i am so depressed....

i was not expecting to be this depressed! I mean, i knew it was coming when i saw my doctor last week...yet still, i can't bring myself do do anything! ALL week, i come home from work and just don't feel like doing A THING! I have been eating CR*P all week too. Just tons of carbs...and i am a very petite person, i feel like i am over eating to make the pain go away. i feel so unhealthy now...i just don't know how to go back to normal! Sorry, just needed to vent!

i am going to florida in a week and i feel like i wont fit into any of my clothes the way i am going....please talk some sense into me!!! I really need to be healthy for the next pregnancy.

I can't wait to just get the D&C over with and go back to normal again. The worst part of this is...no one knows except for DH. I want to tell my mom but i can't bring myself to bring it up! She had no idea we were trying and i kinda want to save the "news" for a happy time, rather then breaking it to her this way...

ok, vent over

Re: i am so depressed....

I'm so sorry you're going through this. Of course you're depressed and that's OK, but I hope you're feeling better soon...

As for your weight...
I went through a miscarriage in January at around 9.5 weeks. I wallowed for a few weeks and I decided to do something for me--I joined Weight Watchers (I've been a member on and off for years). I know that if I hadn't, I would probably still be overeating and then thinking..."I should be pregnant right now...instead I'm just fat." So far, I've lost 8 lbs. and I feel terrific about myself. Honestly, it was the best thing to come of a sad situation. Now, I know when I do get pregnant again, I'll be at a weight I'm happier with.

Oh, and also, I read your other post and my DD has type A- blood. My doctors said it was absolutely NO problem--she'll just need the Rhogam shot during her pregnancies. It is SO common...tons of women get the shot.

Hang in there and feel better...

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It's ok to feel this way It's completely normal and I felt the same way when my m/c happened. I felt like I was walking around in a fog and that every thing was an effort. I didn't eat too well either which was surprising because I normally don't eat a thing when I am stressed.

But, you will feel better - I promise! It is not going to happen overnight and everyone is different, but you will feel better. There still will be days where you will feel sad, but the constant sadness won't last forever.

And don't worry about the clothes! I did the same thing - I was all worked up because I felt like a bloated mess. I think I was just looking for something else to stress about other than the m/c!

We are all here for you and please vent away

Message edited 4/9/2009 9:50:51 PM.

Re: i am so depressed....

totally normal feelings....very normal......don't worry about your pants.

I am in the same boat as you right now and I am telling you, having been through this once before that the stage we are in now....the waiting for the D&C, and knowing that we are still carrying something and in limbo....this is the worst, most anxiety provoking part.


As you said yourself, there is a lot to look forward to....your next pregnancy. And for the immediate future, maybe try and focus on the small things....a manicure, a trip to FL, buying yourself something....I know this all sounds silly but sometimes it helps to get through the day or even the hour.

You can vent here any time and FM me if you need anything.

Re: i am so depressed....

dont ever hesitate to vent here...
i know many ladies from this site picked me up when i was down..

everything you mentioned is absolutely normal.. i was so depressed and sad too ..

i am a small girl too and always carried the same weight.. but after my loss i just ate, and ate JUNK.. i gained of course .. it was all just hitting me like a ton of bricks.. i didnt want to do anything.. just mope ..

but i promise you.. it does get better! i didnt believe it either when people were telling me this... but it does! and you will know when that time is.. everyone heals differently.. just take your time to mourn and be sad.. you will be okay!

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thanks, i'm glad hear that i am not the only one who felt this way..although not happy to hear that you have been through similar experiences, i wouldnt wish this on anyone!

The worst thing was today...at the pre testing, i had to fill out a form and one of the questions was...is there any chance you might be pregnant? check off yes or no.....I left it blank b/c i didn't know what to fill out! I figured they would figure it out when they looked at my paperwork.....but then AGAIN when i got the blood drawn, the lady asked me..."are you pregnant?"..i was like, welll.....um, kinda?? but it's not viable. it was awkward!

Message edited 4/10/2009 4:10:36 PM.