder as they get older.

I feel as we run all over on the weekend with DS1 (2.5) and Ds2 (9 months). Ds1 does gymboree and swim lessons. Ds2 does Gymboree. I want to do swim with him as well but will need to wait till I'm off in the summer.

I work till 4:30. By time I pick up kids from daycare, get dinner done and cleaned it's time for my LO to start bedtime routine. My DH travels during the week for work so I have no help. Impossible to do anything during the week.

Posted 5/30/15 11:05 AM
 

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Re: FTWMs: Are you finding it hard as your kids are getting older scheduling activities/sports, etc

I always thought it would get easier. .I have 2 babies now. .but my colleague dais this weekend between her 3 kids they have 7 games to go to? !

Posted 5/30/15 12:55 PM
 

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Re: FTWMs: Are you finding it hard as your kids are getting older scheduling activities/sports, etc

I'm also worried about this. DD is only 2 and I have another on the way but I see us running around in the near future and I know how difficult it will be with us working FT.

Posted 5/30/15 3:49 PM
 

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FTWMs: Are you finding it hard as your kids are getting older scheduling activities/sports, etc

DD stays at school until 6pm every night. When she gets picked up her HW is already complete. It's home, dinner, bath, bed. Her only activity is on the weekend. She is finishing first grade. There is NO WAY she could do something during the week that wasn't taking place at school. DH & I just don't work close enough to home, and rush hour traffic is an absolute nightmare.

Message edited 5/30/2015 9:07:09 PM.

Posted 5/30/15 9:06 PM
 
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