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Bluepixie
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Help! House not selling- dad's terribly depressed (long) UPDATED
So DH and I live out of state. My parents still live here in LI. Their house has been on the market since June- not too long. My mom asked me if I could come home while DH is away on a business trip. Now I'm here and my dad is a complete basketcase. He's talking about "if he had a gun, he'd shoot himself" "keep me away from sharp objects". We're almost to the point of bringing him to the hospital. He's not sleeping because he's worried about the house not selling. He wants to retire but he can't until he pays off the house which he can't do until it sells. It's one huge vicious cycle. My poor mother is at her wits end. 
They are at the point where they will take any acceptible offer right now but NOBODY IS OFFERING ANYTHING! The market is so terrible that even their real estate agent looks depressed. Ugh! I don't know what to do. I need to go home tomorrow but I'm worried about leaving.... 
~*~ Update ~*~
Dad went to his MD who just confirmed that the whole ordeal with the house is simply overwhelmingly stressful. He did give him some medication so he's a little more relaxed now. AND- they had 3 couples come look at the house tonight. I really, really hope that something will move soon. I have to go back home to MA tomorrow and I don't wanna leave knowing that he's still on the edge.
Thanks for all the support/well-wishes.
Message edited 8/1/2007 11:50:28 PM.
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Re: Help! House not selling- dad's terribly depressed (long)
Have they thought about renting the house?
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| Posted 8/1/07 11:43 AM |
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dee7772
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Re: Help! House not selling- dad's terribly depressed (long)
what town is the house located in and do you have a mls #?
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| Posted 8/1/07 11:44 AM |
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Marcie
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Re: Help! House not selling- dad's terribly depressed (long)
Do you have the link to the house - I could see if I can pass it onto people 
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| Posted 8/1/07 11:45 AM |
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alnem
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Re: Help! House not selling- dad's terribly depressed (long)
whats the MLS #? maybe someone on here knows someone looking for a house.
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| Posted 8/1/07 11:45 AM |
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Bluepixie
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Re: Help! House not selling- dad's terribly depressed (long)
They can't rent. They have so much accumulated debt that they NEED the sale of the house in order to pay off everything.
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| Posted 8/1/07 11:45 AM |
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smdl
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Re: Help! House not selling- dad's terribly depressed (long)
Have several REA come to the house and tell you WHY the house is not selling.
They will tell you what needs to be done.
Maybe it's updating, clutter, etc...
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| Posted 8/1/07 11:45 AM |
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Bluepixie
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Re: Help! House not selling- dad's terribly depressed (long)
MLSLI # 1968648
Thanks, I really appreciate it
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| Posted 8/1/07 11:47 AM |
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Bluepixie
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Re: Help! House not selling- dad's terribly depressed (long)
They've updated EVERYTHING. New kitchen, they put on a new roof, new back steps, new basement windows. Everything the agents told them to fix- they have. They all just shake their heads and say that the market is in a slump.
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| Posted 8/1/07 11:48 AM |
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alnem
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Re: Help! House not selling- dad's terribly depressed (long)
maybe you should write to HGTV and have your parents home featured on "Get It Sold"!!!! Here's the link...
HGTV - Get It Sold
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| Posted 8/1/07 11:48 AM |
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MsSissy
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Re: Help! House not selling- dad's terribly depressed (long)
It's a beautiful house and seems to be priced right.
Have they had a lot of open houses?
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| Posted 8/1/07 11:50 AM |
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Re: Help! House not selling- dad's terribly depressed (long)
what you bring up are 2 seperate problems... First the house isn't selling, but then there's the much more serious problem that your dad is very depressed, stressed, and could be suicidal.
Even if their house wasn't on the market, he likely could be set-off into a depression by something else.
Never mind the house. Take him to a psychiatrist or hospital ASAP. Even if he fights you.... he's way too unstable.
most depression is due to an individuals biochemistry, it's not something that someone can 'snap out of' on their own. They need medication to restore a normal equilibrium.
Take care of the home situation later.
to you and your family....
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| Posted 8/1/07 11:50 AM |
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smdl
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Re: Help! House not selling- dad's terribly depressed (long)
Posted by Bluepixie
They've updated EVERYTHING. New kitchen, they put on a new roof, new back steps, new basement windows. Everything the agents told them to fix- they have. They all just shake their heads and say that the market is in a slump.
Yes, I am surprised it is not sold yet. It's not expensive for Massapequa Park either.
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| Posted 8/1/07 11:51 AM |
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alnem
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Re: Help! House not selling- dad's terribly depressed (long)
Posted by Bluepixie
MLSLI # 1968648
Thanks, I really appreciate it
i just looked it up and i know your agent...she's very good. i'm selling one of her other listings right now. let me check my buyer pool and see if i have anyone for your house.
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| Posted 8/1/07 11:51 AM |
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Bluepixie
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Re: Help! House not selling- dad's terribly depressed (long)
Every weekend they've had open houses with only 2-3 families coming per open house. It's soo frustrating
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| Posted 8/1/07 11:51 AM |
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Marcie
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Re: Help! House not selling- dad's terribly depressed (long)
it is a beautiful home!
Maybe they need to change their RE?
Is the RE showing it to anyone?
You need to have a motivated RE for it to get sold. If the RE is putting it on the back burner - then that could be why not alot of people are looking at it.
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| Posted 8/1/07 11:52 AM |
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Bluepixie
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Re: Help! House not selling- dad's terribly depressed (long)
Posted by alnem
Posted by Bluepixie
MLSLI # 1968648
Thanks, I really appreciate it
i just looked it up and i know your agent...she's very good. i'm selling one of her other listings right now. let me check my buyer pool and see if i have anyone for your house.
Angel! Thank you
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| Posted 8/1/07 11:52 AM |
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lulugrrl
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Re: Help! House not selling- dad's terribly depressed (long)
Thats a really nice house, can't belive no offers.
My MIL is in same situation. SHe wants to retire, but needs to sell first..just a tough market.
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nov04libride
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Re: Help! House not selling- dad's terribly depressed (long)
I would lower the price if they really want to sell ASAP. Put it at $399,999...It'll show as the cheapest one with those specs, and if people search for under $400,000 it will come up. Yeah, maybe they'll get $15,000 less, but selling more quickly might be worth it to not hang onto it for another 6 mos or year.
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| Posted 8/1/07 11:54 AM |
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Bluepixie
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Re: Help! House not selling- dad's terribly depressed (long)
Posted by nov04libride
I would lower the price if they really want to sell ASAP. Put it at $399,999...It'll show as the cheapest one with those specs, and if people search for under $400,000 it will come up. Yeah, maybe they'll get $15,000 less, but selling more quickly might be worth it to not hang onto it for another 6 mos or year.
They may just have to do this..
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counselor74
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Re: Help! House not selling- dad's terribly depressed (long)
Posted by nov04libride
I would lower the price if they really want to sell ASAP. Put it at $399,999...It'll show as the cheapest one with those specs, and if people search for under $400,000 it will come up. Yeah, maybe they'll get $15,000 less, but selling more quickly might be worth it to not hang onto it for another 6 mos or year.
This is probably the only way to go for a fast sale. I would also try to renegotiate with the agent for a lower comission to put a few extra bucks in your parets' pocket when all is said and done.
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Beth
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Re: Help! House not selling- dad's terribly depressed (long)
Posted by marriedinportjeff
what you bring up are 2 seperate problems... First the house isn't selling, but then there's the much more serious problem that your dad is very depressed, stressed, and could be suicidal.
Even if their house wasn't on the market, he likely could be set-off into a depression by something else.
Never mind the house. Take him to a psychiatrist or hospital ASAP. Even if he fights you.... he's way too unstable.
most depression is due to an individuals biochemistry, it's not something that someone can 'snap out of' on their own. They need medication to restore a normal equilibrium.
Take care of the home situation later.
to you and your family....
agree on both counts - most houses are sitting on the market for longer in 2 to 3 months now- that is normal
it took my Dad 6 months to sell his and he took about $80K off the price to get it sold
I think your Dad needs to talk to someone asap about the way he is reacting to this
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Re: Help! House not selling- dad's terribly depressed (long)
It's a beautiful house and I've actually showed it to my sister who is looking to buy...unfortunately, and I am just being honest here, she doesn't like the location. According to the map it's right next to Sunrise Mall.
I pray that it sells asap!
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| Posted 8/1/07 12:26 PM |
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curliegirl
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Re: Help! House not selling- dad's terribly depressed (long)
Hey Laura,
I just sent your parent's house to friends who are very interested in buying something soon.
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| Posted 8/1/07 12:29 PM |
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Bluepixie
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Re: Help! House not selling- dad's terribly depressed (long)
Posted by ~Melissa~
It's a beautiful house and I've actually showed it to my sister who is looking to buy...unfortunately, and I am just being honest here, she doesn't like the location. According to the map it's right next to Sunrise Mall.
I pray that it sells asap!
That's what alot of people say when they see it. They look beyond the backyard and say "Ohh, that's the mall" but I have to be honest, in the 19 years that my parents have been here in this house, they have NEVER had a problem. And you'd never know it was the mall. No excess noise/traffic/etc.. None of that. In fact, it's been a blessing to step right out the fence in your backyard and have the mall right there. When I was a teenager, I loved it! LOL..
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