Kind Words...

I hope that I am not crashing in posting on here, but I don't really know where I quite fit in...and someone said some things to me this weekend that I just wanted to share, because they have really been hitting home with me, and have given me a new outlook on things...

I know that the hurt and pain that I am feeling is a different hurt and pain than you may be...but when it comes down to it, we all have had things happen to us that have changed our lives and have taken some kind of emotional toll on us...

This weekend we had our taxes done....the guy that does them for us lost his son at the age of 7. I've met him twice in my life, so it's not like he really knows me well or anything, but what he said to me is probably the best thing that anyone has said to me in the past 3 months...He said that things won't get better, but life will be different. But what really stuck out was this...he said "If there is one thing I can say to help you, it's don't let this define you. If you do, 3 lives will have been lost."

And that simple phrase has been running through my head over and over. Nothing will ever take my pain away, but if I let my loss of my daughter define me, I will never keep living as I'm supposed to. If I let myself be defined as the girl who lost her baby, I will never be the girl who goes on to have more happy days, and a family.

I'm not quite sure what my point in writing this is - but I felt like I wanted to share it with you all. When you are sad and depressed about whatever might be going on in your life, and how things might not be what you had always thought they would be, maybe if you think about what you want you life to be defined by, you'll feel a little better.

Hugs to you all

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Thanks for sharing...I hope you are doing well

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Thank you. That really helps a lot.

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I love hearing things like this, it does help to remind us to still stay positve and enjoy your life. Thanks for sharing!

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Thanking you for sharing that!

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Thank you for sharing. My brother has told me that "define" line numerous times. However, coming from you, I truly understand it now. Thanks.

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thank you for sharing that... really. I've been so dark lately, just sad sad sad. And that's just not me. I'm usually such a happy person, but all this stuff.. it's just been really hard and I find myself getting sadder and sadder each day that passes. And suddenly today i saw how depressed I've become over this period of 6 months (when it all started). It happened little by little that i didn't even realize how far I've come and I need to snap back. This isn't me, it isn't ok. I don't want to live in this darkness. So I do appreciate what you wrote here. It's so true - I shouldn't let this define me. I'm stronger than that

I am so sorry for your loss, truly I am. Thank you for sharing these words