No It All: Why Saying “NO” Is A “Yes” For Growth And Development

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By Mia Bolaris-Forget

There is a current debate out there about whether to spank or not to spank your kids. And, some experts, while they may not offer their insight or perspective on the topic say there’s a much better way to assert your values, and that’s simply by saying “NO”

And, while those without kids may think this to be relatively “simple”, parents may be inclined to “argue” otherwise. In fact, saying No is often harder than punishing or spanking since giving in to kid’s often all too demanding requests is a simple solution to ensuring some semblance of sanity and peace. But, according to experts it’s often the wrong move.

Children, they note have many requests, some “normal” and within the perameters of reasonable, and others that push our limits. But, for fear of failing as parents and denying them things maybe we never had, we are frequently quick and eager to accommodate their wants and needs. But, kids, according to experts are smarter than most of us think. Not only do they appreciate boundaries and discipline but push our limits to see just how far they can push us without any repercussions. And, they add that while “yes” is the answer your child may (initially) want to hear, in the long run you are doing him or her an injustice that is more harmful than good.

Professionals point out that saying “no” more often is one of the best ways to show your child love and teach him or her important life lessons including how to cope with adversity and disappointment, how to properly present their point, even when someone disagrees, how to prioritize, and how to achieve a healthy balance between what he or she wants to do and what must be done. In fact, saying “NO” is understood to being a key component for ensuring your child can handle hearing “no” when he or she goes out into the “real world”, making these kids better equipped for life and leading to success in school, work, and relationships.

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