How inconsiderate is this?

I may be irrationally angry at this, but my 6 year old’s dance recital is on a Sunday night at 7pm. Her group does not go on until after the intermission, which will be after 8 pm. I have a 4 year old as well who will be with me, and they have the school the next morning. Then we get an email saying we may not come back stage to get them early after the performance. The rehearsal is also the same day during the day which I think is a lot. I honestly feel the little kids should go first, she has adult routines going on before kids. I am so aggravated about this I don’t even want to bother but don’t want to set a bad example for my child so we will keep the commitment. Would you be aggravated in this situation or is this the norm for dance schools? I have no ide since it’s its our first year....

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No experience with this stuff either but I’d be annoyed if the kids went on after adults, can’t leave with your kids after their performance, on a Sunday night with school the next day, no less

That’s annoying

They prob figure that if all the kids left with their parents, nobody would be there to watch the adults dance

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that is ridiculous for a 6 year old.

8pm on a Sunday night is silly enough - don't they have school Monday? Sounds like they forgot to book a place for the recital and couldn't get a normal time!

our dance school always had the younger girls perform first and then if we wanted we could pick them up backstage during intermission.

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I'm surprised the younger children would be on so late. Our studio had the same rule about not being able to leave early, but I saw some children go home after they were done.

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I would be annoyed... I would probably complain and they should let kids go on first and leave. Sorry but if I had a 6 year old I would think 8 pm would be bed time

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They should have skipped the rehearsal and just did the show earlier. Who wants to go back and forth and out the costume on and off.
My little one is on before intermission and we leave during intermission.

If you don’t plan on going back to the dance school I would grab her after her performance. How can they tell you no about you grabbing your child. If you plan on going back you will need to suck it up.

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Our dance studio has 14 days of recitals. The evening performance starts at 6:15 PM. Yes, some will have a school night. In our recital you go on with your class and the finale performance. It is one night that your kid will be out late. If you want a recital, this is when they do these things. I do think you are overreacting. If it is too late for your younger child, then it is incumbent upon you to get a babysitter.

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That is absurd. I wouldn’t want to do that on a Sunday night as an adult.

Not to mention they’re shooting themselves in the foot because I highly doubt kids that age are going to be able to perform on stage in front of all those people after their bedtimes. They’ll be exhausted. Not s good look for your dance school when the kids don’t dance.

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I would be annoyed and I would go back and get my child after the performance. Nobody tells me I can't take my child. EFF THAT.
Some of these dance schools need to get off their high horse. They aren't saving lives.
What will they do if you go and take your child? Call the police? Please. GTFOH.

School and being well rested for school trumps dance every single time.
These are kids...not pro dancers making a career out of it.

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They have adults dancing at a recital before little kids?? Who wants to watch adults dancing at a recital?! I barely want to watch the kids dancing lol let alone stomaching grown adults. They sound like assholes.

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This is one of the reasons we switched dance studios this year. I thought their recital rehearsal and show was at a ridiculous time for such young children. Our new studio does a Saturday afternoon show with the younger ones and only the older kids dance at night.

ETA: We also weren’t supposed to take out children at intermission. I did anyway. It was 9pm. They were not happy but neither was I!

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Yes I agree that is very late for a Sunday and I'd be annoyed. My daughter does Irish dance and her recital was just today actually. Her dance teacher split it up so that half of her classes danced in in the morning and the other half in the afternoon. But even the afternoon session ends at 5.

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I think that is crazy. Both my daughters started dance at 2 years old and had recitals. This is now our 4th year at our dance school (and 4th recital). Every year the recital is on a Saturday. They have 4 recitals that day. A 10am, 1pm, 4pm and 7pm. None of the little kids are in the 7pm recital.

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Totally ridiculous! All of these activities have gotten out of hand and don’t consider the developmental stage of the children. These companies take themselves way too seriously.

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Well, I used to teach ballet when I was in high school (did ballet and pointe for 10 years).

I think it is ridiculous that the recital is on a Sunday. The rehearsal on the same day is crazy. I remember doing a rehearsal, dress rehearsal, and recital on the week leading up to it. I was really into dance, though, so I spent hours a day leading up to the recital.

At the dance studio I went to/taught at, they would vary the recital so that young kids would go between the older kids and teenagers. It would give that cute factor throughout. Then there was a big finale with everyone.

I don’t remember if parents were allowed to pick up their kids when they wanted. I watched them in between dances and my dances during the recital. But the recital would start at 5pm on a Saturday.

I’m sorry, but a Sunday is ridiculous.

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My twins will be in their 1st dance recital on June 15th. The show does start at 7 PM, but it's a Saturday. I also believe we are allowed to get them at intermission as long as they aren't in the finale. I would be so annoyed if the recital was Sunday night.

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And I thought ours was gonna be rough. Our Dance recital is in the morning on a Sunday. Basically my 3 year old is there when they arrive at 8:30am till it ends at 12pm. And yes, the bigger kids are first and no you can't get them once they do their routine. Its a show and they will come on the end for the final bow. I think if your not liking the way that dance studio works try another.

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I’ll be honest...we are a dance family and this is pretty much the norm. I’m our school they split the kids up age wise so each show has some from every age group (the only exception is the 2 year olds that I think they only put in the day show and they can leave at intermission). No one else is permitted to leave before the finale. I hated (and still do) when we have the evening shows because ours can run 3+ hours, but I think it is not uncommon. Some schools have different setups, so I would advise that if you don’t love the setup of yours, try another out before you get in too deep...we have a local school that does recitals every other year and it’s much lower key...sometimes I think that would have been a better fit for me, but we are already way too involved here so I suck it up for my daughters.

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There are definitely dance schools that do not operate this way. DD’s dance school has 3 recitals. You only go to the one your child dances in and it’s an hour long on a Saturday either in the morning or in the afternoon. I think the latest possible slot is 3pm.

You have to suck it up this year but if there are other schools in your area you may be able to find a more accommodating one next year.

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Resident Dance Mom here. My daughter is on two teams. Yet, this sounds absolutely absurd. Inher dance school, all the little ones go on Saturday morning at 9:30. The show is pretty short, about an hour and a half. However, you are not allowed to take them out before the finale. They have security and everything. I would definitely switch Dance schools. The way yours is run seems asinine.I’m not sure where you live but I am south shore Suffolk. If you’d like the name of mine, feel free to respond to this or PM me.