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Blu-ize
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Re: How do I tell her?
Posted by mrsmck
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are you her manager? if not, i wouldn't say anything - i'd leave it up to them! if you have to work with her i wouldn't say anything that may make working with her unpleasant... she could get nasty
Oh I agree. I just think judgment goes out the window.
and Barbara, I don't manage her but they want me to mentor her and a few other assistants.
I don't think they will like me very much. There is a dress code and a new one is being rolled out but hasn't come out yet. I was waiting for that to do the trick but it hasn't been published yet.
her boss has hinted to her but she is not that bright.
As her "mentor", I think you should say something, but not in a heavy-handed kind of way. Maybe show her the policy that's already in place and ask her if she thinks her wardrobe is appropriate/fits within the policy.
One complication of that is that one of her male managers came from a tech firm and wants to change the dress code and is very vocal about it. When not in firm management meetings he wears jeans and t-shirts. He is not 100% allowed to but my boss (his boss) loves him and is not telling him not to. She is getting push back from her boss about relaxing the dress code.
It's all so up in the air and everyone has their own opinions.
I don't care how relaxed the dress code is, when I bring people in to see my boss for interviews, vendor meetings, etc..I shouldn't have her parading around in spaghetti straps, bra straps showing and 5 inch wedges and hot pink polish on her toes. Yeah, all pretty, we like it..when you are out with your friends or at the beach not at work.
She knows what is right. Yesterday she came in with a work appropriate dress but still wore the 5 inch wedges. An improvement.
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Blu-ize
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Re: How do I tell her?
Posted by mzsocialworker1
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Now my female boss knows.
She was appalled.
The rest is out of my hands. I asked her to leave me out of it. I have to work with her very closely. They are making me work with her on things and it's not a partnership. It's me telling her what to do..she doesn't have the experience.
I didn't know I was teaching her how to do her job..I didn't sign up for that.
mentoring for the firm is not teaching someone how to do their job.
btw--she's 41.
Ugh. I feel your pain. This is exactly why I gave up my previous supervisory positions. I was so sick of being told I had to do other staff's work or take the fall for them because of their cluelessness in life.
She's 41? It sounded like you were describing a new college grad!
Yes 41..a grown up. who has had other jobs (apparently in more relaxed atmospheres)
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karabara
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Re: How do I tell her?
i agree w/ PP's. I would stay out of it. It's her career being impacted by her dress style, not yours. When you are "officially" her mentor, you can have more grounds to say something. dress code is a tricky one. unless someone's overtly inappropriate, like dressing lewdly, I don't see HR intervening too much.
i have seen depts send out "reminder" emails about things that employees are getting lax on....like dress code, personal internet use, phone use, etc. It's sent to everyone as not to single anyone out in these cases
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MrsMick
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Re: How do I tell her?
A friendly memo should work!
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| Posted 8/13/10 12:32 PM |
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Re: How do I tell her?
She has been told. Today she is dressed like she's at work.
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MrsMick
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Re: How do I tell her?
Posted by Blu-ize
She has been told. Today she is dressed like she's at work.
That's good! Some people really do not have the slightest clue! I work with this woman who is almost 40 and she is always wearing super short skirts with HIGH stripper like pumps. She has breast implants too and her boobs are always HANGING out. LOL, the men stare and it is funny as hell but yet, it is so unprofessional.
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Blu-ize
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Re: How do I tell her?
Posted by MrsMick
Posted by Blu-ize
She has been told. Today she is dressed like she's at work.
That's good! Some people really do not have the slightest clue! I work with this woman who is almost 40 and she is always wearing super short skirts with HIGH stripper like pumps. She has breast implants too and her boobs are always HANGING out. LOL, the men stare and it is funny as hell but yet, it is so unprofessional.
Yep, hard to believe they don't have judgement.
She has been dressing like she's at work now a whole 3 days. (in a row!)
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| Posted 8/16/10 10:08 AM |
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MrsList
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Re: How do I tell her?
We had one or two people at my old job that just had no concern for standards of dress at work. This was a very relaxed environment - jeans, flip flops were okay but people were wearing dirty clothes and those tank tops with the bra built in or workout clothes.
It ruined it for the rest of us because they came out with a new dress code policy. Luckily I was leaving for a new job anyway because there was no way they were telling me I couldn't wear my flippers to that job anymore after having done so for 6 years. My supervisor even told the bosses - You're lucky MrsList is leaving because there's no way she would go for this!
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