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B list wedding invite
If you receive a wedding invitation where you are obviously B list, do you still send a gift? I didn't even know they were engaged until the bride texted me for my address. She came to my wedding a few years ago because we used to work together, but since then she's gotten a new job and we haven't spoken in over a year. There is no question about being B list because the RSVP date was taped over with a more recent date. You could see the actual RSVP date had passed.
I'm not offended because we aren't close. I can't go to the wedding because I already had plans that day (and its such short notice). But I don't really feel the need to send a gift to someone who only sent me an invitation because they were under their minimum and looking to fill more seats. Just curious what other people would do.
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bunnyluck
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B list wedding invite
I'd probably just send a congratulations / wedding card and include the response card in it. It's more about the thought than the gift.
Message edited 10/19/2015 1:55:30 PM.
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| Posted 10/19/15 1:55 PM |
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Pomegranate5
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Re: B list wedding invite
I wouldn't send a gift.
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| Posted 10/19/15 1:55 PM |
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JME78
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If you haven't even spoken in over a year and you didn't even know she was engaged I would not send anything.
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| Posted 10/19/15 1:55 PM |
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IUIGirl
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B list wedding invite
I would not send a gift.
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| Posted 10/19/15 1:56 PM |
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StaceyWill
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Re: B list wedding invite
Posted by Pomegranate5
I wouldn't send a gift.
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| Posted 10/19/15 1:57 PM |
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chilltocam
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B list wedding invite
If there's a registry, maybe I'd send a small gift from there, but I definitely don't think you would be wrong to not send any gift.
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| Posted 10/19/15 2:03 PM |
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ANewDayHasCome
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B list wedding invite
Wow, that's tacky to tape over the original RSVP date. At least send it out a little later than the first round, but still before the RSVP.
I wouldn't send a gift and I wouldn't go
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| Posted 10/19/15 2:03 PM |
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Hofstra26
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Re: B list wedding invite
I wouldn't send a gift.
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| Posted 10/19/15 2:07 PM |
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Super tacky. I wouldn't send anything. I didn't think people actually DID "B" lists.
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| Posted 10/19/15 2:07 PM |
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summertime
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Re: B list wedding invite
Posted by Penny4YourThoughs
Super tacky. I wouldn't send anything. I didn't think people actually DID "B" lists.
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| Posted 10/19/15 2:08 PM |
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JDubs
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Re: B list wedding invite
Agree with the others- I wouldn't send anything.
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| Posted 10/19/15 2:13 PM |
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Lara&Aidansmommy
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Zilch, zero, zip lol
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| Posted 10/19/15 2:24 PM |
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You should teach her a lesson and show up to the wedding and bring a cheap-o registry item.
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| Posted 10/19/15 2:31 PM |
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No gift.
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| Posted 10/19/15 2:34 PM |
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MaeDe
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Re: B list wedding invite
Super tacky to change the RSVP date. No gift! you'll never see this person again.
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| Posted 10/19/15 2:52 PM |
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B list wedding invite
Thanks everyone. I was feeling a little guilty about not sending anything, but this makes me feel much better!
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| Posted 10/19/15 4:55 PM |
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LSP2005
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I would decline and send nothing. I would write congratulations though.
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| Posted 10/19/15 7:05 PM |
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RainyDay
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B list wedding invite
I was originally going to say no gift, but I always tend to send something small. I agree you could get something small from the registry
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| Posted 10/19/15 7:35 PM |
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DiamondGirl
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Re: B list wedding invite
Posted by LSP2005
I would decline and send nothing. I would write congratulations though.
Same here
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| Posted 10/19/15 7:43 PM |
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Bridex100
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Can't believe RSVP date was tape changed. Horrible!
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| Posted 10/19/15 7:56 PM |
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LuckyStar
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I wouldn't be overly concerned about the gift etiquette for someone who taped over their RSVP date 
No gift!!!!
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| Posted 10/19/15 9:32 PM |
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clotheshorse
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Taped over the original RSVP date??? Really? ?
Super tacky. No gift!
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| Posted 10/19/15 9:52 PM |
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gina409
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Re: B list wedding invite
Posted by ANewDayHasCome
Wow, that's tacky to tape over the original RSVP date. At least send it out a little later than the first round, but still before the RSVP.
I wouldn't send a gift and I wouldn't go
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| Posted 10/19/15 9:54 PM |
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LiveItUp
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B list wedding invite
I had a similar thing happen recently with a baby shower. Never got an invite but then got a text after the RSVP date asking if I was going. The shower was only a week away and I already had plans, so I said no and sent no gift. They claimed the invite must have gotten lost in the mail, but then a couple weeks later, they texted DH asking for our address for another party invite. So if they had really sent the first invite, wouldn't they have already had our address? :Hah: That erased any guilt I had been feeling about missing the baby shower.
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