UPDATE: D&C tomorrow: Had 1st appt...may be miscarrying...I go back in 2 weeks. Unsure what to think.

Hi girls - I wasn't sure where to post this but I figured this board would be of most help.

I had my 1st appt yesterday at what I believed was 7w, 4d. This is my 2nd pregnancy - I have a 15 mo old DD.
First thing the doctor said when he did the ultrasound was "congratulations, you are pregnant"...I saw the sac. He then asked me if I have long cycles so I told him about this cycle and told him what day I ovulated on. He then said it was too soon to see/hear a heartbeat - that's when my heart sank. The sac looked empty to me - I can see on the pic I brought home a small dot inside but that's all. I'm now comparing it to the sonogram pic from my DD at around the same time...there is a huge difference in size. My dr. said my timing/dates could be off so he'd like to see me back in 1-2 weeks...he told me if I could hold out closer to 2 weeks it would be better b/c hopefully we'd see more of a change.
He said I was measuring at 6 weeks but from the dates I gave him I should be closer to 8. Just from the difference from DD's sonogram pic to this one - I am having really bad feelings. I just did lots of googling and searching on here and I wonder if it will be a missed miscarriage. I feel pregnant - I POAS when I got home yesterday and it was still a BFP (which I know you can still see with a miscarriage). My boobs have grown, I've gained weight and totally feel pregnant...my exhaustion just set in this week - I'm feeling almost identical as I did with my 1st pregnancy. So that's why I was shocked and just so unsure.
I guess in my heart I hope my dr. is right and maybe my dates are off...but my mind tells me otherwise since I used ovulation sticks.

I do believe things happen for a reason but I guess you never believe this will happen to you. I know it's happened to so many of my friends and family - I think the shock for me is that I feel 100% pregnant.

I'm obviously thinking the worst...can't stop thinking about it and not sure how I will last 2 weeks til my next appt.

Just wanted to share and see what you think...
TIA!

ETA UPDATE: Hi girls...thanks for all the good thoughts. I did in fact have a miscarriage. There was no change at all on my sonogram this week. I am having a D&C tomorrow. Hope you have room for 1 more on this board
My doctor already told me he recommends waiting 2 full cycles before trying again. I am doing ok - just want to have this taken care of tomorrow and move on from there.
Nice to know this board exists though - the support has already been great I am sure it will continue to be in the coming weeks/months.
Thanks again.

Message edited 9/29/2011 10:03:16 PM.

Re: Had 1st appt...may be miscarrying...I go back in 2 weeks. Unsure what to think.

I sooo understand how you feel. Im so sorry our having doubts and its so normal to feel anxious, nervous and excited all at the sametime... Im sending your way. Hang in there there is still hope.

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i'm so sorry you have to go through this... i can only imagine this waiting around for a week or two to be torture part of me wants to tell you not to lose hope... part of me wants to say hope for the best/expect the worst... this is a really tough situation and i wish i knew the right thing to say. all i can do is and let you know we are here for you, whatever you wind up going through.

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Thanks so much ladies.
It's funny how I don't turn to my friends first - I came here first b/c I know the support on these boards is always so amazing.
I can't stop staring at the sonogram pic of what looks like an empty sac to me...I am definitely preparing for the worst and keep telling myself it would not have been a healthy baby. But at the same time I feel bad giving up hope so easily...so I will do as you say and pray for the best but prepare for the worst. It's all I can do at this point.
I still feel pregnant - I did read on here from people who had missed miscarriages (I never heard of that term until I started googling and looking on here after my appt) that their pregnancy symptoms eventually did go away. So that is something I'll be looking for before I go back for my appt.

Thanks again.

Re: Had 1st appt...may be miscarrying...I go back in 2 weeks. Unsure what to think.

I miscarried with no symptoms of it, and felt pregnant until maybe close to a week after my d&c. The rise in hcg is what makes you feel pregnant and it takes a while before that goes down. I definitely understand about you not wanting to give up hope on this baby too easily. I would feel the same way. **hugs**

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Re: Had 1st appt...may be miscarrying...I go back in 2 weeks. Unsure what to think.

I'm so sorry you're going through this. My only advice is to keep positive and every pregnancy is different, so just because this sono looks different from your other child, don't give up hope.
I'll be thinking about you and hoping for the best.

Message edited 9/18/2011 3:07:00 PM.

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Posted by StaceyWill

I'm so sorry you're going through this. My only advice is to keep positive and every pregnancy is different, so just because this sono looks different from your other child, don't give up hope.
I'll be thinking about you and hoping for the best.

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I would definately try to keep positive. I had a miscarraige last month and I only knew I was pregnant for 4 days. My symptoms started to subside when I started bleeding. I definately felt pregnant for those 4 days and knew I felt different after. But I was talking to my sister yesterday and she told me that next time I get pregnant, I need to calm down and not worry...bc I was a worry wart and maybe in my mind, I knew something was wrong. But I have never been pregnant so I didn't know if what I was feeling was normal.
I am now 2 days late with my period and my boobs are so sore but have no other symptoms. And keep getting a BFN on HPT... So I am trying not to worry and think about it.
I hope you can relax and make it through the next 2 weeks.

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thanks!
i have been trying not to worry or even think about it too much.
My appt is Wed morning at 8:30...I will update after that.
Thanks again girls!

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Re: UPDATE: D&C tomorrow: Had 1st appt...may be miscarrying...I go back in 2 weeks. Unsure what to think.

bump for update

Re: UPDATE: D&C tomorrow: Had 1st appt...may be miscarrying...I go back in 2 weeks. Unsure what to think.

im so so sorry... i was hoping to get a good update... these boards have been on a downward spiral the last week or so!!!!

Re: UPDATE: D&C tomorrow: Had 1st appt...may be miscarrying...I go back in 2 weeks. Unsure what to think.

If need anyone to talk with, fm me. I'm truly sorry. Seems to have beeb alot of us this week.

Re: UPDATE: D&C tomorrow: Had 1st appt...may be miscarrying...I go back in 2 weeks. Unsure what to think.

Oh nooooo!! I'm so sorry!!!

Re: UPDATE: D&C tomorrow: Had 1st appt...may be miscarrying...I go back in 2 weeks. Unsure what to think.

I'm so sorry.

Re: UPDATE: D&C tomorrow: Had 1st appt...may be miscarrying...I go back in 2 weeks. Unsure what to think.

I am so sorry!

Re: UPDATE: D&C tomorrow: Had 1st appt...may be miscarrying...I go back in 2 weeks. Unsure what to think.

thanks girls.
so far I'm doing really ok. I almost feel guilty that I am feeling so ok mentally...like I should be more sad or feel worse. I just know miscarriages happen for a reason so that's what I keep thinking...that something was wrong and better to know now. I also think having my 15 mo old DD to hug and take my mind off things is really helping. My friend warned me about the crazy hormones over the next few weeks so I'm wondering if with time I'll be more sad. But for now I am doing really ok. The D&C went well - I had it at Winthrop and I was just so impressed with all the nurses and everyone there...they were all so sweet and nice and made me feel so comfortable.
Thanks for all the support - it means a lot!