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What is your take on this??? Teacher related

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lipglossjunky73
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Re: What is your take on this??? Teacher related

That is not ok. That will set up cruel children to point out who the culprit is.

I love that there are good teachers without jobs while people like this keep theirs.

Posted 4/7/11 6:27 PM
 

1stimemom
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Re: What is your take on this??? Teacher related

Posted by nrthshgrl

4-5th is when they start to "stink" more as puberty starts to hit. I know it because my son told me his 5th grade friend smells now & that when he gets to 5th grade, he'll have his own "manstink"Chat Icon

I think the teacher went about it the wrong way. Saying "someone stinks" makes everyone wonder who it is & could resort to some teasing.

He should've called the nurse & let her know OR address it with the health teacher. What I don't like at all is that "don't tell your parents" thing.

I would speak to the teacher about the conversation you overheard & tell him that it's completely inappropriate & remind him that you NEVER encourage children to keep things from their parents that they're uncomfortable with or upset about.



100% perfectly said. ITA!

Posted 4/7/11 6:32 PM
 

LuLu2260
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Re: What is your take on this??? Teacher related

I am a middle school teacher and although I would LOVE to say this I wouldnt bc I would be in trouble. He should have talked to the guidance dept to talk to that kid alone.

Posted 4/7/11 6:33 PM
 

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Re: What is your take on this??? Teacher related

Woah! I am a 4th grade teacher and would never do that. I have had a few instances like this and taught a general lesson on the importance of washing, teeth brushing, etc. That usually works but the one time it didn't I called the parent myself (since our nurse is completely worthless). Never would I involve other students like that!

Posted 4/7/11 6:46 PM
 

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Re: What is your take on this??? Teacher related

Posted by nrthshgrl

4-5th is when they start to "stink" more as puberty starts to hit. I know it because my son told me his 5th grade friend smells now & that when he gets to 5th grade, he'll have his own "manstink"Chat Icon

I think the teacher went about it the wrong way. Saying "someone stinks" makes everyone wonder who it is & could resort to some teasing.

He should've called the nurse & let her know OR address it with the health teacher. What I don't like at all is that "don't tell your parents" thing.

I would speak to the teacher about the conversation you overheard & tell him that it's completely inappropriate & remind him that you NEVER encourage children to keep things from their parents that they're uncomfortable with or upset about.



I agree!

I've had this "conversation" with my classes many times before. It happens every spring. But I have this talk with my class as a whole and never say it's one child. That's wrong.

I remind them ALL as they come in from recess the importance of showering daily and using deodorant. I never say that they "stink" but tell them that a daily shower WITH SOAP and the use of deodorant will reduce the likelihood that they will have body odor. A lot of them giggle and smell their armpits and I do the same. Then I open the windows and hope the room airs out quickly! Chat Icon

But for a teacher to say it's just one child, that's wrong!

Posted 4/7/11 7:33 PM
 

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Re: What is your take on this??? Teacher related

Posted by KennysMommy

Posted by nrthshgrl

4-5th is when they start to "stink" more as puberty starts to hit. I know it because my son told me his 5th grade friend smells now & that when he gets to 5th grade, he'll have his own "manstink"Chat Icon

I think the teacher went about it the wrong way. Saying "someone stinks" makes everyone wonder who it is & could resort to some teasing.

He should've called the nurse & let her know OR address it with the health teacher. What I don't like at all is that "don't tell your parents" thing.

I would speak to the teacher about the conversation you overheard & tell him that it's completely inappropriate & remind him that you NEVER encourage children to keep things from their parents that they're uncomfortable with or upset about.



I agree!

I've had this "conversation" with my classes many times before. It happens every spring. But I have this talk with my class as a whole and never say it's one child. That's wrong.

I remind them ALL as they come in from recess the importance of showering daily and using deodorant. I never say that they "stink" but tell them that a daily shower WITH SOAP and the use of deodorant will reduce the likelihood that they will have body odor. A lot of them giggle and smell their armpits and I do the same. Then I open the windows and hope the room airs out quickly! Chat Icon

But for a teacher to say it's just one child, that's wrong!



I fully agree. I too have taught 4th grade & cannot believe the unprofessionalism this teacher displayed. It makes me angry too that s/he told the children NOT to tell their parents.

Christine, I would definitely call the school about it.

Also at that age to have the teacher phrase things like s/he did, definitely not cool. Kids are so sensitive about their changing bodies (especially at that age). Also to single out one student...wow, just wow.

Posted 4/7/11 10:04 PM
 

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Re: What is your take on this??? Teacher related

Posted by 1stimemom

Posted by nrthshgrl

4-5th is when they start to "stink" more as puberty starts to hit. I know it because my son told me his 5th grade friend smells now & that when he gets to 5th grade, he'll have his own "manstink"Chat Icon

I think the teacher went about it the wrong way. Saying "someone stinks" makes everyone wonder who it is & could resort to some teasing.

He should've called the nurse & let her know OR address it with the health teacher. What I don't like at all is that "don't tell your parents" thing.

I would speak to the teacher about the conversation you overheard & tell him that it's completely inappropriate & remind him that you NEVER encourage children to keep things from their parents that they're uncomfortable with or upset about.



100% perfectly said. ITA!



ITA! In our district the teachers have passed out mini deodorants to all the students and said it was time to make sure they had good hygiene. They would never single out a student. Also If the other students figure out who it is that child will be tortured:(
So sad that now everyone thinks they smell in your daughter's class!

Posted 4/7/11 11:48 PM
 

Elizabeth
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Re: What is your take on this??? Teacher related

Posted by nrthshgrl

What I don't like at all is that "don't tell your parents" thing.




ITA 100% - more than the discussion about someone being stinky (which should have been handled differently as well)

The idea of telling your kids not to tell their parents goes against everything we tell our kids about inappropriate situations. Not calling the teacher a molester but isn't that what molesters tell children?? One of the worst things to ever tell a child is to keep a secret from their parents. That is effed up. I'd be on the horn to a few other parents I know to confirm that their kids all heard the same thing. I'm of course not saying your DD lied but I'd want to have my facts in order before getting on the horn with the principal.

Posted 4/8/11 9:04 AM
 

ChrisDee
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Re: What is your take on this??? Teacher related

Posted by Elizabeth

Posted by nrthshgrl

What I don't like at all is that "don't tell your parents" thing.




ITA 100% - more than the discussion about someone being stinky (which should have been handled differently as well)

The idea of telling your kids not to tell their parents goes against everything we tell our kids about inappropriate situations. Not calling the teacher a molester but isn't that what molesters tell children?? One of the worst things to ever tell a child is to keep a secret from their parents. That is effed up. I'd be on the horn to a few other parents I know to confirm that their kids all heard the same thing. I'm of course not saying your DD lied but I'd want to have my facts in order before getting on the horn with the principal.



I did speak to a few parents. All were given basically the exact same story. Some parents were upset because their kids DID keep it a secret and did not tell them until the parents questioned them on it. From what I was told at least one person(if not more) complained to the school.

Posted 4/8/11 10:24 AM
 

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Re: What is your take on this??? Teacher related

Maybe I don't trust people but... what if teacher said "don't tell your parents" to see who wouldn't tell their parents so teacher could do something "inappropriate" later?

Posted 4/8/11 1:06 PM
 

PennyCat
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Re: What is your take on this??? Teacher related

Crashing, but I am a teacher in a middle school so I deal with this issue often.

I have made very general comments to my students about good hygiene. I even use myself as an example and tell them that I take a shower and wear deodorant everyday because it makes me feel good to be clean. I would NEVER single out a kid, that sounds terrible! I'm sure they will figure out which kid it is, that's so embarrassing!

Posted 4/8/11 5:11 PM
 

browneyedgirl
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Re: What is your take on this??? Teacher related

Posted by KennysMommy

Posted by nrthshgrl

4-5th is when they start to "stink" more as puberty starts to hit. I know it because my son told me his 5th grade friend smells now & that when he gets to 5th grade, he'll have his own "manstink"Chat Icon

I think the teacher went about it the wrong way. Saying "someone stinks" makes everyone wonder who it is & could resort to some teasing.

He should've called the nurse & let her know OR address it with the health teacher. What I don't like at all is that "don't tell your parents" thing.

I would speak to the teacher about the conversation you overheard & tell him that it's completely inappropriate & remind him that you NEVER encourage children to keep things from their parents that they're uncomfortable with or upset about.



I agree!

I've had this "conversation" with my classes many times before. It happens every spring. But I have this talk with my class as a whole and never say it's one child. That's wrong.

I remind them ALL as they come in from recess the importance of showering daily and using deodorant. I never say that they "stink" but tell them that a daily shower WITH SOAP and the use of deodorant will reduce the likelihood that they will have body odor. A lot of them giggle and smell their armpits and I do the same. Then I open the windows and hope the room airs out quickly! Chat Icon

But for a teacher to say it's just one child, that's wrong!



i used to have this conversation when i taught 4th grade as well. it can get pretty stinky especially after recess.

it was wrong of the teacher to tell the kids to not tell their parents and to single one kid out. but i'll say it again, like i've said many times on here, confront and ask the teacher BEFORE calling the school. if nothing happens, THEN call the office. but call the teacher first--don't go over his head to people who know nothing about the incident.

Posted 4/9/11 7:31 AM
 
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