Reading Between The One-Liners: How To Spot A False Friend

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By Mia Bolaris-Forget

I recently was informed that many members of the social networking “craze’ have literally hundreds of friends. Honestly, even back in High School, when my ultimate goal, despite my “geekdom” was to be part of, or at least accepted by, the “in” crowd, I never aspired to that many friends. In fact, I don’t think there were that many people in my entire graduating class. And, truth be told, I’ve never found that many people “that” interesting. To this day I can attest to TWO good and true friends that I REALLY like and trust and another two or three that I’m building a healthy relationship with. Then, of course there’s those people, many like to add to their “friends” list but who are actually only “acquaintances” at best, and may not necessarily have your back…in fact, you may have to watch your back around them. The term today for these “fairweathered friends” is frenemy and here’s how you can “spot” one.

1. Her FB pictures of the two of you (or a group) are those where she looks best and stands out…and with little regard to you. In fact, she may only “tag” you in photos that are not so complimentary to you or the rest of the group.

2. All conversations MUST revolve in some way around her. Even if you bring her unpleasant news, she has to find a way to find her way into the limelight.

3. She barely holds on to people from your social circle…but is always in contact with “high-power” or “high-profile” people and her life is always soo busy and soo exciting.

4. She’s chummy with your networking cohorts and/or your guy, but often leaves YOU out.

5. All her communication with your (or anyone) focuses on her and she’s a drama mamma.

6. She is the center of her own world…even when she pays someone else a compliment it revolves around her…for example, this meals is delicious, it’s almost as good as mine. Or, “did I give you this recipe”

7. She (often) offers left-handed compliments such as “your man is great…FOR YOU”. Or I love how you can handle a life of being a stay-at-home mom, I would get so bored..but I have to hand it to you.

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