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mom2b
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Possible Catfish situation

Hi I was wondering if anyone knew of a private investogator who might be able to find out a person's true identity. I think my friend might be being catfished. She's been talking to someone online for years and anytime they plan to meet something always "comes up."
Not sure if there is a service besides the TV show who might be able to help but I figured this would be the best place to ask.

Thank you!

Posted 8/12/16 12:31 AM
 
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alli3131
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Possible Catfish situation

You can do most of the work yourself. If you watch the show they tell you all the ways they search.

Posted 8/12/16 5:45 AM
 

StaceyWill
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Re: Possible Catfish situation

Posted by alli3131

You can do most of the work yourself. If you watch the show they tell you all the ways they search.



ITA. Google is a powerful thing. Does she watch the show?

Posted 8/12/16 8:23 AM
 

Jenhos
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Re: Possible Catfish situation

Is she sending this person money?

Posted 8/12/16 8:28 AM
 

mom2b
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Re: Possible Catfish situation

Posted by StaceyWill

Posted by alli3131

You can do most of the work yourself. If you watch the show they tell you all the ways they search.



ITA. Google is a powerful thing. Does she watch the show?



Yes she does, she's tried googling pictures, reverse telephone number. The area code checks out as a Cali one where he says he's from but thats all we've been able to find. No fb account or other social media. She does not send money

Posted 8/12/16 8:35 AM
 

NYCGirl80
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Re: Possible Catfish situation

Anything that's been going on for "years" and has only ever been online is weird. Has she at least Skyped or Facetimed?

Posted 8/12/16 8:51 AM
 

itsagoodlife
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Re: Possible Catfish situation

How did she meet him?

Posted 8/12/16 8:53 AM
 

JME78
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Re: Possible Catfish situation

Do they skype or facetime?

Does he send her recent pictures?

Posted 8/12/16 8:59 AM
 

Eunyboo
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Re: Possible Catfish situation

Post the info.. we're basically investigators on here. Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon LOL but I really am good at that, have found a few things for friends. FM me if you want my help!

Posted 8/12/16 9:39 AM
 

skip123
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Re: Possible Catfish situation

tell your friend to google search whatever email addy this person uses... sometimes that can yield some info...and also google image search

Posted 8/12/16 10:13 AM
 

Jennifer
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Re: Possible Catfish situation

Posted by Eunyboo

Post the info.. we're basically investigators on here. Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon LOL but I really am good at that, have found a few things for friends. FM me if you want my help!



Yes I was thinking this too!

There are some great super sleuths here that probably could really help!!

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Posted 8/12/16 10:14 AM
 

MarathonKnitter
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Re: Possible Catfish situation

Posted by Eunyboo

Post the info.. we're basically investigators on here. Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon LOL but I really am good at that, have found a few things for friends. FM me if you want my help!



so true.
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Posted 8/12/16 10:58 AM
 

BargainMama
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Re: Possible Catfish situation

He's probably married, and uses a throwaway phone, and a fake name. Why doesn't she just stop talking to him? Waste of time!

Posted 8/12/16 11:34 AM
 

NervousNell
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Re: Possible Catfish situation

Posted by BargainMama

He's probably married, and uses a throwaway phone, and a fake name. Why doesn't she just stop talking to him? Waste of time!



I was going to say this.
If you have to hire a PI or do all this work to find out about someone, they aren't worth it.
Period.

Posted 8/12/16 11:39 AM
 

MC09
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Re: Possible Catfish situation

Posted by NervousNell

Posted by BargainMama

He's probably married, and uses a throwaway phone, and a fake name. Why doesn't she just stop talking to him? Waste of time!



I was going to say this.
If you have to hire a PI or do all this work to find out about someone, they aren't worth it.
Period.



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It's been YEARS she's talking to this guy?? And something always comes up? Why is she still talking to him? Why spend the money on a PI? He's obviously hiding something and what would she gain from knowing? Just drop him and move on already.

Posted 8/12/16 12:45 PM
 

JDubs
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Re: Possible Catfish situation

If stuff always "comes up" then there's something wrong there, she is def getting catfished, I would just tell her to move on.

Posted 8/12/16 12:47 PM
 

Leb
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Re: Possible Catfish situation

Posted by MC09

Posted by NervousNell

Posted by BargainMama

He's probably married, and uses a throwaway phone, and a fake name. Why doesn't she just stop talking to him? Waste of time!



I was going to say this.
If you have to hire a PI or do all this work to find out about someone, they aren't worth it.
Period.



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It's been YEARS she's talking to this guy?? And something always comes up? Why is she still talking to him? Why spend the money on a PI? He's obviously hiding something and what would she gain from knowing? Just drop him and move on already.



It doesn't have to be something sinister. Maybe the other person is horribly ugly or disabled and embarrassed if he shows his true self she'll cut him off. Maybe he's disabled and their relationship is what keeps him going.

If she's invested this much time I would feel like she's does too and try to get to he bottom of it as well!

Posted 8/12/16 1:44 PM
 

MC09
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Re: Possible Catfish situation

Posted by Leb

Posted by MC09

Posted by NervousNell

Posted by BargainMama

He's probably married, and uses a throwaway phone, and a fake name. Why doesn't she just stop talking to him? Waste of time!



I was going to say this.
If you have to hire a PI or do all this work to find out about someone, they aren't worth it.
Period.



Chat Icon

It's been YEARS she's talking to this guy?? And something always comes up? Why is she still talking to him? Why spend the money on a PI? He's obviously hiding something and what would she gain from knowing? Just drop him and move on already.



It doesn't have to be something sinister. Maybe the other person is horribly ugly or disabled and embarrassed if he shows his true self she'll cut him off. Maybe he's disabled and their relationship is what keeps him going.

If she's invested this much time I would feel like she's does too and try to get to he bottom of it as well!



It's been years. Whatever the reason, she's being misled. Even if a person feels they are undesirable to the other person for whatever reason it doesn't excuse them from this type of behavior and from misleading others. They should have come clean years ago.

She doesn't need to hire someone. She can say it's been a long time and if you don't want to meet i'm done.

Message edited 8/12/2016 1:54:57 PM.

Posted 8/12/16 1:52 PM
 

NervousNell
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Member since 11/09

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Re: Possible Catfish situation

Posted by MC09

Posted by Leb

Posted by MC09

Posted by NervousNell

Posted by BargainMama

He's probably married, and uses a throwaway phone, and a fake name. Why doesn't she just stop talking to him? Waste of time!



I was going to say this.
If you have to hire a PI or do all this work to find out about someone, they aren't worth it.
Period.



Chat Icon

It's been YEARS she's talking to this guy?? And something always comes up? Why is she still talking to him? Why spend the money on a PI? He's obviously hiding something and what would she gain from knowing? Just drop him and move on already.



It doesn't have to be something sinister. Maybe the other person is horribly ugly or disabled and embarrassed if he shows his true self she'll cut him off. Maybe he's disabled and their relationship is what keeps him going.

If she's invested this much time I would feel like she's does too and try to get to he bottom of it as well!



It's been years. Whatever the reason, she's being misled. Even if a person feels they are undesirable to the other person for whatever reason it doesn't excuse them from this type of behavior and from misleading others. They should have come clean years ago.

She doesn't need to hire someone. She can say it's been a long time and if you don't want to meet i'm done.



Exactly.
Because let's say she does hire someone. And pays money to find out, yeah he is who he says he is.
Then what?
He still won't meet.
So where is this even going?

Posted 8/12/16 1:59 PM
 

mom2b
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Re: Possible Catfish situation

At this point she knows something is very wrong with the situation and everything is a lie but needs closure to move on. She's invested a lot of time in this person and disclosed a lot of personal information so she wants to get to the bottom of who she has been speaking to. Whenever she calls him he almost always picks up the phone. But always an excuse as to why they cant Skype or video chat. I've told her to just let it go but she says she needs to know and can't have this hanging over her head for the rest of her life.

Posted 8/14/16 12:04 AM
 

LSP2005
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Re: Possible Catfish situation

Wondering if it is a girl instead of a guy or someone who is in another relationship. Post the info here and I am sure someone could figure it out.

Posted 8/14/16 1:25 AM
 

twizzlers
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Re: Possible Catfish situation

I just watched an episode and the girl being catfished told the guy she bought a plane ticket to see him....he fessed up real fast after she told him that. Could she try that?

Posted 8/14/16 7:54 AM
 

Jenhos
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Re: Possible Catfish situation

Posted by mom2b

At this point she knows something is very wrong with the situation and everything is a lie but needs closure to move on. She's invested a lot of time in this person and disclosed a lot of personal information so she wants to get to the bottom of who she has been speaking to. Whenever she calls him he almost always picks up the phone. But always an excuse as to why they cant Skype or video chat. I've told her to just let it go but she says she needs to know and can't have this hanging over her head for the rest of her life.



Does she give this person $$$. Has she put her dating life 100% on hold because of it?

Posted 8/14/16 8:07 AM
 

Mom0710
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Re: Possible Catfish situation

Posted by mom2b

At this point she knows something is very wrong with the situation and everything is a lie but needs closure to move on. She's invested a lot of time in this person and disclosed a lot of personal information so she wants to get to the bottom of who she has been speaking to. Whenever she calls him he almost always picks up the phone. But always an excuse as to why they cant Skype or video chat. I've told her to just let it go but she says she needs to know and can't have this hanging over her head for the rest of her life.



That's tough I would want closure too. And really post the info here.. These girls find out info better then the fbi.

Posted 8/14/16 8:33 AM
 

mom2b
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Re: Possible Catfish situation

Posted by Mom0710

Posted by mom2b

At this point she knows something is very wrong with the situation and everything is a lie but needs closure to move on. She's invested a lot of time in this person and disclosed a lot of personal information so she wants to get to the bottom of who she has been speaking to. Whenever she calls him he almost always picks up the phone. But always an excuse as to why they cant Skype or video chat. I've told her to just let it go but she says she needs to know and can't have this hanging over her head for the rest of her life.



That's tough I would want closure too. And really post the info here.. These girls find out info better then the fbi.



I can't post info but will fm if anyone who wants to help is really good at this stuff, thanks

Posted 8/14/16 4:06 PM
 
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